How to surprise a lady

[Andreas]

But I have been told several times that it can feel like the man is just trying to catch the lady out. To me this implies that I'm trying too hard.

Haha, don't I know that one

Although, to me it is not so much trying too hard rather than the girls feeling they can't cruise and have to be aler at all times.

Personally I can't care less .. well, within reason, obviously. But if a lady wants to cruise and expects me to make an effort then there is something wrong

I guess what that means is that you don't necessarily have to try to surprise your partner for her to feel surprised. It could be in the nature of the style?

[DianaS]

Yeah but Diana - are you surprised?

I know I'm not

hmmmm
No

[TheTramp]

Yeah but Diana - are you surprised?

I know I'm not

Love you too ZW.

And nope. No Nantwich. Rather a long way to go. Might be in Glasgow though, if you fancy a trip for a change

[MartinHarper]

From elsewhere:

A friend of mine commented that she found it "challenging" to dance with me, because she had to keep concentrating.
To which the only possible reply at the time was: "Oh, so you end up sleeping, with all your other partners?"

[DianaS]

Love you too ZW.

And nope. No Nantwich. Rather a long way to go. Might be in Glasgow though, if you fancy a trip for a change

Sorry Steve,
Too much homework, plus dance guests for the weekend!

[Daisy Chain]

Flowers??

You called?


Daisy

[Clive Long]

Turning up on time for a date

Clive

[Daisy Chain]

Turning up on time for a date

Clive

Just turning up would be a start...

[Clive Long]

Just turning up would be a start...

My reputation precedes. Diary mangement has become an issue in this PDA-organiser world

[Feelingpink]

I was dancing a fair slinky track last night with one of my regular partners and he ran his fingernails (lightly) down the length of my arm. Ooooo! I see him in a whole different light now!

[Petal]

/Well, I make it my mission to catch my partner out as much as possible (just to check who is really leading ). Of course, this does not apply to Beginners, where too many surprises can be counter productive

Franck.

Yes i have noticed this when we dance, but it's still "fun!".

[drathzel]

Well, I make it my mission to catch my partner out as much as possible (just to check who is really leading ). Of course, this does not apply to Beginners, where too many surprises can be counter productive

Franck.

Does this still make me a beginner? I never notice!!!

[drathzel]

I am rather fond of this move, too: particularly with novice-ish dancers that are not beginners but don't seem at ease with comb (you regrettably notice as you are on your way there... )

REALLY?????

[bigdjiver]

A "litmus" move that I use to see what new intermediate ladies reactions are to "surprises" is to start as in a catapult, but duck quickly under our right arms stepping backwards. I then spin her from behind using shoulder and hip. Reactions vary from a smile (often) to (rarely) outright panic. If I do not get the smile, I dance conservatively.

[ElaineB]

A "litmus" move that I use to see what new intermediate ladies reactions are to "surprises" is to start as in a catapult, but duck quickly under our right arms stepping backwards. I then spin her from behind using shoulder and hip. Reactions vary from a smile (often) to (rarely) outright panic. If I do not get the smile, I dance conservatively.

I HATE THE DUCK UNDER, I HATE THE DUCK UNDER!!!!!!! Arm pit hair, sweat and men who are less than 5 feet 8 (my height in heels!), will definitely get a grimance from me!

Now, try to put me into ocho's or something where I can show off a bit and I'm ya girl!


Elaine

[bigdjiver]

I HATE THE DUCK UNDER, I HATE THE DUCK UNDER!!!!!!! Arm pit hair, sweat and men who are less than 5 feet 8 (my height in heels!), will definitely get a grimance from me!

Now, try to put me into ocho's or something where I can show off a bit and I'm ya girl!


Elaine

There is the lady duck under - which I do not lead, and there is the man duck under, which I use lots.

.. start as in a catapult, but duck quickly under our right arms stepping backwards.

it is the guy ducking under the arms. It is the lady, usually recently out of the beginner stage, who is standing erect thinking "where did he go?". It is just another move for the experienced.

[MartinHarper]

I HATE THE DUCK UNDER, I HATE THE DUCK UNDER!!!!!!! Arm pit hair, sweat and men who are less than 5 feet 8 (my height in heels!), will definitely get a grimance from me!

Hmm.
I'm not sure I'm capable of leading an entire MJ dance without any underarm turns for the lady, of one sort or another. Maybe if I was a better dancer I could cope.

*shrug* You'll have to lead then.

[David Bailey]

I generally find that a salsa cross-body lead (to ceroc timing, of course) tends to do the trick, surprise-wise. Simple but effective. Also sorts out the good followers, so allows me to judge the level of my partner for the rest of the dance and alter my style / moves appropriately. And I like the move

[Will]

I generally find that a salsa cross-body lead (to ceroc timing, of course) tends to do the trick, surprise-wise. Simple but effective. Also sorts out the good followers, so allows me to judge the level of my partner for the rest of the dance and alter my style / moves appropriately. And I like the move

[CJ]

I generally find that a salsa cross-body lead (to ceroc timing, of course) tends to do the trick, surprise-wise. Simple but effective. Also sorts out the good followers, so allows me to judge the level of my partner for the rest of the dance and alter my style / moves appropriately. And I like the move

Couldn't resist....

Oh, and DJ,

Welcome!!