[QUOTE=KatieRFor all the new dancers out there reading the forum, i think i have made mention of this on a different thread that, when you are dancing with someone new, always stipulate whether you want drops in the dance and make sure he hears you. If he doesn't listen, dont be afraid to stop the dance. If you feel in any way unsafe. Stop.[/QUOTE]
Although I agree with this, in principle, I actually think it should be the other way round.
As a female dancer, I would get fed up having to say to someone "I don't do drops" before every single dance, and I've also had the comment made to me by guys who don't like doing drops themselves that they find this very strange when said to them, and stops them really enjoying the dance, and putting their everything into it, it takes the fun and spontaneity out of things right from the start.
I'd say that as the person leading, and therefore the one with the control over whether you put drops into a dance, it should be up to the guys who want to do drops to ask the girl if she's OK with that.
Personally, I'm perfectly capable of doing drops, I just don't enjoy them, I think they take away from a dance, and make the dance all about the moves that are put in, rather than the style, fun, musicality and interaction between the partners, which for me is what dancing is really all about.
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