Totally agreed. Plus it was a complete pleasure to keep switching with you at FL the other week. You're a bit good at hijacking!Originally Posted by Tessalicious
My answer to this question varies from situation to situation.
I almost always don't do classes as a follower anymore, except sometimes when taxiing. This is for several reasons, but primarily because doing classes as a follower is frustrating and I don't learn as much in a half hour lesson as I would from a single dance with any one good leader (except about how to backlead without being noticed ). However, workshops or fixed-partner classes with top teachers I would choose to do as a follower with a regular partner, since I could learn much more this way.
I have days when my leading is dire and unimaginative, in which case I would much prefer to follow, except for with a few very good friends who will forgive me even if I dance badly with them! On the other hand I have days where I am feeling far too independent and highly-strung to be a good follower, in which case I take the chance to have lots of dances as a leader. When I'm having a good-all-round day, I like to do a variety of both, depending on the song and the available partners.
I guess being a lead is great fun because you get to be in control, you get to set the mood and pace of a dance, and of course you get to dance with the followers, while being a follower is great fun because you get to relax and not have to think too much, but try out stylistic additions and flourishes without spoiling the flow, and you get to dance with all the loverly leaders. So my absolute favourite has to be being able to do both*!
*although it makes it much harder to get round to dancing with everyone you want to dance with in one evening
Totally agreed. Plus it was a complete pleasure to keep switching with you at FL the other week. You're a bit good at hijacking!Originally Posted by Tessalicious
I'm a much better leader than I am a follower. Although there has been the odd night where guys have asked me to dance because they thought I was the best woman there
If I'm to compare leading with standard following I prefer leading - it's a bit like comparing driving and being a passenger in the same car: you're both on the same journey but only the driver chooses where you go. If I were to compare leading with following where I back-lead, hijack and generally show off, I think that I like both equally.
But we do need to consider the question. How do we measure fun. And the question that this question prompts me to ask. Men vs women - who enjoys sex the most?
Originally Posted by Andy McGregor
Surely the answer will lie with whom you lie with.
Originally Posted by under par
I was gonna give you some rep for so much wisdom but the board did not allow for so much generosity at this point.
I've just started to learn lead, at the moment I'm going through a phase where leading in the class then dancing with beginner guys is making my following worse, but I'm sure this will pass. For classes, I'm enjoying learning to lead - I love learning. Its also nice to be able to get ladies up for a dance, esp on an evening if there is a shortage of men.
But following would definitely be my choice. I love it, I feel I have much more connection with my partner when I follow. (And esp in tango, I like the man being in charge! )
Tut Tut! Trust Andy to come up with a question like this!And the question that this question prompts me to ask. Men vs women - who enjoys sex the most?
It illustrates the silliness of the original question - the answer is usually 'depends'.Originally Posted by Donna
I agree.. tis a stupid question.It illustrates the silliness of the original question - the answer is usually 'depends'.
Women. Ooh, hang on, did you mean with or without partners?Originally Posted by Andy McGregor
Originally Posted by Feelingpink
Who's leading?!?Originally Posted by Andy McGregor
Well the man leads but following is much more enjoyable so er...the woman!Originally Posted by Ceroc Jock
I prefer following, mainly because a) I get bored with my limited repertoire as a leader and b) because as TT (I think, just read 2 pages, too lazy to scroll back up) said, you can "go with the flow more".
However, as my leading has improved, I enjoy leading more - and sometimes, like Tessalicious, I even find myself more in the mood for leading than following. So I'm going to keep working at my lead.
Lead switching is fun - but I think I'll always prefer to be a follower.
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