Thanks Cru & TB is the same for me..
I spent nearly 20 years doing the above and maintain it is the hardest, but most satisfying job I have ever done (and still do, as you will always be a parent)!!... and yes, I feel I have been very lucky and priviledged to have been able to do so.. I am fortunate to have 3 well-balanced decent teenagers (most of the time).. so absolutely no regrets whatsoever..
... I am now ready to face the world again and start work as they are all pretty independant..... Nowthat thought, I find REALLY terrifying...
My children are almost all teenagers now but why does that mean I should go to work? BY TWIRLIE BIRD
Absolutely not if you can financially afford it.I have worked full time since mine were at primary school and I wish I could have been there after school for them as teenagers they need you just as much then if not more so !
Enjoy them xx
Cleaners came for the first time this morning and it was a disaster ! I've already been feeling worried about it and annoyed with myself that I can't do it all, but I had settled myself by thinking that they do it for a living and they'll not know me and therefore can't go around talking about how disgraceful the house is to anyone who knows me (who, admittedly, already know what my house looks like anyway...I'm not saying I'm rational!). So, I was a bit shocked when the girlfriend of one of my husbands friends turned up. She's a horror! She was in every room, even the rooms I'd told them not to open (not cleaning, just noseying). She spent part of the hour making comments to her partner like 'When my kids were little, I would never leave things like this...blah...blah'. She stood around for ten minutes slagging off my husband (for working away), slagging off her boyfriend and slagging off their other friend and, now that I've looked at the house, half the stuff I asked for hasn't been done! It wouldn't be so bad if I was feeling like myself but, having recently given birth, I'm in a bit of a hormonal state.
This woman came to visit us around Christmas with my hubby's friend and she wasn't pleasant. Sat for most of the night talking about snobs who own their own house (eh, like us?).
Think I'll need to just continue not doing my housework on my own
Absolutely. Ensure that no-one else hires them, and that her reputation is tarnished. I'd report back to the firm as well, complain like hell and refuse to pay the full amount since the full job didn't get done. That was appalling behaviour.
Can you ask around the village and see if anyone can recommend a cleaner?
And whatever happens, don't beat yourself up about whatever state your home is in. It's no-one's business but yours, and we're all good at different things.
Ring the company and register a complaint!
* for entering areas of the house that were not to be entered
* for work not done
* for inapppropirate chatter
If work requested hasn't been done then the company hasn't up held their side of the bargin.
you could also request that that particular woman not be sent to you again
and then change companies if you don't like the response you get
- best cleaner my mum ever had was through word of mouth - maybe ask around ...
sorry it was such a terrible experience for you
It is? maybe some places, but who cares if people are frowning at you ? Hitting me with sticks - now I'd be more concerned about THAT
But surely you try to get them into a nursery school when they are old enough to go anyway but are still, in the main, a stay at home parent.
All too often absent fathers leave the family home and try to keep up the pretence of being "good" fathers by demanding the children when it suits their social schedule whilst trying to get as much cash out of the ex as legally possible. It would be nice if the children came first . One story I'm thinking of had the husband, who had at least one and possibly many more affairs, walk out on his wife and three children, only to then demand the "too big" 4 bedroom house be sold so he could get halve the proceeds. The wife pointed out that it was in a good catchement area for a good school that 2 of the children already went to, and that him leaving is hardly likely to affect the number of rooms needed. Luckily, the courts agreed.
If you want to leave, you have your reasons, that's fine - but realise that money should go INTO the house for the children not OUT of the house to support your new single life.
Thats weird to me too - chasing money or a career at the expensive of family life makes me wonder why some people bother.
Quality of life no better? Than when? where? Are you having a laugh ?
There's also evidence to the contrary: one study found that by the age of 12, the only apparent benefit of nursery education was a bigger vocabulary. More worryingly, several studies appear to show that the more a child goes to nursery, the more aggressive they become (good article here). There's an argument to be made that too much nursery is a bad thing, which personally I agree with.
Luckily enough, my employer is pretty on the ball with this, and I'll be dropping to a 4-day week. Hopefully my other half can too, but her employers are American owned, and therefore the phrase "work/life balance" is one they're still getting to grips with, to put it politely...
I was referring to career progression - there's a fear amongst those who view their working life as a career that taking time off to care for dependents (children, partners, parents) that they aren't committed and therefore not worthy of promotion. I think this attitude is wrong, but there many people whom it would influence.
Everyone has different motivations, and promotion might be for personal job satisfaction, but it might also be to provide a better standard of living for the family. Taking time out can frustrate in more ways that one.
I'd love to be a housewife (but without the kids). Imagine being able to go out dancing late on week nights without worrying about an early start to get to work the following morning.
I can just see me half heartedly flicking a duster round the lounge before doing what I want with the rest of the day.
Daisy
(A 9-5 Little FLower)
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