An experiment

[Lory]

I'm adding an anonymous poll, so there's no point in being nice - just be brutally honest

What are the main reasons you don't like dancing with people?
You can tick as many as you like!

I'm predicting that the top reasons won't be because someone's new/inexperienced or has a very limited repertoire

But lets see if this is 'really' true

sorry if I didn't mention your top hate but I've only got space for 25 options

[rtwwpad]

I'm adding an anonymous poll, so there's no point in being nice - just be brutally honest

What are the main reasons you don't like dancing with people?
You can tick as many as you like!

I'm predicting that the top reasons won't be because someone's new/inexperienced or has a very limited repertoire

But lets see if this is 'really' true

sorry if I didn't mention your top hate but I've only got space for 25 options

is it also invisible?

[Lory]

is it also invisible?

Blimey, I'm not that fast at typing! You have to submit the thread, before you can make the poll!

[David Bailey]

"They're dressed too sexily..."

Sorry, I don't understand that option, can you explain?

[robd]

Pedantic I know but I think the poll would be more relevantly titled 'I don't like asking people to dance because...' since many of the options, if applicable, would make me reluctant to ask but would not necessarily mean I didn't like dancing with them.

[Lory]

Pedantic I know but I think the poll would be more relevantly titled 'I don't like asking people to dance because...' since many of the options, if applicable, would make me reluctant to ask but would not necessarily mean I didn't like dancing with them.

Hmm, I see what you mean BUT I want to cover why people would avoid being asked, as well as asking!

[ducasi]

I agree with Rob – there's lots of folks I might not want to ask for a dance, but I will like dancing with them. Usually it's because I'm intimidated by them. However, if they've asked me, or the dance turns out well, I'll like it.

Anyhow, here are my "Reasons I don't like dancing with certain people":

1) I don't find their dance style compatible with mine.
2) They hurt me.
3) They smell.
4) They don't appear to enjoy it when I dance with them.

[Lory]

"They're dressed too sexily..."

Sorry, I don't understand that option, can you explain?

Well, apparently (so I've heard) some men don't like asking sexily dressed ladies to dance because

a)they think their partner won't like it
B) it makes them feel like a perve
c) they worry that other people might think they're a perve!

Clearly David, you don't suffer from any of the above

[David Bailey]

Well, apparently (so I've heard) some men don't like asking sexily dressed ladies to dance because

a)they think their partner won't like it
B) it makes them feel like a perve
c) they worry that other people might think they're a perve!

Clearly David, you don't suffer from any of the above

Nope, I have no fear that people might think I'm a perve.

Everyone knows I'm a perve.

[JiveLad]

"They're dressed too sexily..."

Sorry, I don't understand that option, can you explain?

Maybe that option should also include some gender balancing comments. Instead of just "low cut tops, short skirts", how about including: "hairy chests, pert bottom, big lunch box".

[geoff332]

Will we find the converse experiment - reasons why I will seek someone out to dance?

[Andy McGregor]

"They're dressed too sexily..."

Sorry, I don't understand that option, can you explain?

I think I suffer from this. I can still remember a lady actually stopping mid-way through a dance with me because I was wearing fishnet stockings and suspenders

When you think about it, being "too sexy" is actually a curse

[David Bailey]

Actually, my main reason for not dancing with someone isn't on the list: "I haven't seen them dance".

[David Franklin]

I think I suffer from this. I can still remember a lady actually stopping mid-way through a dance with me because I was wearing fishnet stockings and suspenders

As I recall, she said:

"I wouldn't have minded if you'd asked before you pulled them off me..."

When you think about it, being "too sexy" is actually a curse

When I think about you and "too sexy" at the same time it certainly feels like I've been cursed...

[Gadget]

What are the main reasons you don't like dancing with people?

Eh? I don't understand the question.

[CheesyRobMan]

I only have two, neither of which are on the list:

1) Have already danced with them, and they're rubbish. Not just inexperienced, new or nervous, but genuinely awful. Miss Spaghetti Arms, Miss Disoriented Giraffe, and Miss I Do Not Follow, I'm talking about you.

2) Rude, up their own bum, or makes no effort to even acknowledge your existence let alone make eye contact or say hello.

Thankfully I've only ever encountered a very small number of either!

[Andy McGregor]

2) Rude, up their own bum, or makes no effort to even acknowledge your existence let alone make eye contact or say hello.

The funny thing is that I used to find a number of women were like this. However, I've not met anyone who meets this description for years.

Have women at dancing changed? No, I think I've changed and this has changed how I think of my partners.

However, smelly women still stink, there's been no change to my sense of smell

[CheesyRobMan]

The funny thing is that I used to find a number of women were like this. However, I've not met anyone who meets this description for years.

Have women at dancing changed? No, I think I've changed and this has changed how I think of my partners.

However, smelly women still stink, there's been no change to my sense of smell

I suppose smell is a rather objective thing, either someone stinks or they don't! But I can see how the others would be more subjective. As I said it is very rare to find someone who is definitely being rude and/or not acknowledging you where you can say with certainty that it's not just the way you're seeing it.

[Amir]

I marked 'rough' to cover people who squeeze or pull harder than I like, even though it might not be that 'rough'.

Apart from that, what doesn't seem to be covered in the list and prevents me enjoying a dance is when someone is too stiff or tense. It feels so restrictive. Spaghetti arms I don't mind. I prefer alphabet soup, but you know, noodle arms gives you the perfect opening to quote dirty dancing and pull a Swayze, so who’s complaining?

The other thing not on the list is when someone is nervous, or seems anxious about not ‘missing’ leads. Maybe it’s a ‘they think they aren’t good enough.’ I hate that. What are you gonna quote, ghost busters?

If someone is relaxed in their body and attitude, I’ll probably have a good time, as long as the music is good.