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    Re: is it really 'their loss/someone else's gain' when someone is refused?

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    Thanks for clarifying that.

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    i do like Winnie the Pooh but on gloves at a dance night is a bit odd.. Gloves in the winter yeh.. some people can get away with it but not at a dance event....
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    Re: is it really 'their loss/someone else's gain' when someone is refused?

    Quote Originally Posted by fletch View Post
    well he had the same pair on, on the Saturday as he did on the Friday, they might have been dry but they wern't clean.

    and whats with the 'winnie the poo' picktures on the back of them. Very strange.

    I wonder what the excuse is for wearing the leather ones with silver studs on the back, they won't soak up much sweat. but the studs do get caught in your hair
    I am getting some very weird pictures in my head about this person wearing gloves with children's story book pictures on one minute and then into S&M style the next. Strange brew...
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    Re: is it really 'their loss/someone else's gain' when someone is refused?

    This is an interesting thread.

    What this thread has done personally for me is, to make me consider my actions on the dance scene.

    There are people who get upset when refused, and this dance scene is about having fun, if someone upsets you for refusing your whole night may be ruined.

    So in the future I will endeavor to not refuse anyone again and generally try to be more approachable and nicer.

    One of my earlier posts commented upon a look that I found distressing, the lady in question has talked to me about it and I, as usual grasped the wrong end of the stick, I am now looking forward to a lot of dances with this lady in the future.

    It is easy to misread a look or gesture the wrong way.

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    Re: is it really 'their loss/someone else's gain' when someone is refused?

    Quote Originally Posted by dave the scaffolder View Post
    This is an interesting thread.

    What this thread has done personally for me is, to make me consider my actions on the dance scene.

    ...............(warm and fuzzy feelings etc.)...........

    It is easy to misread a look or gesture the wrong way.

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    Re: is it really 'their loss/someone else's gain' when someone is refused?

    I am experiencing more serenity in my life at the moment, God this sounds so sicky but dancing is so important to my life.

    This dancing milarky has civilised me no end.

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    Re: is it really 'their loss/someone else's gain' when someone is refused?

    Quote Originally Posted by dave the scaffolder View Post
    It is easy to misread a look or gesture the wrong way.
    Part of my philosophy of life. I try not to get too offended by people as I usually reckon that most of the time they don't intend to offend me - and if they do actually intend to be rude, then they are the ones with the problem.

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    Re: is it really 'their loss/someone else's gain' when someone is refused?

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    I think they look loverly.

    Quote Originally Posted by dave the scaffolder View Post
    There are people who get upset when refused, and this dance scene is about having fun, if someone upsets you for refusing your whole night may be ruined.

    So in the future I will endeavor to not refuse anyone again and generally try to be more approachable and nicer.

    IMO its unrealistic to think you can't refuse, when i'm at Hammersmith, I can see a line af men I regularly dance standing waiting for me and as the track finishes I walk off in a differnet direction, its not a refusal but i'm problerbly desperate for a drink, and I do dance with them later in the evening. I would only ask, please do it in the nicest way, you don't need to do it to hurt the pearson.

    Quote Originally Posted by dave the scaffolder View Post
    I am experiencing more serenity in my life at the moment, God this sounds so sicky but dancing is so important to my life.

    This dancing milarky has civilised me no end.

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    I'm soooo with you on this one DTS XXX

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    Re: is it really 'their loss/someone else's gain' when someone is refused?

    Quote Originally Posted by fletch View Post
    when i'm at Hammersmith, I can see a line af men I regularly dance standing waiting for me
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    Re: is it really 'their loss/someone else's gain' when someone is refused?

    I think the layout of a venue has some baring on the amount of refusals.

    If there is another room to sit in, or even chairs away from the dance floor, it gives folks chance to have a bit of a rest,and recharge their batteries with no worries about having to refuse someone due to tiredness.

    If there is nowhere to rest, apart from on chairs at the edge of the dance floor, I'm sure there will be more refusals.

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    Re: is it really 'their loss/someone else's gain' when someone is refused?

    Quote Originally Posted by jivecat View Post

    If he had come up to you later and said, " I now see what a brilliant dancer you are, I beg you to dance with me," would you have felt differently?

    I would have refused him and politely told him that actually, he wasn't good enough to dance with me (even if this wasn't true)


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