Asking for someone's phone number after a dance track. What is the correct etiquette?

[Little Monkey]

Unless of course this is the flirt divert number????

XX

Let's hope it is!

[Freya]

Let's hope it is!

Yup just checked it is!!!

What pointless things we can do when we're putting off writing our thesises!!!

XXXX

[Little Monkey]

Yup just checked it is!!!

What pointless things we can do when we're putting off writing our thesises!!!

XXXX

Wooooooooooooooo!!

Although we've (or you have, anyway ) spoilt the fun now, by revealing it's the flirt divert number... Sorry DianaS!

[Freya]

Ooooops.



Sorry

[Ghost]

Right - and all the guessing and trying to work out what the other person means does?? Yeah well most might, but some prefer a more direct approach.

The problem is that it takes serious courage to be direct if you actually care about the answer. Theoretically if I just wanted to bed someone, then I'm not gonna be fazed by the first lady saying "No". "NEXT!" as LMC might put it

But if I have a serious crush on a lady, then her "No" is going to hurt like hell. Hasn't stopped me from asking straight out, but I knew what I was risking when I've done it
Take care,
Christopher

[LMC]

But if I have a serious crush on a lady, then her "No" is going to hurt like hell. Hasn't stopped me from asking straight out, but I knew what I was risking when I've done it.

Sparkles has the right of it in many ways - what's the rush? - if you know where each other dances then you can maintain the contact and get to know each other better. At the same time, the more investment you have put into the "relationship" (whatever kind of relationship it is, whether friends or more) then the more rejection will hurt.

As I concluded after my deliberately torturous ramblings, if you're going to get anywhere, you have to take a risk at some point and just ask. End of.

[Freya]

I feel as if this thread is going round in circles slightly!

What we have established is that there is no right ettiquette to ask for a phone number.

However:

1) Try talking to the person 1st - your more likely to get the number
2) It doesn't matter what your intentions are they'll draw their own conclusions. - Yes you might get hurt!
3) Don't pass on friends numbers they might not like it! - Plus if they really want a number they'll get up the guts to ask for it themselves.
4) You're gonna have to stick your neck out at some point might as well do it sooner rather than later. - Someone else might snap her up before you.
5) Plus you've got something in common so your already better off than if your just asking a girl in a Bar!

Thats my thoughts anyway!

HAs this been any help to your (AHEM) Friend?

Freya xxx

[Tazmanian Devil]

Ultimately to each their own. To answer the original question as to the etiquette, it appears from the range of replies so far that there isn’t one.

Hope that helps,
Christopher

Well not really Talk about throw a spanner in the works

[stewart38]

Good lord, why do you have to be so 'un-forward' - backward? - about it? Just say what you mean, don't **** about with 'catch up sometime' when you want a date.

Some people fear rejection thats all and maybe they could start as friends and move on from there

It works for some


Remember its not like a bar in london where you may never see them again

[stewart38]

Clive, sorry to be so slow on the uptake! My "friends" telephone number is 07770 756 408 just pass it on to your "friend" and tell him she is expecting his call.
You just had to ask

Its a mail box nos that is full

Thankfully i guess that

[DianaS]

Yup just checked it is!!!

What pointless things we can do when we're putting off writing our thesises!!!

XXXX

Freya I'm going to be listening! Tomorrow did you leave me a messege???

[Freya]

Freya I'm going to be listening! Tomorrow did you leave me a messege???

Nope Sorry hun - The Number's on the website so just went for a wee wander on the virtual web! (Well the snows all melted and it's slushy out )

XX

[DianaS]

Okay! Seriously now
just ask her, offer her yours if she refuses, and if she doesn't take it ask her for her friends with a wink!


dare you!

[WittyBird]

Lifes too short. Your only gonna get a choice of 2 answers.
Either you do it or you don't, depends if you will wonder for ages 'what if'.

But whatever you do don't ask like this....

Version 1

Him - Your legs would look so good around my neck, can I get your number for later.

Me - Tempting, but no thank you.

Version 2

Him - Your breasts look so much nicer than they did an hour ago.

Me - Must be down to your alcohol comsumption, have a good night, bye.


Both of those happened to me on Saturday night from what looked like a 15 year old

[Tazmanian Devil]

Lifes too short. Your only gonna get a choice of 2 answers.
Either you do it or you don't, depends if you will wonder for ages 'what if'.

But whatever you do don't ask like this....

Version 1

Him - Your legs would look so good around my neck, can I get your number for later.

Me - Tempting, but no thank you.

Version 2

Him - Your breasts look so much nicer than they did an hour ago.

Me - Must be down to your alcohol comsumption, have a good night, bye.


Both of those happened to me on Saturday night from what looked like a 15 year old

Oooh I had forgotten about that Sandra!!!

is that bottle filled with water to make you look good
Yours Paula

[WittyBird]

is that bottle filled with water to make you look good
Yours Paula

Little sh1t

[Tazmanian Devil]

Little sh1t

I know but it was funny they actually belived our little story about a late night session

Did :Challett number :cough: get a late night visitor or 4 do you know??

[WittyBird]

I know but it was funny they actually belived our little story about a late night session

Did :Challett number :cough: get a late night visitor or 4 do you know??

No idea but I will never find out, seeing as I don't know what whose chalet number I gave them

[Tazmanian Devil]

No idea but I will never find out, seeing as I don't know what whose chalet number I gave them

and here was me thinking it was

[thewacko]

why does asking for a number have to be about romantic interest?

can't it just be I like this person and would like the opportunity to have a proper conversation with as I think I would like to be friends with them rather than just acquaintances

Now there is a chat up line I haven't tried yet

damn clever those aussies