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    "I'm not really any good"

    What can you say if you ask a lady to dance and she says
    "I'm not really any good" ?

    So far
    "Not a problem"
    "Me either"
    "Ok"

    haven't quite worked the way I'd hoped

    I get what's being conveyed and am happy to be gentle and just dance the same 2 moves over and over for the whole track if need be I just want a good one liner to put the lady at her ease.

    Thanks
    Christopher

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    Re: "I'm not really any good"

    Quote Originally Posted by Ghost

    I get what's being conveyed and am happy to be gentle and just dance the same 2 moves over and over for the whole track if need be I just want a good one liner to put the lady at her ease.

    'practice makes perfect, now come on'

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    Re: "I'm not really any good"

    Quote Originally Posted by WittyBird
    'practice makes perfect, now come on'
    I like it. I'll give it a try.

    The last poor lady who said this to me was attending her first class and had just watched Taz and me do a sabotage dance swapping the lead quite a bit. I went bouncing over to her with a big smile and asked her to dance and the look on her face was
    "Ohmygodohmygodohmygod - I can't possibly dance like she just did "

    Had a lovely dance with her though

    Any other suggestions?
    Take care,
    Christopher

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    Re: "I'm not really any good"

    Maybe you should just use any of the above suggestions to get to dance with her and then at the end of the dance say:
    "whoever told you that you're not very good was lying."
    ... that way you may prevent her from saying it again to someone else, and eventually this problem may no longer exist
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    Re: "I'm not really any good"

    Quote Originally Posted by Ghost
    What can you say if you ask a lady to dance and she says
    "I'm not really any good" ?
    How about... NO PROBLEM You'll be the ultimate test for my leading skills! If your still no good, then it's down to me!
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    Re: "I'm not really any good"

    "I'll be the judge of that!"

    Then get her up on that dance floor

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    Re: "I'm not really any good"

    I stick to something along the lines of "how convenient: neither am I".

    Quote Originally Posted by Lory
    You'll be the ultimate test for my leading skills!
    I think that could possibly be taken the wrong way. Besides, it's not true.

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    Re: "I'm not really any good"

    Whenever anyone says that to me I simply reply,


    'Bad is good'



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    Re: "I'm not really any good"

    'There's only one way to get better ... !'

    But then I always make sure I reassure them as we're going along by letting them know when they do something good, or at least a 'see, you're doing fine' or something like that.

    A lot of guys tend to say 'OK, but you'll have to help me out' so after we've done a few moves I usually say something like 'help you with what? You're doing great'

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    Re: "I'm not really any good"

    Quote Originally Posted by Sparkles
    Maybe you should just use any of the above suggestions to get to dance with her and then at the end of the dance say:
    "whoever told you that you're not very good was lying."
    ... that way you may prevent her from saying it again to someone else, and eventually this problem may no longer exist
    S. x
    That was the end result of one lady I said "Ok" too. I had a great dance with her and reassured her at the end. Next week she came up to me and and asked for a dance with a big smile and the line
    "I'm still not any good "

    Be Well,
    Christopher

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    Re: "I'm not really any good"

    It occurred to me after I'd written this thread, that this seems to happen after a beginner's watched me dance with a lady who's doing something extra - body rolls in a lead to nothing, swapping the lead over, lots of hand and foot styling etc

    Which is the reason this
    Quote Originally Posted by MartinHarper
    I stick to something along the lines of "how convenient: neither am I".
    got me a look of "Yeah right"

    But I do like the other sugestions. Now all I've got to do is remember them. Maybe if I wrote them on the back of my hand or possibly a t-shirt

    Keep 'em coming - lots of nervous beginners out there I want to dance with

    Thanks,
    Christopher

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    Re: "I'm not really any good"

    'I bet you say that to all the boys , did you come here to dance or stand there looking pretty? now C'mon'

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    Re: "I'm not really any good"

    well i always say that I have been dancing for less than 6 weeks, then at least when they are disapointed with my dancing they don't go away completly disheartened

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    Re: "I'm not really any good"

    Quote Originally Posted by thewacko
    well i always say that I have been dancing for less than 6 weeks, then at least when they are disapointed with my dancing they don't go away completly disheartened
    The taxi t-shirt doesn't give you away at all

    Anyway I've found women dance better if they think the guy knows what he's doing
    (Whether I actually do know what I'm doing is a whole other matter )

    Take care,
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    Re: "I'm not really any good"

    When responding to this I usually don't say anything about my partners dance ability before we start dancing. And, most of the time, at the end of the dance, I say something like "there's nothing wrong with your dancing, so you can't say 'I'm not very good' to anybody else".

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    Re: "I'm not really any good"

    If you want to pay them a compliment -- then ask them for a second dance.

    SpinDr.

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    Re: "I'm not really any good"

    Quote Originally Posted by ghost
    What can you say if you ask a lady to dance and she says
    "I'm not really any good" ?
    I normally smile and say something like "nonsense; if anything goes wrong, it'll all be my fault "

    Or if I'm being flirtatious and egomanic; "You've just not been led by the right person yet "

    Or I don't say anything and generall give a disbeleiving, scornfull, questioning look and offer with the body language of "come onto the floor with me and I'll be the judge of that"* {...that's what it's like in my head - they may just think I'm pulling faces and acting weird... either way seems to work}

    Or another standard reply is "neither am I - I just make it up as I go allong "


    In general I try to put forward the impression that I don't really care what you may think your level is - I just want to dance with you.

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    Re: "I'm not really any good"

    Quote Originally Posted by Ghost
    What can you say if you ask a lady to dance and she says
    "I'm not really any good" ?
    "I like bad girls"

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    Re: "I'm not really any good"

    Quote Originally Posted by Ghost
    I just want a good one liner to put the lady at her ease.

    Thanks
    Christopher
    Shut up and dance

    or

    Let me be the judge.

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    Re: "I'm not really any good"

    Quote Originally Posted by Andreas
    Let me be the judge.
    I'd hate to dance with a guy I thought was judging me

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