can I just add a to that?
If I had "my eye on someone" they would be in no doubt of my intentions. Ok I may pussyfoot around at the beginning , testing the waters etc but even then before anything was said they recipient of my attentions should have a fair idea of my intentions.
I certainly wouldn't forget to text or call .. in fact if anthing if I was to be seperated for any length of time from the person of my desires then I would probably be more guilty of over communicating than under communicating.
as for "clutching at straws" .. you know us men suffer from that as well.
I refer you to the Manual for Interpersonal Relationships that is more usually known as 'When Harry met Sally'.
Any time a guy asks a girl to any function, he's either got designs on her (though they may be purely physical) or he's already "nailed" her but wants her as a smokescreen because he has designs on someone else.
So, ask 1 question: have I slept with him?
Answer 'Yes' - he's after someone else.
Answer 'No' - he's after me.
Whether the guy has the stones to make a move is a turtley different question...
"texts/calls" is incorrectly pluralised when in this case it should be singular.
Anyway, yes, I did that once back in uni. Took me a month to figure out that I actually fancied some girl, and a month after that to do anything about it. Though when I did I was more direct than this guy. I like direct.
It's obviously not earth-shattering romantic love for him (yet), and he's probably not a great catch. If you've not been on a date for a couple of years, you might want to go by way of practice, and demonstrating to random other guys you know that you're "on the market".
Hi Katie
If you really want to go, then I'd take a couple of your mates with you. Tell him that's what you're going to do as it will make you feel better having people there that you actually know. Having only met him twice, you don't know him well, so, he has to understand where you're coming from. If he has a problem you bringing a couple of mates around, then he's very odd and you must tell him where to go.
Katie have a look at a book I am now becoming boring about but it really does answer questions like the one you had. The book is called He just isn't that into you and is a male perspective on relationships. It's hilariously funny but also quite applicable to many situations us women find ourselves in. If men want a relationship with you then they make it obvious and two months later just doesn't cut it. I often use my best friend for his male perspective on relationships and unfortunatley most of the time his answer is 'he just isn't that into you'. Women tend to go for the benefit of the doubt approach over men whereas according to them it's a lot more simple
LOL. My mum bought it to give to one of us for Christmas a year or so ago (I have 2 sisters) but she chickened out and gave it to all of us afterwards- she said she didn't want to give us the impression that she thought we needed help!! (and didn't want to give it to just one of us for that reason either).
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