I should go for the roguish hirsuite unkempt look like my DJ hero shouldnt I ? It could hide all sorts of unsightly physical featuresOriginally Posted by Ceroc Jock
I just assumed DavidB smells of roses, it was YOU that assumed it was a bad smell ! Bad SparklesOriginally Posted by Sparkles
I should go for the roguish hirsuite unkempt look like my DJ hero shouldnt I ? It could hide all sorts of unsightly physical featuresOriginally Posted by Ceroc Jock
I got turned down by Gaylord for a dance in Perth....
But, he's promised to bring me maltesers and make it up to me , so I might forgive him!!
Trampy
I've never refused to dance with anyone. Although there are a couple of guys who make me feel uncomfortable, one puts hands where he shouldn't and the other is quite rough. Now some girls might like this , are there any nice ways of saying no to a dance without being rude?
Yeup, just give me their names and you wont have to say a word.Originally Posted by Scarlet O Hara
Has anyone spotted that I have had a bad day today
What makes you think I assumed he smelled of anything?Originally Posted by Dreadful Scathe
I may have meant he was absent of ... erm ... scent (that rhymes - well, kinda )
What's the matter? Tell us all about it...Originally Posted by cerocmetro
The first time I went to Bar Bamboo, I started off turning down several dances because the music was too fast, the dance floor was too crowded, and I was too scared of dancing "in public". Still, that's a nightclub, so different etiquette applies.who on this forum has turned people down for a dance and for what reasons ?
I got turned down by a lovely dancer once but she is ok we have danced since ,I think she has changed her stripes
You say...Originally Posted by Scarlet O Hara
"No, thanks, I don't like the way you touch me on the dance floor", and
"No, thanks, you hurt me when you dance with me."
Neither is rude. It seems to me that you don't go dancing to be felt up or yanked about. It's not rude to protect yourself from such behaviour. And there are plenty of decent guys who will do neither of these things.
Chris
What is wrong with "No, thank you". If the guy persists, just repeat "I said ...", slower, and louder. If he even looks like he is going to open his mouth after that you could try "Why don't you ask my friend?" ( pointing to your worst enemy?)Originally Posted by Scarlet O Hara
Originally Posted by ChrisA
I wouldn't ba able to say something like that to someone!
There is a guy at Glasgow JJ (who i have pointed out to a taxi dancer) who the whole time we danced either felt me up or held me so close and tight i couldn't breathe and he stunk of alcohol and this was like the first couple of dances that night. Now sometimes a bit of flirting is fine on the dance floor but i didn't know this guy and he freaked me out as he was all leary and sleazy, My bum and bits belong to me and if you want to touch them you have to ask!
i have steered well clear of him. And for those who have heard me say thank goodness when i have moved to you in the line up, its because i have missed that guy!
I dont know the guys name and i couldn't even give a good description of him but if you go on a tues night you WILL no who i am talking about!
On the other side of the coin there are lots of lovely guys to dance with and i enjoy dancing with them and unless i have a valid reason... ie getting water/going to the toilet/another dance promised, i never turn a dance down!!!
In those situations? Not really, though some ways are ruder than others.are there any nice ways of saying no to a dance without being rude?
In the case of the wandering hands, I'd go chat to the organiser, and ask them to have a word. Saying no solves the problem for you personally, but just passes it on to other people. Alternatively, "yes, but keep your hands to yourself, ok?", and if s/he doesn't, walk off the dance floor.
In the case of the rough lead, I might try something like "yes, can we try doing air leading?" (or fingertip) or "yes, if you'll try to lead more smoothly this time?", or even "yes, can I lead this one?"
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