Age Difference matter?

[Sheepman]

I would agree with those who are saying that it is all about being happy, for some people that age gap is going to cause too many problems for the happiness to last. How far into the future should you be looking when going into such a relationship?

The biggest age gap I've come across on the MJ scene is 32 years, both great dancers and charming people. I had no idea that there was such a gap until the guy cryptically let it slip, and although it was interesting to know, it seemed irrelevant.

One thing I would not be expecting a partner to do is to devote her life to nursing me in my dotage. (Not that I'm planning to grow old and infirm, I'd prefer to go out with a bang!) How could I expect someone to commit to, and be happy with that as their main role in life? Perversely I think I would be more accepting if the role was reversed and I was doing the nursing. How can you plan for tragedy in life though?There are plenty of people who end up doing a similar role due to accident or illness when age is not a factor.

Greg

[Minnie M]

There is 17 yrs between Linda and I, it doesn't matter one iota...I married my best friend....All say aahhhh!

and wot a smashin' couple you two are

[Swinging bee]

and wot a smashin' couple you two are

You're too kind. Looking forward to seeing you soon

[cheeks]

I don't think age should make a difference I spent 13 years with with a partner my own age and although was good at start and difficult towards end he made a choice to seek many an older woman.
(I got better deal so no soap box 4 great kids! and single life which meant lots and lots of dancing )
In the last 4 half years since joining the singletons I have had one short relationship with someone 9 years my junior(is also one of my bestest friends) which was fantastic great fun good sex but did find that many of his priorities as a 23 old at the time were no where near the same as mine. We decided to go back to being friends and can now reflect back on good things as well as bad and still have a giggle to this day about it.
I do spend my time whether dancing or not in mixed company of friends from their early 20's - ? ( Actually really don't know how old some of my friends are! ) After seeing someone more than 10 years my senior for a while I think different things atttracted us similar interests, a good laugh,great sex and greater understanding of that we all have a past I guess!

So if both people involved are happy and no-one is being hurt it shouldn't make any difference what others think is right or wrong!



Cheeks

[Donna]

If the individuals involved are happy,then nothing else matters.

[stewart38]

good sex,great sex

Cheeks

Great post , however I might have focused a little too much on some specific issues you mentioned

[cheeks]

Great post , however I might have focused a little too much on some specific issues you mentioned

Not at all! a very specific point you picked up on

[drathzel]

Not at all! a very specific point you picked up on

Its always good to have a specific point, dont you think!

[cheeks]

Its always good to have a specific point, dont you think!

Absolutely! sweetie always a good place to start

[drathzel]

Absolutely! sweetie always a good place to start

and finish.... and maintain!!!

[Katie]

Did anyone see the documentary 'old enough to be his mother' on Channel 5 last night? In one case, the woman was old to enough to be his grandmother, there was a 39 year old age difference The bit I found hard to digest was the scene of this couple having a shower together. Fair enough they are 'in love' but IMO the scene was unnecessary, especially as it didn't have this slant with any of the other couples. The funniest bit for me was when the English woman who emigrated to Spain (the papers accused her of abandoning her daughter) for her spanish toyboy, started talking about having kids and the guy looked aghast, all he is interested in is marriage and err....perhaps citizenship??

[Gadget]

One of my best freinds is engaged (after a few years) to someone that is roughly the same age as his mum - they met at a night out with her youngest daughter when she was at uni (only a couple of years between the daughter and my friend). :shrug:
The only negative is that my freind will never have children of his own because she has been there & done that and they have all now fled home. But his sister has four and I have three that keep him amused

[Anna]

For a more on-topic example, I just read than Strictly Come Dancing competitor Brendon Cole (29) is allegedly dating a 17 year old. I can't see that ending well, but that's as much a comment on Brendon as anything else...

*gasp* JEALOUSY!!!!!!!!!!!!

Brendan Cole is the new Fred Astaire

[stewart38]

Did anyone see the documentary 'old enough to be his mother' on Channel 5 last night? In one case, the woman was old to enough to be his grandmother, there was a 39 year old age difference The bit I found hard to digest was the scene of this couple having a shower together. Fair enough they are 'in love' but IMO the scene was unnecessary, especially as it didn't have this slant with any of the other couples. The funniest bit for me was when the English woman who emigrated to Spain (the papers accused her of abandoning her daughter) for her spanish toyboy, started talking about having kids and the guy looked aghast, all he is interested in is marriage and err....perhaps citizenship??

The problem with all this of course is there maybe genuine people out there looking fro love marriage and long commitment. (wether there from Russia or South East Asia or where ever)

I can only see a growing number of men and I guess women being dis encharted with what is 'on offer' in UK and going down this route .

I read and it maybe crap but the average duration of an English man marrying a russian women last longer then the average duration of English man marrying a English women

[Feelingpink]

*gasp* JEALOUSY!!!!!!!!!!!!

Brendan Cole is the new Fred Astaire

Why? Because he makes his partner practise until her feet bleed?

[Gus]

I read and it maybe crap but the average duration of an English man marrying a russian women last longer then the average duration of English man marrying a English women

One may question the 'type' of man marrying russian/philipino etc brides? Less likely to let go og such an expensive asset?

[stewart38]

One may question the 'type' of man marrying russian/philipino etc brides? Less likely to let go og such an expensive asset?

What is that 'type' of man. Dirty old men in raincoats going to Moscow aged 65 looking for 25yr old brides. Or lawyers/doctors in there 30s/40s who are 'fed up' with whats on offer here and look a abroad for women with plough expereince

[David Bailey]

I read and it maybe crap but the average duration of an English man marrying a russian women last longer then the average duration of English man marrying a English women

Interesting - have you got a source for this one?

[KatieR]

What is that 'type' of man. Dirty old men in raincoats going to Moscow aged 65 looking for 25yr old brides. Or lawyers/doctors in there 30s/40s who are 'fed up' with whats on offer here and look a abroad for women with plough expereince

What about 32 year Old Australian girls coming to England looking for a passport?

[stewart38]

What about 32 year Old Australian girls coming to England looking for a passport?

Do you have plough experience ??