I agree with Fletch that it is the way people are refused that matters, there is no need to cause the person to feel inadequate by being rude and inconsiderate. I recall all the people who were lovely to me when I started dancing and how my confidence grew because of them. Having manners and respect costs nothing .
Last edited by rubyred; 15th-April-2008 at 12:26 PM.
if you love the life you live then you'll get a lot more done
It's so much easier to learn as a child, in any sphere.
I did ballet and tap as a child, only for about 6 months, but who knows what impact it has on my dancing today?
Then the youth club disco at 12.
My son has a perfect natural quarter to three turn out, and I never even knew there was such a thing till recently, or that he had it.
He's never danced. Too busy with his boxing, but he says he will go when he has time.
Last edited by Astro; 15th-April-2008 at 02:55 PM.
but like a bad penny, I keep coming back
oooo just reminiscing, my youth club disco's, when I first started to mingle with the stars, Roger Taylor (DuranDuran) played drums in a group called the Sent Organs, and Steven Tin Tin Duffy was jigging around to the tunes. oooo those were the days, how old am I on Saturday
He did refuse me b4 Fletch that night.. I didn't even mention it to Fletch until I found out he had refused her! I agree that it is the way in which a dance is refused is more hurtful that the refusal itself... i.e. I have been refused for reasons which are plausible, drink, too hot etc etc but this guy just looked me up and down and said "no" in a condescending / laughable tone. That hurt more than the actual no. But me being me.. I asked a guy on the next table... NEXT!!!
Don't change Fletch! You are you and we love you for it You stick up for those who, for whatever reason, are unable to stick up for themselves xx
U r not a bully.. You stick up for those that feel unable to fight their own corner so to speak. A bully, in my definition, is someone who puts other people down because they feel "not good enough" themselves.. i.e they put themselves down because they are down on themselves, to make themselves feel better
I'm not sure you understood the argument you illustrated. It wasn't that the children weren't protected.
It was the wide footprint of allowing children.
It could be argued children at a venue can be kept closely supervised at all times, and be little trouble to anyone.
However rather than that approach you look to have chosen to warn off someone who in your words 'did nothing wrong'.
Telling someone they were considered a threat to children (because of their dancing) seems vastly worse than being refused a dance.
I think most people would go to considerable lengths to avoid that.
In particular there is a whole lot of acting in dancing, which children wouldn't be expected to appreciate.
No that was me, and it was at Rugby, but I do know now who the TWAT is, I asked him to dance way back in Notts to a fast swing as I had been watching dance with his girlfriend and throught not bad, and yes he looked me up and down for it seem for a long minute but said yes and started off with no looks but by the end he had a smile and it was a good dance, and someone said to me straight after he hardly ever dances with anyone but his girlfriend, so I must have caught in a rare moment of when he was feeling nice
perhaps it might help if I explain a bit further.
This guy has been inapropriate to me at Utopia Twickenham smome time ago, he followd me out to my car while I was putting things in it, grabed me and asked for a kiss I carn't belive anyone in to room didn't know I was with Gerry, infact having spoken to him at Blackpool and questioned him further about that night he told me he did know, he just a chancer.
I let it pass and started dancing with him again at camber Storm but told him not to ask for a kiss and smiled hoping altough he would know I wasn't impressed we could move on. me giving him a second chance
This man is animated with his dancing and can be up close and personal, so although bumping and grinding is perfectly fine for most women, its not really a move that sit conformable with my friends 12 year old, and that's why I told him his dance style wasn't suitable for the very young. BTW I also told him that holding his hand while he had sopping wet gloves on wasn't a pleasant experience, his reply was 'he sweats a lot and he can use them as a towel' problem is he doesn't take them off when using the urinals in the gents loo.
this might give you the understanding that yes MOST people might feel like this, he falls in the bit out side the MOST
I think that helps clarify the reason
If someone came up to me and said out of the blue, ive seen you dancing please dont ask my kids , thats very different to the above
Clealry if i was dancing like a perv thats a different matter but if dancing normal thats something else
ps Id only ever dance with children (under 25) if their parents ask me to
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well he had the same pair on, on the Saturday as he did on the Friday, they might have been dry but they wern't clean.
and whats with the 'winnie the poo' picktures on the back of them. Very strange.
I wonder what the excuse is for wearing the leather ones with silver studs on the back, they won't soak up much sweat. but the studs do get caught in your hair
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