Useful looking perspective - stepping back and considering seeing what lessons might be learnt.
It isn't necessarily my loss if I'm refused (or their loss). Sometimes it is, especially if it comprises my ability or confidence to ask for further dances.
However it can be hard to tell if someone likes dancing with you or is simply being polite. I usually (not always) would prefer not to dance with someone who doesn't want to dance with me, and a refusal can make that clearer.
Also to a degree the number of refusals depends on how adventurous you are in asking. If you're not getting/expecting a certain proportion of refusals, you may also be missing out in terms of dances you could have had.
So personally I think a few more refusals, and them not being rare enough to remember long, can be a bit of a measure of progress.
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