Ummmm..... no
No-one leads or follows perfectly. It takes time to learn - especially leading. It has taken me 22 years, and I'm still learning. If it was easy then everyone would be a lot better.
Lead & follow is a reasonably simple language that we use to do complicated things. It has several elements (connection, momentum, flashlighting & shaping etc), and different leaders will combine these elements in different ways. An individual leader might make subtly changes to lead different things, but other leaders can lead the same move in completely different ways. There is no single right way but there are several wrong ways, and the ladies have to cope with all of them.
Also no matter how much leaders kid themselves that everything is pure lead & follow, there are lots of things that followers have to do to make some moves work. These might be conscious decisions, muscle memory, or just by accident.
A few tips.
- Never deliberately give somebody a bad dance. I know a lot of men that ladies avoid, and you don't want to join the list. (It is surprisingly easy to join.)
- If the lady doesn't do what you expected, then don't assume it is her fault, even if other ladies can follow that move. You will learn far more by figuring out how to lead that one lady than comparing her to the others.
- Don't place any conditions on accepting an invitation to dance. Many ladies don't like asking, and only do it because otherwise they wouldn't dance all night. It is a privilege to be asked, not a right.
- And the biggest tip - you have an advantage in Scotland of one of the best teachers of technique in Ceroc (Franck). If you really want to get good, then go to his workshops. He can teach you the technique, but how you apply it is up to you.
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