I don't know about the book, but I do know I need to change my name.
I just read the thread as "Gav? Want to be cured?" and thought "what have I done that DS has picked up on now!?"
Struggling with homosexuality? Are you a man? Are you gay purely because of an inadequate father-son relationship ? Are you succumbing to the extremes of a gay life style but find moustaches tickle and leather chaffs?
Buy this "Reparative Therapy" book and you could be cured of your homosexuality. Rejoice.
Is it just me or does this book sound like pretentious nonsense?
I don't know about the book, but I do know I need to change my name.
I just read the thread as "Gav? Want to be cured?" and thought "what have I done that DS has picked up on now!?"
Oh dear. I think what apalls me the most is that this so called doctor is actually allowed to 'treat' people.
I've seen some incredibly awful ideas put out into the world, but this is right up there and how such rubbish is allowed to be published I will never know. I wonder if the good doctor will be helping to cure non-lesbian homosexual women next.
He's referring to the terms of the book "non-gay homosexuals", and in that context "non-lesbian homosexuals" still works i.e. It would be women who don't embrace lesbian culture and/or lifestyle whilst remaining homosexual. er...if you look at sideways at a distance of 2 light years, the concept makes perfect sense
ah, I see, they just read magazines about it on the bus and leave it there.
The underlying principle seems to be that if you're uncomfortable about being a homosexual, it's because you're not really gay, you simply have a gap in the development of your gender identity: with appropriate therapy you can fill this gap and become heterosexual. What a load of dingo's kidneys.
But there is a serious question here - if someone goes to a therapist because he's uncomfortable about being a homosexual, should the therapist work on making him more comfortable about it, or less homosexual? If the patient wants to be "cured", what is the right course of action?
I expect it would be to find out what their problem really is, and if they are actually gay then they need to realise it is a part of what makes them "them". The rest is building their self confidence and helping them find purpose in their life. Is it really any more complicated than that ?
Yes it can be more complicated than that. What if it was someone who was married with children and really not wanting to destroy their family because they were feeling urges to be gay? Being confident wont help, they want to know how to not feel gay any more, for the sake of their family.
They want to lie and be unhappy for the sake of other people ? what about for their sake ? would those others be selfish enough to expect such a sacrafice ? Also, other than with some severe brainwashing, how can someone live a lie and NOT have it affect the lives around them in gradually escalating ways ?
I can see where your coming from.
What if being gay wasn't that important but their family and the happiness of their family was.
Maybe 'coming out' and living life as a gay person on a day to day basis doesn't appeal to them. Maybe they see it as stressful and inconvenient and the implications of 'coming out' would destroy all the 'good' things about their life, apart from fulfilling a sexual urge that rears its head every now and then! (no pun intended)
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