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Reply With QuoteYep the truth was it was noticeable because the shirt had been dry cleaned.......I was saying nothingOriginally Posted by stewart38
At least ya asked which showed willing Stewart my love....If you are talking about ‘truth’ on this thread ........after me and the other half moved in to our new house it was about 9 weeks before I asked where do you put the dishwasher tablet
Sometimes telling the truth is too much to bare
and ya didn't follow the asking with.... my god Caroline, you use that dishwasher so fantastically.
Yep the truth was it was noticeable because the shirt had been dry cleaned.......I was saying nothing
Its only bollox if it isn't true.
OR
Are you part of the knock them whatever brigade.
Disagree, its bollox true or otherwise
Im not part of any brigade hunny.
It looks like you are. If you think a true positive post is bollox it seems to me you are.
Oh, how true! (some more than others)It can be very hard to take negative feedback and the person receiving it often takes it as being far more personal and forceful than the giver ever intended. That is why the structure of starting with good stuff is such a great idea - if someone tells me something they like about me (OK they need a good imagination) then I can take the "room for improvement" stuff much more readily.
In my limited world I reckon things work as follows:
Speaker says: I love your work
Receiver hears: That was good
S: I like you
R: You are OK
S: That was OK
R: That could have been a lot better
S: I didn't really like it but it wasn't bad - just not my thing.
R: You are so crap it's unbelievable
S: You were rubbish
R: (so this is what it feels like to be shat on from a great height or to be appraised by the judges on SCD - I want to curl up and die)
Or something like that. Or maybe it's just me
A compliment sandwich is supposed to be the ideal.
Compliment - negative feedback - Compliment
(Although even that doesn't work on the more touchy amongst us)
Last edited by Cruella; 14th-October-2008 at 03:06 PM.
true postive posts are one thing... ego building, pat on the back, full of exagerated bullshit posting is another.....
i think sometimes that i read these things and i know all the people involved and what they think of them in reality and its all BOLLOX.
just sometimes however.....
And Ant, just so we are clear..... im not part of any brigade.
Thanks for clarifying your comment on bollox. Its a shame your personal feelings sometimes get in the way.
Obvoiusly not clarified enough for you Ant.
My personal feelings have nothing to do with it. Its my knowledge of people and their personal feelings that have a lot to do with it.
You see, people post and people meet and people talk. Im a listener.
Bollox is what it is. Luvvie duvvie bollox.
Not always however.
Hope that clarifies it.again. smiley to show i can be luvie duvie
Call me stupid but if someone really didn't like someone why would they waste their time and effort to falsely compliment them. If I make a point of saying something about someone it's due to an urge to do so because of an imprint they left on me, certainly not just for the sake of it......
As i said Jay Jay, not always.
Fair enough but I think you also speak your mind!!! and in this instance we disagree a little.
By the way I am still waiting for my next dance from you ( you are my favourite partner).
Fair enough but I think you also speak your mind
By the way I am still waiting for my next dance from you ( you are my favourite partner).
so sweet xxx
I will always compliment someone if i feel the urge to do so
I think the thing is this thread has come out of a certain number of us who attended (and agreed that it was) one of the best weekends ever put on in the modern jive world
Everyone (well almost everyone) got on with each other. Most dances with strangers were a surprise as to how good they were from both partners point of view, and the whole weekend had a party atmosphere until the very last track was played by one of a band of hugely popular djs.
All of us have come back feeling very positive about our fellow forumites and most posted onto a forum that has spent the last few months lurking in the world of bitching
Then you have those that didnt go and cant or dont want to understand why we are feeling so high on a vibe that was incredible (and to put it bluntly seem to be jealous of those that did go and want to bring the rest of us back down to where we were before we went)
All of the big bad ceroc cant put on a weekender was proved untrue this weekend and some want to spoil that feeling
As i have said in a few posts lately this is not real life its not life or death for some its about a passion for others its about a business or money but for the most of us its a hobby thats being spoiled by bickering not true or constructive critisism which will eventually kill this forum think on people think on
Well said mate.
Personally i would like to see people getting on in the future and i wish all the very best to everyone. Now may be the time to install a happier mood in the world of dance, and dance just for the sake of dance.
God bless us all.
I've always said that on the whole MJ and cerocers are a great bunch, and it's great to see somebody get a pat on the back,and it's great to recieve one (How many of you smile if you get a rep) so how can luvvie comments be a bad thing. It's a shame how most of these 'luvvie-inspired' threads are turned into something much less favourable though.
Ya see this thanks thing thats going on. Whats that all about... you know wot that is.. more pats on the backs..
I love to get rep of course i do but i like to get it for doing something worth while or making somebody laugh or making a good constructive point... i dont like getting rep cause i gave you an ego boost.
We can all be happy on the forum and nobody is talking about negatives.... im just saying the luvvie duvvie thing is a bit much sometimes especially if your new or not used to the forum.. It just comes accross as clique and to be quite honest... vomit enducing.
My opinion only of course and not always the case
We can all be happy on the forum and nobody is talking about negatives.... im just saying the luvvie duvvie thing is a bit much sometimes especially if your new or not used to the forum.. It just comes accross as clique and to be quite honest... vomit enducing.
My opinion only of course and not always the case
Well said , I can only hope one day ill be able to post like you
Actually DTS,when you mention luvvieness(?) I assume that you are talking about the need for forumites to constantly list the names of all the 'fabulous' dances they had whith Tom,Dick and Harry,or what 'fabulous' sets certain Dj's played.It does seem to repeat itself time and time again and its not just weekenders,weekly freestyles too.
As for positive and negative feedback,I think it is essential for the organisers,especially weekenders,in order that their customers are satisfied and get good value for their money.
It obviously works because if you take Breeze as an example how many negative comments have there been?They obviously listened to what people have said in the past and tried to address those issues.In fact it was favourably compared to the Holy Gathering (Southport) and some were even so bold as to say it was the best w/ender they had been on.
Eventually we must get to a point where there will be hardly anything to be negative about.
Methinks you have got the wrong end of the stick there.I dont think Trouble is talking about positive and negative feedback.I assume that she is referring to what Rocky once described as 'brown nosing'.
If it isnt Trouble I apologise.
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