View Poll Results: Is it ok to say no to someone who:

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  • Boring to dance with

    15 10.27%
  • Exhausting to dance with

    26 17.81%
  • Wrong type of dancer

    16 10.96%
  • Far too good/intimidating for me

    7 4.79%
  • Sleazy/ smelly

    112 76.71%
  • Often leaves me feeling battered or dizzy

    62 42.47%
  • Often leaves me feeling depressed

    38 26.03%
  • Once caused me a serious injury

    82 56.16%
  • I don’t know him/her

    4 2.74%
  • I ‘just don’t get’ him/her

    19 13.01%
  • Special song for someone else

    64 43.84%
  • Other

    32 21.92%
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Thread: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    Quote Originally Posted by DavidJames
    You've probably earned the name "Evil Grope-y Man" now
    Given my comments on other threads today, some people probably think it's the truth. Thank goodness for the whistling smiley......

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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    Quote Originally Posted by robd
    One less person to dance with - unless her friends get all cliquey with her. We'll see.

    Robert
    Well thats less competition for the rest of us I mean for dancing with you not groping your B*****ks

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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    Quote Originally Posted by DavidJames
    Go on then - what were they?

    (Yes, I could indeed do with a laugh... )
    If I said 66.67% of them were forum members would it make a difference

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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    Quote Originally Posted by robd
    Snap. Happened to me last week. In fairness I had just ended up with my hand brushing this lady's breast as a lead I was trying went awry. I apologised in an embarassed laughing it off sort of way only for her then to grab my pair of vegetables so to speak I was quite shocked. I know this woman moderately well and her reasoning was along the lines of an 'eye for an eye'. To my mind there's a world of difference between a move going wrong and an accidental embarassment and a deliberate grope. For this reason I have very deliberately avoided her at the two classes I attended this week at which she was present and will probably continue to do so.
    I've only just read this quote, and I have to confess to having done this once. Slightly different situation though, there was a guy I used to dance with regularly years ago, and at the time there was a move which was far more popular than it is today. The guy wrapped the girl behind him, then put both her hands on his chest, the girl was then supposed to run her hands across his chest for about 1 beat, then the guy pushed her back out into a catapult. It was a horrible move, and pretty obvious who got the most out of it! (Imagine a sweaty chest, yuck!). Well this one guy used to really take the p**s with that move, and did it once too often, and left me there for one beat too long, and after a while of this, I got a bit fed up with it so thought, OK, two can play at this game, and went for it! He was totally shocked, and never did that move with me again!

    That said, I would NEVER do it to somebody who had accidentally brushed past my breast! If I did, I think I'd have probably groped about 70% of the guys I've ever danced with! (and if a sweaty chest is bad? Oooh, it just doesn't bear thinking about! )

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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    Quote Originally Posted by stewart38
    If I said 66.67% of them were forum members would it make a difference
    Oh do tell

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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    Quote Originally Posted by Simon r
    Actually it's a particular group who go to there and to Jango who are so far up there own butt they refuse most people.


    so don't worry

    I asked three times as was given a blank No!

    so do not take it to heart they are a very small minority

    Hope you had a good time anyway
    Did they happen to be sitting at the next table up from you away from the stage? He (I'm not mentioning his name) has turned me down so many times over the years, I think it's the novelty factor that keeps me asking. It's a bit like the lottery!!

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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    Quote Originally Posted by Cruella
    Did they happen to be sitting at the next table up from you away from the stage? He (I'm not mentioning his name) has turned me down so many times over the years, I think it's the novelty factor that keeps me asking. It's a bit like the lottery!!

    I hope that we are talking about the same group but that guy always refuses to dance with me too . I have stopped asking now.

    How could anyone refuse a dance with you Di?

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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    Quote Originally Posted by stewart38
    If I said 66.67% of them were forum members would it make a difference
    Oh, go on - there might be rep in it...

    Quote Originally Posted by Dizzy
    I hope that we are talking about the same group but that guy always refuses to dance with me too
    Come on people, none of this pussyfooting around for God's sakes, it's very annoying. Either name them or shut up about them, blimey...

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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    I watched them turn down 3 guys, so didn't even bother going over to ask them.

    Maybe I should have.

    Maybe I will, if they are there tonight

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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    Quote Originally Posted by DavidJames
    Come on people, none of this pussyfooting around for God's sakes, it's very annoying. Either name them or shut up about them, blimey...

    I don't find it annoying at all!

    Not being there myself - i'm still quite happy to hear people having conversations about the days events!

    Very surreal images come to mind on this situation tho!
    Last edited by marty_baby; 9th-January-2006 at 06:11 PM.

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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    Originally posted by Stewart38
    I got refused 3 dances at Funky lush i thought two excuses were pretty poor
    Originally posted by Simon r
    I asked three times as was given a blank No
    Originally posted by Cruella
    He (I'm not mentioning his name) has turned me down so many times over the years,
    Originally posted by Dizzy
    but that guy always refuses to dance with me too
    I sympathise with you all because these experiences can really spoil what is otherwise a great night.

    A friend of mine at Hipsters on Friday night was upset when she asked me what she should do about a particular guy who is a ‘really good dancer’ who ignores her and walks away when she approaches him.

    As far as I can see, there’s nothing to be done. If he doesn’t want to dance with her, it's his choice and she should have fun with the many other chaps who are more than happy to dance with her.

    She is a sweetie and spends most of the night dancing anyway so perhaps it’s a question of perception. Pay attention to the guys who do want to dance with you rather than those who don’t.

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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    Quote Originally Posted by CeeCee
    As far as I can see, there’s nothing to be done. If he doesn’t want to dance with her, it's his choice and she should have fun with the many other chaps who are more than happy to dance with her.

    She is a sweetie and spends most of the night dancing anyway so perhaps it’s a question of perception. Pay attention to the guys who do want to dance with you rather than those who don’t.
    Exactly my attitude. Thanks Carole

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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    Quote Originally Posted by DavidJames
    Go on then - what were they?

    (Yes, I could indeed do with a laugh... )
    Well it wasn't me for definate cos I danced with Stewart, Trampy AND SimonR!
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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    Nor me, I got dances with Stewart and Trampy too, and they were great too.

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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    Quote Originally Posted by Lory
    Well it wasn't me for definate cos I danced with Stewart, Trampy AND SimonR!
    Well, it wasn't me either, as I wasn't there.

    3 down, 1,800+ to go then...

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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    OK i'll name him, Barry. One of Mike Ellards best friends. As you say it's his perogative to dance with who he wants, i just find it a challenge and amusing to keep asking him. He has said yes to me once and when i mentioned to him that he had turned me down loads of times before and i was expecting a refusal again, his comment was 'well you obviously weren't wearing that hat before!' I guess he has a hat fetish!! That or the fact it covers my face.
    He was a very good dancer though.

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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    Quote Originally Posted by Cruella
    OK i'll name him, Barry.
    So there is life after Eastenders!

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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    Quote Originally Posted by DavidJames
    Well, it wasn't me either, as I wasn't there.

    3 down, 1,800+ to go then...
    I wont name them as thats not the point re they forum members or not.

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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    Quote Originally Posted by Lory
    Well it wasn't me for definate cos I danced with Stewart, Trampy AND SimonR!
    Quote Originally Posted by icey
    Nor me, I got dances with Stewart and Trampy too, and they were great too.
    Quote Originally Posted by DavidJames
    Well, it wasn't me either
    [JangoPanto]
    Um... It might have been me...
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    Re: Refusing a dance - is there ever a good reason?

    Quote Originally Posted by stewart38
    I got refused 3 dances at Funky lush i thought two excuses were pretty poor

    Hey its their right
    I didn't dance with you.
    But there again you didn't ask me

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