Hi DD
I can see where your coming from, and I myself have faced similar issues when trying to impove my standard of dance. However, very early on in MJ when I was starting quite a few of the experienced ladies helped me, and encouraged me, when I felt like giving up. Now it seems only right to put something back in, as otherwise where are the next generation of experienced dancers going to get experience dancing with good leads.
You seem at present to be fixated on learning new moves, and executing them. Whilst have new moves is great, being able to execute moves by leading them well is much better. Yes, some beginners can be a night mare to dance with, ( I have scars literally to prove that), but some of those will be brillant dancers, and some +ve encouragement goes along way. Also dancing with beginners should allow you to modify your lead to help them "get" the move, and improve you ability to adapt to your partners dance level.
I am guilty of rarely asking new people to dance, but as a rule I would never turn down a beginner request to dance (I recall what bottle it took when I started, to asked experienced followers to dance with me). Also if I do end up dancing with someone who is somewhat challanging to lead, then I use it as an oppertunity to try a be a little more self aware, of what I am doing (posture, eye contact, styling etc) and if I can somehow improve it. That way even a painful dance may contribute to incremantal improvements in your own dance style.
Onkar
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