Age Difference matter?

[TheTramp]

So, how many of the guys online do you think lie about their age, then?

Dunno. But I'm 17.

[Sparkles]

On-topic: If any 25-year old female dancers want to test the various theories and views written in this thread .... I am currently available ...

Having just turned 25... should I be worried?

[Barry Shnikov]

Telling me he had no kids was as well (what does lying about something like THAT say about someone ) - if it hadn't been for that, then maybe, just maybe, I could have got over the age thing - but as LM says, it's the lie that matters.

Wow, that's harsh for his kids, too.

I wouldn't dream of saying that you reacted in the wrong way when you found out. It's like "when do we tell little Sally that she was adopted?" You know very well you have to tell her, just that a good time never seems to turn up...

[thewacko]

She didn't tell you about us then??

Oh yes I meant to ask

howz it been dancing wifout any b*****ks

[thewacko]

How did you meet ?

Age is just number when your past 35 as a women and past 40 as a man

As a kid I was proud to be 9 and 3/4 that 3/4 being 'important', doesnt seem to bother me that much now those 1/4 bits

but as a man aproaching his 50's every little 1/4 counts

[thewacko]

Having just turned 25... should I be worried?

naw

by the way my mobile number is 07*************

hey franko why did you do that

[Barry Shnikov]

As a kid I was proud to be 9 and 3/4...

Christ, proud isn't the word...

>wince<



...eyewatering...

[philsmove]

What really matters is how people get on with each other and is nothing to with any age difference.

[Magic Hans]

Have no real opinion of this.

As has already been said, generally chronological age doesn't matter much. However emotional age is really quite important, and there is plenty of adolescent 40 year olds running around (mostly blokes as far as I can tell).

Having said that, as a general rule, my suspicions would be raised where there were a greater than 15 year gap.

[Little Monkey]

Having said that, as a general rule, my suspicions would be raised where there were a greater than 15 year gap.

Yeah. Shocking. Do people really date anyone that much older / younger?
*GASP* I do!!







But then I'm very sensible, mature, dignified and serious, so make up for the age gap by being emotionally very mature.........






Sorry MH, couldn't quite help myself there.....

[Little Monkey]

Dunno. But I'm 17.

So, not just a beginner on the dancefloor, then?

[LMC]

Having said that, as a general rule, my suspicions would be raised where there were a greater than 15 year gap.

That seems a bit ridiculous.

A 28-year old going out with a 14-year old would be suspicious. But no-one bats an eyelid at a 44-year old going out with a 60-year old.

[jivecat]

That seems a bit ridiculous.

A 28-year old going out with a 14-year old would be suspicious. But no-one bats an eyelid at a 44-year old going out with a 60-year old.

So no-one would turn a hair at a 44-year old man going out with a 60-year old woman, then?

[Minnie M]

A 28-year old going out with a 14-year old would be suspicious. But no-one bats an eyelid at a 44-year old going out with a 60-year old.

A 14 year old is a minor

So no-one would turn a hair at a 44-year old man going out with a 60-year old woman, then?

Joan Collins + Husband
Talking as someone over 60, I can honestly say that I am possibly more immature than most forumites and possibly have more energy than a lots of 44 year olds

[LMC]

A 14 year old is a minor

Exactly, but unfortunately guys in their 20s quite frequently "take advantage" of young girls sadly - and there have been a couple of high profile cases recently of female school teachers behaving inappropriately with teenage pupils.

So no-one would turn a hair at a 44-year old man going out with a 60-year old woman, then?

I dunno about no-one, but I wouldn't bat an eyelid (my post was deliberately non-gender-specific). Go for it Minnie (I still can't believe you're a day over 55 meself!)

[Minnie M]

....... Go for it Minnie .....

sorry not sure what you mean there
I am not interested in men who are the same age or not much older than my son, it would not feel right but that is a personal thing and I wouldn't think for a minute they would be interested in me ..... it's all about chemistry and the aura you transmit

[Heather M]

In this life, if you find someone who makes you happy, that's the only thing that matters.

[philsmove]

Age may not matter but maybe money does
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/s...es/4841094.stm

[Alice]

OK, since jivecat has asked, I'll come out of the closet.

Yes, physical fitness/genotype can make age differences less important.

It was also why I believed that I was seeing an "old-looking" (and behaving) 40 year-old - he was a workaholic - who was actually a "young-looking" (and behaving) 52 year-old. I was 32. Twenty years was too much difference for me.

When all this 'came out' - as these things inevitably do - he said he'd lied because I wouldn't have looked at him otherwise. He was right - even now, I wouldn't knowingly start a relationship with someone 20 years older than myself because I'm selfish enough to want not to be left alone - of course you can't predict illnesses or accidents, but in the natural course of events, he would have died of old age well before I did. IMO, there is nothing intrinsically wrong or immoral about age differences. But I can't/won't get involved with someone much older or younger than me. Perhaps this is down to personal experience - my 81-year old grandfather died when I was only 10 or 11 - leaving my grandmother devastated (they had been very happy together) at the age of only 59.

My older partner and I got along well (and the sex was fantastic) so the relationship staggered on for another year or so after the age gap was revealed. If it had not been for the age difference, then maybe I would have been prepared to make an effort to resolve other issues (not relevant here), but ultimately, I could not get over the age difference - my uncle, who I have always thought of as being in my parents generation is a year younger than this particular ex, for goodness sake!

Yeah, I've been in a similar situation- 16 year age gap but he lied about it (I was later tipped off by some friends)... the fact that he didn't see fit to explain the presence of a child car seat in his car (until I asked him straight out- he had a 3year old daughter) didn't really help either.
I realized that I was not comfortable with the age gap and in particular the fact he had a daughter- but in the end, even if I had been, the lies/avoidance would have been a massive red light. Made me wonder what else he was hiding!
Even now I can't work out why he bothered lying about his age- he knew I had a problem about it, but saying he was 37 rather than 41ish really didn't make that big a difference. Grrrr.

[Barry Shnikov]

there have been a couple of high profile cases recently of female school teachers behaving inappropriately with teenage pupils.

>sigh<

Spent 10 years hoping for that.