Compliments or criticism/advice?

[Martin]

Do you tend to hand out compliments or criticism/advice to your dance partners? Do men tend to criticize more than women or vice/versa?

Normally a compliment, especially if I have not danced with that person for a while.

A new find = "you are great to dance with" - if it is true.

Recently, when a lady I dance with now and again said "I am getting a bit dizzy tonight" - I smilled, kept dancing, and then saw the problem... So I asked her if she wanted a tip to get less dizzy.

We danced the next track, with her "taking up the tip" No more dizziness.

[Easily Led]

Normally a compliment, especially if I have not danced with that person for a while.

A new find = "you are great to dance with" - if it is true.

Recently, when a lady I dance with now and again said "I am getting a bit dizzy tonight" - I smilled, kept dancing, and then saw the problem... So I asked her if she wanted a tip to get less dizzy.

We danced the next track, with her "taking up the tip" No more dizziness.

What was the tip? Spotting?

[Andy McGregor]

What was the tip? Spotting?

The last few dozen times I've given a tip on not getting dizzy it was "you'll find you get dizzy if you look at the floor or your feet: just look at your partners face and you'll be fine" - or something like that.

[dep]

The last few dozen times I've given a tip on not getting dizzy .......just look at your partners face......

isn't swooning just as bad as dizzy?

[Andy McGregor]

isn't swooning just as bad as dizzy?

I've never found this to be a problem

[dep]

The last few dozen times I've given a tip on not getting dizzy .......just look at your partners face......

isn't swooning just as bad as dizzy?

I've never found this to be a problem

I bump into it all the the time. If only.

[dave the scaffolder]

Oh I say I give tips all of the time to the girly trouts lucky enought to dance with me.

I recall one lady who I gave loads of advice to, it was along the lines of.

Stand up straight, look me in the eye. RELAX for goodness sake, stop being so bloody clumpy and have a wash , clean your teeth you old Badger and for goodness sake RELAX. The best thing I can say about your hair is that most of it is on your head and a course of lip waxing would not go amiss.

Honest dancing with you is like moving furniture around, RELAX no one is looking at you everybody is watching me being magnificent.


I think she was grateful for my sensitive input.

DTS XXX XXX

[Agente Secreto]

I think she was grateful for my sensitive input.

Did she swoon?

[CJ]

Did she swoon?

She must have... they became an item!!

[dave the scaffolder]

Did she swoon?

More of a flounce out of the door really, can not for the life of me think what upset her, probably time of the month thing.

DTS XXX XX

[Martin]

What was the tip? Spotting?

The last few dozen times I've given a tip on not getting dizzy it was "you'll find you get dizzy if you look at the floor or your feet: just look at your partners face and you'll be fine" - or something like that.

And the prize goes to....... Andy this time

[jivecat]

Thanks for the link, interesting reading but very very frustrating as it's pretty much complete bo11ocks.
Dan

Thank goodness someone else thinks that, I thought it was just me. I've been on numerous education courses where this theory has been trotted out by some intense devotee as the most essential piece of knowledge a teacher can have. Everyone just sits there drinking it all in with bovine unquestioning looks on their faces. I never believe a word of it and think there are massive holes in the arguments but daring to refer to them usually gets me labelled as class trouble-maker.
I was pleased to note that the "bad science" column writer in the Guardian also ripped Brain Gym to shreds - I could never believe how schools put this into practice so obediently without questioning the bizarre practices which it advocated.

[Trouble]

She must have... they became an item!!

I didn't know you and DTS were dating.

[Magic Hans]

Personally, I try to criticise by omission!!! Some might say, that this is not criticising at all!! I certainly would not falsely compliment an aspect offered up for feedback ... I'd compliment another aspect!

[Magic Hans]

I did pause to think about how one could 'see' a smell, but decided that see flows much better in the sentence than 'smell'.

Thanks for the link, interesting reading but very very frustrating as it's pretty much complete bo11ocks. The last couple of years of my life have been dedicated to studying the brain, and I'd rather trust my own judgement than someone who can't even spell corpus callosum . Anyway, time and place Dan, time and place...

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Complete b*ll*cks it might be .... however a goodly number of sales persons still, I believe, pay good money to do courses on NLP ... which incorporate some of these ideas.

Having said that, anyone taking any model for granted without checking it out with themselves is quite foolish to say the least.