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  • Lots of different moves

    11 16.18%
  • Simple moves, but well led

    33 48.53%
  • Musical Interpretation

    60 88.24%
  • Chance to improvise

    23 33.82%
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    Originally posted by ChrisA
    Just the ones that don't need it, probably

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    Well I'd be interested, so thank you, I guess

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    Originally posted by DangerousCurves

    This lead to a discussion between me and some friends about how useful it would be to have a "gents' lead class" to make chaps more aware of simple things like that, which make the difference between a lovely dance and an experience more like tag-team wrestling! Just not sure how many chaps would be interested.....?

    .... I totally agree!! ... Had I had the opportunity to pick up some lead/follow tips and practice, it may well have taken me less than about the 5 years to become a confident (competent?) lead. Natural 'leads' (those generally with a more outgoing nature) might not benefit so much from this. Natural 'follows' certainly would. Conversely, natural 'lead' ladies might also find it useful.

    Best way (imho) to pick it up is to do both lead and follow .... with a number of partners, seeing what/who does/doesn't work. As lead/follow depends as much on partnerships as it does on technique and method.

    In fact, lead/follow does not even need music (though any would help create a framework) ... and (I believe) strike parallels with personal leadership/following which we do every do of our lives!!!

    I've only ever had on teacher go through lead and follow with swapping roles and partners. This was with argentine (not ballroom) tango .

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    Originally posted by Jayne
    I was also impressed that there wasn't a reference to sex in there - surely this should happen at least once in three minutes!
    David did preface that with 'what he should be thinking about' ! But an excellent observation Jayne none-the-less

    For the gents out there... I voted for musical interpretation alone. Probably the hardest of all for guys to do. However, it is what I am really hoping for in a dance.

    It does cover all the other options too though really. It encompasses any type of moves, simple or difficult, it won't work unless it is led well (I don't need anyone's permission to do my own thing within the realms of what has been led), and it means the guy is interested in dancing with me, he doesn't have time to look around for the next dancer, nor is there enough time to think about anything but what is going on right there in that moment.

    Total immersion, lost in the music and the connection with another soul. Gotta love it!

    How demanding of me hey?? Bet you guys are glad I'm not around now knowing that I expect so much...

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    How demanding of me hey?? Bet you guys are glad I'm not around now knowing that I expect so much...
    Well that's definitely not true
    I think a lady that demands alot in her dance gives the lead an incentive , to be really creative and have a good time.

    So Debs ..are you back anytime soon?

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    Originally posted by Groovy Dancer
    and have a good time.

    Groovy Dancer, Am i allowed to say, I like it when we have our sing-a- longs?
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    Originally posted by Stuart M
    However, I can't think of good ways to surprise partners,
    Stuart.... you're always surprising and a pleasure to dance with

    Linda

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    Originally posted by filthycute
    Who is this man???......Franck, could you point him out to me the next time you see him??

    filthycute x x
    Now Melanie!! It's Franck of course

    Linda

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    Originally posted by Lory
    Groovy Dancer, Am i allowed to say, I like it when we have our sing-a- longs?

    I look forward to our next sing-song
    and you can choose the tune too

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    Originally posted by Stuart M
    However, I can't think of good ways to surprise partners,
    Originally posted by linda
    Stuart.... you're always surprising and a pleasure to dance with

    Linda
    Aw, c'mon linda, I said that 2 years ago (exactly 2 years ago funnily enough)!

    Like, I've managed to think of, emm, at least 3 ways to surprise partners since then - and not all of them involve legwear (gets obligatory trouser gag out the way)

    Besides I can't always be surprising, cos then I'd never be surprising if you see what I mean

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    Originally posted by Groovy Dancer
    I look forward to our next sing-song
    and you can choose the tune too
    Lets get LOUD?
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    Originally posted by Lory
    Lets get LOUD?
    Hey Ya!!

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    Originally posted by Groovy Dancer
    Hey Ya!!
    So, you wanna' be startin' something?

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    Originally posted by David Franklin
    So, you wanna' be startin' something?

    Got to 'be starting' something!

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    Originally posted by Groovy Dancer
    Got to 'be starting' something!
    Nice picture...........couldn't see the crown though........

    (scurries off in obediant non-regal mode)

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    Originally posted by Groovy Dancer
    Got to 'be starting' something!
    Isn't this a lyric from M jackson???


    Nice photo groovy!!!

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    Originally posted by under par
    Isn't this a lyric from M jackson???


    Nice photo groovy!!!
    I would just like to confess to Mr Par that while he was in here rabbiting away I was out with his wife dancing in Hove - and we both loved it

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    Originally posted by Andy McGregor
    I would just like to confess to Mr Par that while he was in here rabbiting away I was out with his wife dancing in Hove - and we both loved it
    Wish I could have been there Andy but the call of duty means I occasionally have to miss out on these big nights.

    Mrs Par said she had a great time, didn't mention you though!!!

    please pass to Sue

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    Originally posted by under par
    Mrs Par said she had a great time, didn't mention you though!!!
    She knows you're a sensitive flower Our wives know we don't like to hear we're second best

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    As a beginner -

    I like:

    Someone smiling when they ask me to dance.
    Someone who leads gently, even when my following is rubbish - just because I get it wrong doesn't mean you need to heave and haul me through moves - give me a chance !
    Someone who smiles during the dance and makes face contact ....
    (I have a friend who dances who is just so shy he can't possibly look a lady in the eye when he is leading her - I've told him that he MUST at least look at her face - even if he can't make eye-contact - otherwise it's like dancing with someone who is just using you as a prop to their own dance)
    Someone who will use slightly unfamilliar moves with me to try and vary the dance (I've never been taught the hatchback, but a few men have led it successfully with me).
    Someone who can see when I am horrifically out of breath or am flagging and will lead smaller (or less demanding) moves. I never try to let on - but I'm sure most people flag at some point in the evening - particularly after the kind of days I have !
    Someone who leads clearly. Being a beginner - I tend to dance with beginners and less experienced men (all you advanced dancers dance with each other !) so when I dance with someone with a clear lead I am filled with happiness.

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    Originally posted by Rougeforever
    Someone who leads clearly. Being a beginner - I tend to dance with beginners and less experienced men (all you advanced dancers dance with each other !) so when I dance with someone with a clear lead I am filled with happiness.
    I think this does happen: but it's not because advanced dancers don't want to dance with beginners. Dancers, advanced or otherwise, dance with the people that ask them. And it requires a certain level of bravery to ask someone you don't know: this results in people asking their friends more often than people they don't know. Advanced dancers have been dancing for ages and know the other advanced dancers - so they ask them more.

    My solution is to ask everyone in the room, that way you get to dance with advanced dancers but, by asking beginners, you also get to know them so it's easier to ask them when they become advanced dancers.

    The answer, Rougeforever, is to ask the advanced dancers if you want them to dance with you. They will say 'yes please' and smile - probably

    Speaking personally, they don't always smile, sometimes they have a look of fear: but I think they're just pretending

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