Okie. I know I'm not a girl, and in most cases it is the girls who have this to worry about, rather than the guys (although, I do have this really nasty story that I'm not posting on here). But this is the advice I always offer.....
If you really do not like dancing with a guy. For whatever reason. Then DON'T. Say no. You're not turning them down just on a whim, you're turning them down for a good reason. After all, you're paying your money to enjoy yourself!!
The guy who is unwantedly sleazy with you Sheena, is also quite probably doing the same to every other girl in the room. And while it won't affect you that badly, he then does it to the girl who is at the dance for her first time. And she doesn't come back, just because of him.
Not only would I suggest that you say no, I would also suggest that you talk to some of the other ladies, and if it's not just you, but the other ladies feel the same way, then you should talk to the person running the night.
It might just be that he doesn't realise that just because one person (who you usually know and trust) can do that move with you, that he doesn't have the right to then do it too (this applies to drops and lifts too), and a quiet word (which should be done by the person running the night) will save all the hassles. Or he might just be nastily sleazy, in which case the organiser needs to be made aware so that he can be asked to leave. There really isn't room for that sort of thing at dances.
Steve
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