Guys, do you ask ladies to dance?

[Lory]

I thought I'd redress the balance and see what the guys answers are

[TA Guy]

LOL. Yes.

[under par]

I always ask ladies to dance if I have not already asked by a lady.

Most venues where forumites gather I try to dance with all the forum ladies (and a few forum men) as well as trying to dance with all the ladies adjacent to where we are sat/stood.

It is very difficult some evenings to get away from that area of the hall especially as i have to reurn to that area for my towell and fresh shirts regularly.

Only on a few occasion pre competition do I avoid dancing with lots of ladies but then I generally dance mor locally.

I love the longer freestyles because it allows me to dance with so many more people and I don't leave the venue apologising to al and sundry for not dancing.

In response to Lory's post.

Lory, please please don't stop asking all the men it will surely be you and your dancing that will suffer.

For some men it is very difficult to get off the floor never mind circulate round the room.

I love dancing with you and would be sad if we didn't grab every opportunity to dance.

[Andreas]

I do indeed get sometimes the chance to ask for a dance.

[killingtime]

I was tempted to put I find it easier to ask other men for a laugh, but I don't really.

I put Often as pretty much I'll do the asking when I'm able (that is I won't sit it out instead) though at larger events I might sit it out as more of a way of pacing. Most of the time, on a busy night anyway, I don't get a huge amount of chance to do the asking.

[Zuhal]

Just a thought to add to the anonimity aspect.

Read the following reply from someone anonymous.

'Ladies' sure I ask them, but then I also ask all the trollops, slatterns and rough types as long as they can dance. Even those who pretend to be Nice Girls.



and now from someone you all know as a Luvvie

'Ladies' sure I ask them, but then I also ask all the trollops, slatterns and rough types as long as they can dance. Even those who pretend to be Nice Girls.

Zuhal

[robd]

Most venues where forumites gather I try to dance with all the forum ladies (and a few forum men) as well as trying to dance with all the ladies adjacent to where we are sat/stood.

It is very difficult some evenings to get away from that area of the hall especially as i have to reurn to that area for my towell and fresh shirts regularly.

Good post U.P and a particular to the quoted part. What I do sometimes do is leave my bag where the group are sitting and then just go to the other side of the hall to ask people who I don't know or don't recall dancing with previously. As you say, you end up gravitating back to that area for a drink, etc so being quite decisive in getting away initially can be helpful. This is not to say it's not good fun dancing with forum ladies - of course it is and some of them I'd like to dance with all night long - but it is easy to ghettoise yourself in this way.

I'm really looking forward to Southport for the chance to dance with ladies from Scotland and the North which are both areas I haven't had much experience of. But I know I also will not want to neglect friends from the forum and ladies local to me here. I'll just have to dance all night long

[Kev F]

Most venues where forumites gather I try to dance with all the forum ladies (and a few forum men) as well as trying to dance with all the ladies adjacent to where we are sat/stood.

Are you becoming a hot-shot Mr UP....since you haven't asked me since Camber

Is it the way i do my hair now?? At least tell me what's changed, so I can try and make things right between us! I try and make eye contact, but you just casually look the other way!

[Cruella]

I try and make eye contact,

Really I'm offended, are his eyes nicer than mine then

[Dazzler]

I can honestly say that i ask as many women as i can to dance wherever i am I enjoy all my dances sometimes for different reasons but on the whole its just cos i like to dance!...HOWEVER....if i happen to miss anyone out at the comp this weekend please approach me as i feel that i never get approached by women i always seem to be asking people yet i seldom get an invite from another!.

[under par]

Are you becoming a hot-shot Mr UP....since you haven't asked me since Camber

Is it the way i do my hair now?? At least tell me what's changed, so I can try and make things right between us! I try and make eye contact, but you just casually look the other way!

Kev I have seen you occasionally but you always seem to be gazing into anothers eyes,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,lucky fella!

[bigdjiver]

I answered "All of the time", but probably twice a year I subject myself to s reality check and have an unannounced "ladies invitation night." It does put me thoroughly in my place, and it does make me sympathise with the unfortunate excess ladies who have to wait and hope. It also gives me a chance to look around and register a lot of things that I am aware of in my usual frantic state, including picking up tips from other leaders.

[quiet_flame]

I usually chase people down for a dance.
I tend to try and pick the girls who are deliberately hiding 20ft back from the dance floor looking scared...

But I will also try and dance with all my regular partners as well.
Depends on how alive I am, and if I'm teaching that night or not.

[spindr]

I usually chase people down for a dance.

Same here.

One tip: if you change your shirt to a different colour during the evening you may find that they don't run away so quickly when you go looking for to ask them again

SpinDr

[Andreas]

I usually chase people down for a dance.

I hardly ever 'chase' because the people I want to dance with I either don't need to chase because they are just there or the find me And other than that, I just walk along the floor and pick whoever stands there.

[bigdjiver]

I usually chase people down for a dance.
I tend to try and pick the girls who are deliberately hiding 20ft back from the dance floor looking scared...

i do that too, though it does occur to me that sometimes I might be the reason that they are looking scared ...

[fletch]

I hardly ever 'chase' because the people I want to dance with I either don't need to chase because they are just there or the find me And other than that, I just walk along the floor and pick whoever stands there.

I whish I could find you just walking along so I could grab you, it would sace me 'chasing' you


What a dancer

[Andreas]

I whish I could find you just walking along so I could grab you, it would sace me 'chasing' you

Don't be silly.


CAT FIGHT!!

[Gadget]

I answered "all the time", but thinking a bit more, it's not really true: I ask if no-one asks me first. So that's probably "often" rather than "all the time".

[quiet_flame]

i do that too, though it does occur to me that sometimes I might be the reason that they are looking scared ...

I agree... my least favourite (but most common request)... please go easy I haven't been dancing long/ this is my first/second night... I've only been dancing a short time etc.

To which I reply "you'll be fine"

I find myself pulling them up onto the floor becuase
a) I want to dance with someone different
b) I want them to enjoy dance as much as I do
c) I know the fear, I used to have it, and found the best way to overcome it was to (believe it or not) Just dance!