View Poll Results: Reasons I don't like dancing with certain people are...

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  • New or Inexperienced

    10 11.90%
  • Limited repertoire

    8 9.52%
  • You don't know them

    1 1.19%
  • BO/smelly breath

    69 82.14%
  • Rough

    71 84.52%
  • Too Flash for your liking

    17 20.24%
  • Doesn't smile

    27 32.14%
  • Doesn't make eye contact

    33 39.29%
  • Makes YOU feel inadequate

    39 46.43%
  • Gives unwanted criticism

    42 50.00%
  • Sings out loud!

    4 4.76%
  • Dances too close

    8 9.52%
  • Says nice things but it makes you feel uncomfortable

    7 8.33%
  • Gives the impression they're doing you a favour

    44 52.38%
  • They're wearing shorts and black shoes and socks

    19 22.62%
  • They're dressed too sexily.. very short skirt/low top etc

    5 5.95%
  • You feel they're too young, for you to ask

    10 11.90%
  • They're too old for you

    1 1.19%
  • Talks during the dance

    7 8.33%
  • Nosey

    8 9.52%
  • Their hair whips you in the face

    5 5.95%
  • Long nails

    14 16.67%
  • You think they're too good for you

    14 16.67%
  • You think 'they think' they're too good for you

    35 41.67%
  • They don't take it seriously enough!

    7 8.33%
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Thread: An experiment

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    Re: An experiment

    Quote Originally Posted by Lory View Post
    He looked me up and down, and in a tone that denoted a very definite refusal said.. I haven't seen you dance yet!
    You have to admire his honesty.

    However, he was very thoughtless. I think I'd be lost for words if someone said this to me.

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    Re: An experiment

    Quote Originally Posted by Andy McGregor View Post
    I think I'd be lost for words if someone said this to me.
    "So come onto the floor and get an arms-length view."
    "It's ok, I wouldn't have asked if I thought you were too good for me."
    "What's dancing got to do with it? I want to go home with you!"

    Not that I'd have thought of any of those in the 2 seconds after rejection..


    Back on topic, I've selected about six of those. I'm lucky I get a dance at all!

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    Re: An experiment

    They're wearing shorts and black shoes and socks


    Although, to be frank, my particular hatred is for black & white shoes (less bothered about the shorts).

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    Re: An experiment

    Quote Originally Posted by David Bailey View Post
    Actually, my main reason for not dancing with someone isn't on the list: "I haven't seen them dance".
    Unless the intelligence gathered isn't for deciding whether to dance with them, that wouldn't be relevant to the question.

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    Re: An experiment

    Don't really understand this. Are we playing Emperor's New Clothes? For me the top reason for wanting to dance /not wanting to dance with someone is probably the question of whether they are good/ not good at dancing. (Somewhat subjective, I know.)

    If they're good at dancing, which is, like, the main thing I go dancing for, then almost all the negative reasons given pale into relative insignificance. Who would mind if their partner whiffed a bit if they had, for example, superb musicality? Not me.

    If they're not good at dancing then other positive factors need to come into play to make me want to dance with them, like whether they're a mate, or fun, or likeable, or nicely-dressed, or look like they would really like to be asked, or smell nice, or are trying hard to learn, or are available. But the actual dance experience is still pretty paramount.

    It would not usually be a fun evening for me to spend the majority of the time with unskilled (for whatever reason) dancers. I could certainly find things to enjoy about it (and do), but it would be hard to maintain my motivation long-term if that was the main diet, no matter how nice and sweet-smelling the other punters were.

    Quote Originally Posted by RobD
    Pedantic I know but I think the poll would be more relevantly titled 'I don't like asking people to dance because...' since many of the options, if applicable, would make me reluctant to ask but would not necessarily mean I didn't like dancing with them.
    Yes, there's a whole load of dance politics between being willing to accept and being willing to ask.

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    Re: An experiment

    Quote Originally Posted by jivecat View Post

    Who would mind if their partner whiffed a bit if they had, for example, superb musicality?
    ME!

    I've actually been in the situation where I know a person's a great dancer but avoided dancing with them again, exactly for that reason!

    I seriously can't wait to get away, if someone's whiffy!
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    Re: An experiment

    or had a fag and will stink your clothes and your hands. I hate being in the COZ room, saying yes to a dance and then realising the person has walked back in from sucking some foul brand of cigarette all over them.

    Ironically herbal, menthol and cigars I can tolerate.

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    Re: An experiment

    Quote Originally Posted by Lory View Post
    ME!

    I've actually been in the situation where I know a person's a great dancer but avoided dancing with them again, exactly for that reason!

    I seriously can't wait to get away, if someone's whiffy!
    Maybe it depends on what else is on offer. And the degree of whiffiness.

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    Re: An experiment

    Quote Originally Posted by jivecat View Post
    Maybe it depends on what else is on offer. And the degree of whiffiness.

    Doesn’t matter how good a dancer they are if they lift up their arm and knock you out with the smell, you’re going to remember the dance for all the wrong reasons.

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    Re: An experiment

    Quote Originally Posted by Lory View Post
    I seriously can't wait to get away, if someone's whiffy!
    Quote Originally Posted by rtwwpad View Post
    or had a fag and will stink your clothes and your hands. I hate being in the COZ room, saying yes to a dance and then realising the person has walked back in from sucking some foul brand of cigarette all over them.
    Quote Originally Posted by jivecat View Post
    Maybe it depends on what else is on offer. And the degree of whiffiness.
    Quote Originally Posted by Maxine View Post
    Doesn’t matter how good a dancer they are if they lift up their arm and knock you out with the smell, you’re going to remember the dance for all the wrong reasons
    You're all missing a trick here. TELL THEM THEY SMELL!! You don't have to be rude about it (You don't have to, but I probably am a bit too blunt about it )

    Here's a few lines I've used in the past...

    "I'll have another dance with you when you've changed your shirt and refreshed your armpits"

    "You're really sweating, do you have some deodorant in your bag? If not I can lead you some of mine"

    "It's hot in here tonight isn't it? Can you smell that BO? It's not you is it?"

    "I've told you before, you stink now fek off and have a shower and clean your teeth you smelly, rancid twat!"

    The last one is restricted to repeat offenders who haven't listened to my more subtle lines.

    Almost all of the stinkers I've encountered aren't the really good dancers anyway so they need all the help they can get. They'll thank you in the long run for being honest.

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    Re: An experiment

    I have to say that the only people I don't enjoy dancing with are those who haven't grasped the concept of following. And I'm not talking about beginners, rather a select few who practically refuse to move. I've come off the dance floor feeling like I've done 15 min weight lifting at the gym.

    I would never refuse a dance if they asked me, but I don't ask them to dance.

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    Re: An experiment

    Quote Originally Posted by rtwwpad View Post
    cigars I can tolerate.
    How many women have smoked a cigar, before asking you to dance in the COZ then?
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    Re: An experiment

    Quote Originally Posted by Lory View Post
    How many women have smoked a cigar, before asking you to dance in the COZ then?
    Does Monica Lewinsky do MJ? Is 'dance in the COZ' a euphemism??

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    Re: An experiment

    Quote Originally Posted by Double Trouble View Post
    "I've told you before, you stink now fek off and have a shower and clean your teeth you smelly, rancid twat!"
    I could've used that line a couple of times this morning with some of the stinky twats I have to work with.
    I mean, who comes to work in perfectly clean, pressed trousers and shirt, highly polished shoes and reeking of BO at 09:30?
    Then a meeting at 11:00 with a bloke whose breath nearly made me lose consciousness!

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    Re: An experiment

    Quote Originally Posted by Gav View Post
    I mean, who comes to work in perfectly clean, pressed trousers and shirt, highly polished shoes and reeking of BO at 09:30?
    Geeks, in a word (not all of them, but a notable proportion).

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    Re: An experiment

    A few times, I've been asked to dance by ladies who've had too much to drink.
    It's always an uncomfortable and not very enjoyable experience.
    I'd imagine the same would be true for ladies being led by an inebriated guy!

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    Re: An experiment

    1 and she's a slip of a thing.

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    Re: An experiment

    I agree with Rob – there's lots of folks I might not want to ask for a dance, but I will like dancing with them. Usually it's because I'm intimidated by them. However, if they've asked me, or the dance turns out well, I'll like it.

    Anyhow, here are my "Reasons I don't like dancing with certain people":

    1) I don't find their dance style compatible with mine.
    2) They hurt me.
    3) They smell.
    4) They don't appear to enjoy it when I dance with them.
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    Re: An experiment

    Quote Originally Posted by Lory View Post
    What are the main reasons you don't like dancing with people?
    Eh? I don't understand the question.

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    Re: An experiment

    I only have two, neither of which are on the list:

    1) Have already danced with them, and they're rubbish. Not just inexperienced, new or nervous, but genuinely awful. Miss Spaghetti Arms, Miss Disoriented Giraffe, and Miss I Do Not Follow, I'm talking about you.

    2) Rude, up their own bum, or makes no effort to even acknowledge your existence let alone make eye contact or say hello.

    Thankfully I've only ever encountered a very small number of either!

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