Is it worthwhile complaining?

[tomboh]

Yes, it is worth complaining .... or at least making the venue managers, teachers or taxi dancers aware of a problem.

Definitely. A couple of my female friends tried Ceroc and gave it up after their first week because they found some of the men too intimate. I don't know which men - I wasn't there that week.

If anyone feels discomforted by other dancers in their first week, Ceroc has something wrong.

I remember feeling uncomfortable due to my own inability - other dancers struck me as considerate and helpful - but not due to others' superiority. I found Ceroc supportive and encouraging, despite my fear of the unknown.

But I'm not a pretty thrity-something woman. It irritates me that my friends who are had a very different experience.

Ultimately, I'd love to have had the wisdom and affirmation I now have. I'd love to bring them along to a lesson and ask them to point out who they felt uncomfotable around and quietly discuss this with the venue manager.

Well, if this happens again, I'll act differently.

[El Salsero Gringo]

Definitely. A couple of my female friends tried Ceroc and gave it up after their first week because they found some of the men too intimate. I don't know which men - I wasn't there that week.

Are you quite sure it wasn't just the normal "intimacy" of a partner dance like Ceroc that put them off? I'm sure for some people even holding hands with strange men would take some getting used to.

[philsmove]

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If anyone feels discomforted by other dancers in their first week, Ceroc has something wrong.

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I don’t think it’s unusually for people to feel a little uncomfortable at their first dance

A recently separated friend told me it was the first time she had held another mans for 15 years
Before we went, I had told her, she was not allowed to give up at the first attempt

She did come again, and really enjoyed it

Back on topic - if you do witness totally inappropriate behaviour and the organiser has not noticed, I think you have a duty to bring to their attention. That said I have found organisers do keep an eye on people and have witness people being removed from class on at least two occasions

[Donna]

A recently separated friend told me it was the first time she had held another mans for 15 years
Before we went, I had told her, she was not allowed to give up at the first attempt

She did come again, and really enjoyed it

[Dreadful Scathe]

wow ! I usually just lead with my hands too hmm possibilities.....

[tomboh]

Are you quite sure it wasn't just the normal "intimacy" of a partner dance like Ceroc that put them off? I'm sure for some people even holding hands with strange men would take some getting used to.

Given the people involved, this struck me as unlikely. It's possible, though. Also, people sometimes deal with situations in ways that seem out of character.