Yes, the end justifies the means. No gain without shame.
No, nay, never.
I did in the past but I don't any more.
No but I do run across the floor to get away from certain people
I find it really annoying when someone runs across the dance floor to get me, especially when a really good track comes on that I always dance with a cirtain person, they usually find that they don't get a good dance off me when people do that, cos I'm too busy thinking "I wish I was dancing with ... to this"
To me, if you see someone walking across a dance floor (well actually round the edge of the dance floor, etiquet people!!) with a purpose then you leave them to it and get them when they're either sat down or just stood about chatting..
But why the running? Surely to get a dance with someone that is already dancing, you just stand near them waiting for a dance, as I've done before, or just dance close to them then ask them.. I really don't apreciate people running up and litterally grabbing me when I'm on my way to get someone up.
My tactic used to be bounce up and say "Pick me, pick me " ... but now I just sit at home and study and hear all about dance camp antics from Mr Darcy (I tried not to bounce whist dancing though!)
Yes, catch you later is better than promising the next dance I think. I've been left hanging for ages by people who promised the next dance and didn't make it, which is even worse than being refused in the first place...
Now, if someone refuses, whatever the reason, I don't wait, and I don't ask again. I figure it's their turn next!
Patrick
Last edited by Patrick; 30th-October-2006 at 06:36 AM.
Just realised I don't always do this. There was someone I really wanted to dance with tonight, took the chance to ask her 3 or 4 times before getting a yes. (scary, each time it gets harder to ask again) . Even then she was actually waiting for someone else. I wasn't disappointed :bliss: She is very popular for good reason.
In this case, she never promised the next dance, she said yes, I want to dance with you later.
I returned the favour by guiding us over to the person she really wanted to dance with
I think she did want to dance with me, but if I hadn't kept trying, I don't think she would have had chance to get back to me this time (and I'd been waiting 3 months already!)
Last edited by Patrick; 30th-October-2006 at 07:01 AM.
Heck you are thick. I honestly admire your persistence, I'd have given up after second time latest. Turning a person down three times in a night is just plain rude and should be rewarded with a kick in the backside. Either you tell the person that you don't want to dance with them or you make the effort of dancing. :insertshakesheadindisbelieficonhere:
There are some people that I don't even ask once!!
Like I said, that is normally my rule too, but...
Thank you for your admiration! Yes it does take a foolhardy kind of courage to keep on. Ages ago one lady turned me down 3 times in one night, and then again at a subsequent freestyle. Safe to say I will never ask her again! On Sunday I knew the lady was happy to dance with me if she could get away, except there was a continuous queue of pushier hotter shotters always ahead of me, of which you were probably one I seem to remember! (Sunday T-jive?) This is the problem, you can't actually guarantee to dance with someone later, one or both of you is liable to be hijacked after each subsequent dance. And I knew I was pretty low down in the priority list.
If she hadn't squeezed me in I would have been more than a little deflated. As it was I had my best dance of the night, well ever really
Conversely, there was another outstanding dancer who's partner more or less set me up for a dance when I told him she had refused me before (and then danced with him!) I still didn't dare ask, to get turned down again in such circumstances would be even more embarrassing. I will probably never ask her again.
Last edited by Patrick; 31st-October-2006 at 02:34 AM.
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