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    Save the last dance ...

    Now here is one.

    Did not find it on search so perhaps not touched yet.

    About a month ago I had this very brief discussion with my girlfriend about the last dance. She asked me to always save it for her. I was rude enough to decline, which did not meet grateful reception.

    My explanation was that I find it rude to dump somebody that was with me on the dance floor to rush over and have the dance with here, leaving the other person not only w/o a partner but also alone in the middle of the floor.

    Now I did notice that I hardly ever stay for the last dance (or dance it) when she is not around, which is very often. But I also do not want to commit to something that I feel is not right.


    Your thoughts.

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    Re: Save the last dance ...

    Quote Originally Posted by Andreas
    Now here is one.

    Did not find it on search so perhaps not touched yet.

    About a month ago I had this very brief discussion with my girlfriend about the last dance. She asked me to always save it for her. I was rude enough to decline, which did not meet grateful reception.

    My explanation was that I find it rude to dump somebody that was with me on the dance floor to rush over and have the dance with here, leaving the other person not only w/o a partner but also alone in the middle of the floor.

    Now I did notice that I hardly ever stay for the last dance (or dance it) when she is not around, which is very often. But I also do not want to commit to something that I feel is not right.


    Your thoughts.
    I always to save the last dance for Mrs Par.

    Most DJs announce the last 2 tracks are coming up and this allows us to search each other out so we can have that last one.

    Sometimes we don't dance too much together during an evening so its nice to know we will end up in each others arms...yum yum

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    Re: Save the last dance ...

    I wouldn't have the slightest qualm about being dumped for the last dance by someone who's partner was in the room. In fact I would insist that I was dumped!

    Obviously someone who's partner is on the other side of the globe is welcome to the last dance.

    So long as they take it slow and easy not turn it into some kind of salsa dance

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    Re: Save the last dance ...

    Quote Originally Posted by Zebra Woman
    I wouldn't have the slightest qualm about being dumped for the last dance by someone who's partner was in the room. In fact I would insist that I was dumped!


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    Re: Save the last dance ...

    If my partner and I are at Ceroc together wewill always save the last dance for ourselves together. The DJ does usually announce the last 2 tracks as well which gives us a chance to find each other.

    We also try to reserve dancing to Tu es Foutu together as well since she loves that song.

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    Re: Save the last dance ...

    Quote Originally Posted by Andreas
    Your thoughts
    It's like a prostitute who will only accept a kiss on the lips from her boyfriend. The idea is to elevate something that other folks see as not particularly sacred (last dance, lip kiss) into something shared and special in order to make up for other stuff (selling sex, social dancing).

    I recommend bringing along some means of producing music. Then, if you mess up, you can create another dance, thus ensuring that you save the last dance for her, AND make the last dance her favourite song.

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    Re: Save the last dance ...

    Quote Originally Posted by Andreas
    About a month ago I had this very brief discussion with my girlfriend about the last dance. She asked me to always save it for her. I was rude enough to decline, which did not meet grateful reception.
    Well I think she has a point

    Throughout the evening you and your life partner are off dancing with other people.

    It is nice to end the evening together.

    Where I dance this is often the case, when the last dance is anounced, quiite a few people go in search of their life partner to end up the evening together. I also do this.

    I have not seen people offended by this.

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    Re: Save the last dance ...

    I don't want to sound like I'm saying anything negative about reserving the last dance for 'the other half' if they're a dancer because it sounds very romantic and I can't diss a bit of that. But is this genuinely common, even when you're going dancing together several times a week...?

    Guess I'm a little surprised, trying to imagine what I'd think if was asked to make such a (hypothetical) reservation. Gut feeling says I'd say no, might be different in real life though...

    Having said that I can only to all those folks that share their other halves so magnanimously all evening anyway.

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    Re: Save the last dance ...

    Quote Originally Posted by MartinHarper
    It's like a prostitute who will only accept a kiss on the lips from her boyfriend.
    What, exactly, ARE you suggesting about Mrs. Andreas?

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    Re: Save the last dance ...

    Quote Originally Posted by Andreas
    Your thoughts.
    Oh Andreas! I think you are gonna end up here

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    Re: Save the last dance ...

    Well, my former dance partner always had the problem that her partner was literally stalking her around the dance floor just to make sure he'd get the last dance. It was something I never want to expose anybody to and also never wanted to be exposed to.

    Our discussion arose when we were in NZ in May and visited old 'hunting grounds'. Last song came on and my peripheral vision noticed her parting with the person she had danced with the song before and coming towards me. So when the girl I had danced with asked for another dance I actually turned her down to have that last dance with my girlfriend. Goes w/o saying that I did not like doing that. Not that the girl I had danced with was a great dancer. But I usually have two dances with each person. With her I had only the first dance ever and she was way too nervous to dance to her potential. So turning her down w/o giving another 'chance' appeared to me like 'no thanks, I have somebody better lined up' or 'no thanks, never to be repeated'. This is just something I hate doing.

    Which is why, when my girlfriend asked me if she always could have the last dance, I said no, not if I was already dancing with somebody else. The situation is obviously totally different if I am off the floor.


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    Re: Save the last dance ...

    Quote Originally Posted by Zebra Woman

    So long as they take it slow and easy not turn it into some kind of salsa dance
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    Re: Save the last dance ...

    Quote Originally Posted by Andreas
    My explanation was that I find it rude to dump somebody that was with me on the dance floor to rush over and have the dance with here, leaving the other person not only w/o a partner but also alone in the middle of the floor.
    ...
    Siobhan and I always have the last dance together. Every time I've explained "last dance belongs to my girlfriend" whoever I've been dancing with has understood and didn't seem offended (why should they? it's nothing personal about them). If I know the last song is coming up, I warn the person beforehand that that's the deal.

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    Re: Save the last dance ...

    Quote Originally Posted by Gary
    Siobhan and I always have the last dance together. Every time I've explained "last dance belongs to my girlfriend" whoever I've been dancing with has understood and didn't seem offended (why should they? it's nothing personal about them). If I know the last song is coming up, I warn the person beforehand that that's the deal.
    At last dance time I ask if partner has someone that they want to dance it with as I make the offer.

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    Re: Save the last dance ...

    I think it's only right that 'real life' partners should end the evening dancing together and I know I'd feel extremely uncomfortable if a man held on to me, for the last dance when his partner was in the room, I'd feel embarrassed and I'd hate to be the cause of any bad feeling between a couple.

    To me, there's no better excuse than being turned down by a man, who wishes to dance the last one, or ANY special track for that matter with his wife. I certainly don't feel offended or have any bad thoughts towards him, quite the reverse in fact!

    Quite recently, on a personal note, I've made a conscious decision, not to ask anyone for the last one.....
    For sometime it would make me feel sad when the last dance came on and I hadn't realised that I'd be putting myself in a position where I was likely to be turned down or, if I didn't get turned down, getting the feeling I wasn't 'really' the one they'd have chosen to be dancing this with, or another thing, putting it bluntly, simply 'mopping up the leftovers', left me on a real downer

    So the decision has been made and I feel a sense of relief that i've taken myself out of the equation, with all those underlying connotations that people attach to the 'last dance'

    I'd just like to add, there ARE exceptions to this rule, there's a handful of guys i feel really comfortable with and visa versa and if they're in the room at the time, we usually end up gravitating towards each other, which a can't deny, feels great! (there's even a couple of them on here! )
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    Re: Save the last dance ...

    Quote Originally Posted by Lory
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    I will always aim to have the last dance with my partner. I've never known anyone be upset by it.

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    Re: Save the last dance ...

    Quote Originally Posted by Lory
    I think it's only right that 'real life' partners should end the evening dancing together and I know I'd feel extremely uncomfortable if a man held on to me, for the last dance when his partner was in the room, I'd feel embarrassed and I'd hate to be the cause of any bad feeling between a couple.

    To me, there's no better excuse than being turned down by a man, who wishes to dance the last one, or ANY special track for that matter with his wife. I certainly don't feel offended or have any bad thoughts towards him, quite the reverse in fact!


    I don't mind dancing with someone else's partner for the last track if they've asked me, and their other half is already dancing, but I tend not to ask the attached men for the last dance (well not if their wives/girlfriends are there that evening anyway ). I'm sure if my husband danced, I would save the last one for him, so I can certainly understand other people doing this.

    I nearly always end up dancing the last dance with women!

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    Re: Save the last dance ...

    Quote Originally Posted by Andreas
    Now here is one.

    Did not find it on search so perhaps not touched yet.

    About a month ago I had this very brief discussion with my girlfriend about the last dance. She asked me to always save it for her. I was rude enough to decline, which did not meet grateful reception.

    My explanation was that I find it rude to dump somebody that was with me on the dance floor to rush over and have the dance with here, leaving the other person not only w/o a partner but also alone in the middle of the floor.

    Now I did notice that I hardly ever stay for the last dance (or dance it) when she is not around, which is very often. But I also do not want to commit to something that I feel is not right.


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    Hi Andreas,

    Keeping the first and last dance (and other numbers,) for your girl/boy friend is really special. Other girls will just melt at your explanation and even if this relationship fades away, you'll probably find that your not single for long..

    I've never told guys that I'm seeing this simple thing, (its kind of a test) on the basis that if they don't have the sensitivity to work it out, they're probably not going to last long with me in any case

    She's must think a lot of you to tell you,

    but if she reads the forum expect ot be dumped
    Last edited by DianaS; 13th-July-2005 at 11:05 AM.

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    Re: Save the last dance ...

    Quote Originally Posted by Lory
    ....we usually end up gravitating towards each other.... (there's even a couple of them on here! )

    what a nice turn of phrase!


    The only time I've heard that before is when Tom Jones enters the room... all women gravitate towards his direction!

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    Quote Originally Posted by under par
    I always to save the last dance for Mrs Par.

    :
    I'm not surprised she's GORGEOUS!
    I would too if I were a man
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