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Do you generally talk to your partner while dancing?

I think I should, to be polite and because I am there for social reasons as well as dancing. However, the moment I start talking about anything that requires the slightest bit of thinking, my dancing rduces to beat-bashing simpler moves. The more I talk, the simpler and more repeating they get.

I am starting to think that my urge to talk (and appear polite?) may be preventing me from leading better dances.

Do follows find it strange to be asked to dance by an almost silent lead?

MrB wrote:g. However, the moment I start talking about anything that requires the slightest bit of thinking, my dancing rduces to beat-bashing simpler moves. ?

The music IS the conversation
listen to music, save the chat for later

I tend to sing out load whilst dancing, if I get really carried away I tend to end up licking my partner. Only people I know really well tho.

DTS XXX XXX

I always talk....but I can talk and do anything at the same time so my following never suffers, but i'm not sure the same can be said for the lead . I find it strange dancing in silence, I get the urge to break it with...any form of communication, I'll talk about anything from casual chit chat to commenting on the move the guy just did (as in...nice move!)...i find it really hard to be quiet. But I agree sometimes it ruins things, because I find myself saying something like "Oh i wasnt really sure how that move was supposed to go then" or "I dont know how to do that lean" and then man has to put on his lesson cap and talk me through it. Probably would have been more enjoyable if i had just been quiet. But I do find silence very uncomfortable, unless i like the song and am too busy singing along to it in my head.

Oh and I just remembered:
we could pretend that it's regency times, and the only chance we have of interactig and flirting with the opposite sex is when taking part in a dance! I really don't mind an attractive man talking to me while dancing lol...

I hate talking whilst dancing as I can’t hear a thing that’s being said… why oh why do men spin me and then chat away I can’t hear a thing

If you want to talk to me do it
a) off the dancefloor
b) in a close hold
c) in a sway

as they are the only times I can hear you. My hearing isn’t too good, and what with the music blaring out, I can’t understand you… and it doesn't seem to matter how often I tell them, they still spin me and chat

I hate to think what I’ve agreed to whilst dancing, as after a while I tend to give up and nod and smile politely whilst not having a clue as to what they’re wittering on about…

Twirly wrote:I hate to think what I’ve agreed to whilst dancing whilst not having a clue as to what they’re wittering on about…

I hate to think what you've agreed to too !!

Which reminds me.. there was an answering machine message for you last night from someone called Sheik Mabootie saying his harem was ready for you and your visa had been approved?? any idea what that's about??

Twirly wrote:I hate talking whilst dancing as I can’t hear a thing that’s being said

that sums it up! if i have to add conversation to everything else required to dance nicely - the wheels come off!!

I, like DTS, like to sing - sadly, i rarely know the right words... or key... or tune

a typical dance conversation...

"bla bla blah..."
"sorry - i didn't catch that"
"PARDON??"
"OW my foot!"

and so on...

MrB wrote:Do you generally talk to your partner while dancing?

I think I should, to be polite and because I am there for social reasons as well as dancing. However, the moment I start talking about anything that requires the slightest bit of thinking, my dancing rduces to beat-bashing simpler moves. The more I talk, the simpler and more repeating they get.

I am starting to think that my urge to talk (and appear polite?) may be preventing me from leading better dances.

firstly welcome to the forum mrb

i almost always chat while dancing normally daft stuff like how long you been dancing looking at my watch etc as unlike the magnificent and deceptively tall tall DTS i cant sing ( i am not welsh you see boyo) oh and i can vouch for the licking that dts does lee bartholomew has washed his head three times since storm and its still sticky ( aledgedly )
I find most follows seem to like to chat but it really depends on the music which determines the mood of the dance
I find i lead a bit like a drive my car (badly and not thinking too much what i am doing) so i have to redirect the attention of the follow somehow that way when we have finished the dance they have no idea what has gone on and they think i am an ok dancer

I can certainly vouch for DTS as well. I'm sure I've heard his dulcet tones over the music from the other side of the hall! Of course, the best thing he does is his own personal soundtrack when he's taxi-ing.

As for myself, I don't usually talk while dancing unless it's with a friend.

Mind you, there's one person that I may talk to a lot tonight while dancing...

do I talk while dancing










just a bit

I go to dance. There is virtually no non-dancing socialising time. When I do talk it is usually during a basket walkaround, mambo steps, or a walk.

If I'm dancing with someone I haven't had a chance to talk to for a while I'll maybe chat for a bit, then concentrate on the dancing. If the chat goes on too much, I might ask for a second dance and not talk through it.

And yeah, like everyone else, my dancing does tend to get a little simpler while I'm talking, but that's only natural.

The best dances are silent except for the music.

I don't. If nothing else, because when I get lost in a dance, I sometimes forget how.

Some guys obviously go to ceroc to chat, some to dance.
In my experience / humble opinion, the ones who chat a lot, don't tend to dance 'to' the music or have as many unusual moves (not that that's the b-all or end-all).

I don't have a problem with guys not talking - it's not my main reason for dancing I'd much rather feel they were concentrating on their dancing than on their conversation - they can always talk to me when I'm not on the floor

You can probably tell as much about a person who just dances as about a person who talks and dances...

The odd snippet of conversation is okay but what springs to mind is one guy in particular who talks absolutely non stop about nothing and I have to say it ruins the dance for me. If we want to chat I would much rather wait until the end of track and move to the side of the dance floor.

It depends on who, when, how and where.

I don't have a 'fixed' point of view

Sometimes I chat..

Sometimes I sing..

Sometimes I laugh and make jokes

and Sometimes I close my eyes and have a passionate 3 minute affair

unlike DTS though, I rarely lick my partner although, if the moment took me.... ?

dave the scaffolder wrote:I tend to sing out load whilst dancing, if I get really carried away I tend to end up licking my partner. Only people I know really well tho.

DTS XXX XXX

Lory wrote:I don't have a 'fixed' point of view

Sometimes I chat..

Sometimes I sing..

Sometimes I laugh and make jokes

and Sometimes I close my eyes and have a passionate 3 minute affair

unlike DTS though, I rarely lick my partner although, if the moment took me.... ?

I agree with Lory... I do have a tendency to try to lick people tho

Twirly wrote:I hate talking whilst dancing as I can’t hear a thing that’s being said… why oh why do men spin me and then chat away I can’t hear a thing

If you want to talk to me do it
a) off the dancefloor
b) in a close hold
c) in a sway

as they are the only times I can hear you. My hearing isn’t too good, and what with the music blaring out, I can’t understand you… and it doesn't seem to matter how often I tell them, they still spin me and chat

I hate to think what I’ve agreed to whilst dancing, as after a while I tend to give up and nod and smile politely whilst not having a clue as to what they’re wittering on about…

Totally with Twirly on this one. I can't hear what the lead is saying (trouble hearing some normal speach frequencies), and end up just smiling. This gets me some strange looks when they are expecting an answer...
Please, lets dance, and save the chat for afterwards!

ducasi wrote:
The best dances are silent except for the music.