There is a body language I'm sure we're all familiar with, of the man or woman "hovering" at the edge of the dance area, foot tapping, hips moving, clearly waiting to be asked to dance. In these situations, no problem.
Also, I don't usually have a problem with asking one lady out of a group to dance (provided they're not obviously engaged in serious girltalk) but you're right, I do feel an obligation to go back immediately after and ask everyone else in the group (not that this is a problem, but sometimes it's just not possible for one reason or another - so sorry out there if anyone has been upset.)
I am more reluctant to ask a lady if she is sitting down and obviously part of a couple - some people come to a dance just to dance with the one partner, fair enough, and I don't want to cause friction or get a bloody nose!
But ladies have equal rights (and responsibilities) to make sure they get as many dances as the guys - assuming there are enough of us to go round, which I know isn't always the case. I know there's centuries of cultural norms to overcome, but gosh it's better to make the effort to ask, rather than sit on the sidelines just wishin' an' hopin', surely ....
I still remember how crap I was for a long time after I started dancing, and so I am still chuffed when asked to dance - I try not to refuse/postpone unless feeling physically wrecked, as I do know how upsetting it can be to be turned down.
Dunno if this answered any of what Snoops was asking, but it passed the time - thanks for reading this far!!!!
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