Originally Posted by
Andy McGregor
Women (followers) give us their permission to lead them. If women are bouncing their hand or doing anything else which you haven't led, you haven't really been given their permission or at best you've been given conditional permission - "you can lead me but I'm going to do all these things you haven't led".
When leading you do give your partner the freedom to express themselves - but you give it and take it away as the dance progresses. For the lady to hijack you is a legitimate action too. But for her to have a perpetual bounce that doesn't fit the moves you want to do is, IMHO, completely wrong - especially if you don't want to do any moves, maybe just pausing or preparing for the next move.
On the other hand, there are many ladies who do bounce their hand in perpetual motion marking every beat, sometimes the off-beat too! As a guy this is difficult, do you suppress that bounce by holding your hand still? Do you say something? Me? I try to supress the bounce, if that doesn't work I go into the dancing equivalent of 'safe mode' and do nice easy moves, try to smile and say thank you for the lovely dance - then quickly find a new partner.
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