Dancing insecurities?

[Lory]

We all have certain insecurities and things that go through our head if someone turns us down or we don't get asked for a dance, so which of these can sometimes hit the nerve

It's anonymous and you can tick more than one......

[under par]

We all have certain insecurities and things that go through our head if someone turns us down or we don't get asked for a dance, so which of these can sometimes hit the nerve

It's anonymous and you can tick more than one......

Where you thinking of me with "too TALL"?

I'm feeling paranoid now

[Lounge Lizard]

Where you thinking of me with "too TALL"?

I'm feeling paranoid now

Imagine how i feel "TOO SHORT" & "BALD", plus (I am not sure how she knew it) but she even included "got "horrible Legs"

[under par]

Imagine how i feel "TOO SHORT" & "BALD", plus (I am not sure how she knew it) but she even included "got "horrible Legs"

Ahhh!!!!!!1 I get the hat , the stilts and the long trousers now.

[Andy McGregor]

Of the 11 people who've voted so far I'm the only one that's "too short"

[Purple Sparkler]

I've gone through quite a sea change in the past few months. Previously, if I asked someone and they turned me down I'd think it was because I wasn't good enough.

Now when someone turns me down I think that it's THEIR problem, not mine. And I simply think 'Fine, sod you then, I won't be asking YOU again.' And I don't.

I even behave myself when guys who used to ignore me ask me. Worst rejection ever came from one of the old chaps at Ashtons- who I asked to dance and he simply shook his head in a manner that said 'of course not, you stupid girl'- he now asks me quite a lot. And I always say yes. Because I'm classier than that, if you see what I mean.

I think it's fairly safe to say that dancing has done wonders for my confidence.

[Damien]

Reading various threads on the forum it never ceases to amaze me that any guy would turn down a lady asking for a dance. I never have and never will.

To be honest I think it is so fantastic when I'm asked! My insecurites are mainly that I'm just not good enough or don't look good enough. Maybe that is why it is such an amazing confidence boost when I'm asked to dance.

[Jazz_Shoes (Ash)]

I don't remember being turned down before, maybe I have been but forgotten But if I ever do then it is their loss ...i'd imagine that the age thing might come into it...but luckily if I ever do ask anyone to dance they usually say yes (touch wood) I can't believe that guys actually turn down ladies when the ask to dance, that is shocking and very rude! They should be ashamed of themselves, girls if you ever do get turned down it is the guys loss for missing out on a great dance with you.

Ashx

[Andy McGregor]

Reading various threads on the forum it never ceases to amaze me that any guy would turn down a lady asking for a dance. I never have and never will.

To be honest I think it is so fantastic when I'm asked! My insecurites are mainly that I'm just not good enough or don't look good enough. Maybe that is why it is such an amazing confidence boost when I'm asked to dance.

After many years of dancing I still get a thrill when a woman asks me to dance. Why would I ever say 'no'?

[Graham W]

..not in the clique is a good one cos it's a chance to break it, by dancing..

good poll, Lory..

G :-)

[Purple Sparkler]

it never ceases to amaze me that any guy would turn down a lady asking for a dance. I never have and never will.

I can't believe that guys actually turn down ladies when the ask to dance, that is shocking and very rude!

After many years of dancing I still get a thrill when a woman asks me to dance. Why would I ever say 'no'?

I must say it's nice to know there are chaps like you around. Makes me hopeful for the rest of humanity. Have some rep.

[Chicklet]

I have read all the threads on this and related subjects with interest and more than a little dismay.

I'm never going to be a brilliant dancer, I can't spin, I'm pudgy and I'm a tictac justincase breath fanatic but I HONESTLY DON'T CARE!!!!

If someone doesn't want to dance with me, I don't care why and neither need nor want to know, it just does not bother me, I will NEVER worry about it, there are plenty of people who will dance with me.

I don't feel I'm particularly big headed, I know I have "faults" but that's life.

SURELY I'm not alone here??Speak up the "comfortables" of the forum!!!!

[Lory]

Don't get me wrong Chicklet, I never let it ruin my night but I have to admit, I'm taking great solace in the fact so many other share my little insecurities too!

It's not only meeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

[Rebecca]

I tend to find that one of the only places I feel truly comfortable is whilst dancing.

I always get nervous when entering a new venue, and for the first few tracks (normally along the lines of 'am I good enough??'), but I've learned to re-frame the nerves as excitement.

There will always be guys who love to dance with me and guys who hate to dance with me , with most somewhere in the middle, and that's ok as far as I'm concerned (well rehearsed calming self talk)

In terms of physical attributes I don't think this really applies when dancing. There are guys who ordinarily I wouldn't find physically attractive, but who move like dance-gods!! I wouldn't think to consider a person's height, weight, legs etc if I'm watching them dance, it's all about line, posture (and some evidence that they are enjoying themselves). I tend to ask guys to dance if they are a) smiling b) nearby and c) looking like they want to dance - simple as. . .

[bigdjiver]

Is there a prize for most ticks?

[Damien]

Just a small point but for me the problem around insecurities have not been being turned down for a dance. However, after dancing for almost a year I still find it incredibly difficult to even ask for a dance. I'm OK with the regulars who I sit near or who have asked me in the past but just asking a face in the room who I don't know and all sorts of doubts creep in and my legs turn to jelly.

Not all of us guys are brimming with confidence so its a welcome relief when someone asks me to dance. So to all the ladies please ask more often and if anyone says no the problem is with them not you.

[John S]

I can vividly remember being "turned down" twice, and both times it was by "ladies" from Glasgow! Despite being born and brought up in No Mean City, it's more than 30 years since I lived there, so maybe my Parliamo Glasgow chat-up lines are a tad out of date, although what I said seemed ok at the time:

"Howsitgaun, doll? Maist ora music's mingin but yonsa stoater oa sang - gonnae git affyer bahookie an giesa jig aforera flair's fu o awra hotshots an wee herries?"

So I guess I'll just have to live with my insecurities.

[Petal]

I've gone through quite a sea change in the past few months. Previously, if I asked someone and they turned me down I'd think it was because I wasn't good enough.

Now when someone turns me down I think that it's THEIR problem, not mine. And I simply think 'Fine, sod you then, I won't be asking YOU again.' And I don't.

That's what i need to do.

I even behave myself when guys who used to ignore me ask me. Worst rejection ever came from one of the old chaps at Ashtons- who I asked to dance and he simply shook his head in a manner that said 'of course not, you stupid girl'- he now asks me quite a lot. And I always say yes. Because I'm classier than that, if you see what I mean.

And this is what i will aim for.

I think it's fairly safe to say that dancing has done wonders for my confidence.

Hopefully it will do the same for me.

[Petal]

Reading various threads on the forum it never ceases to amaze me that any guy would turn down a lady asking for a dance. I never have and never will.

Hope you'll visit scotland sometime soon.

[Purple Sparkler]

That's what i need to do.
And this is what i will aim for.
Hopefully it will do the same for me.

*flattered* And this from a Taxi Dancer! (Must remember to send off the form...)