In the end, I don't really care whether the refuser has lost out or not. It's unlikely that I have lost out - I'd rather not dance than dance with someone who truly doesn't want to dance with me... last time that happened, I very nearly asked the lady in question why she said 'yes' to the dance, as from the first beat of the track 'till the end she was completely uninterested. (and it wasn't that she was a bad dancer - quite the reverse)
The only action I'm likely to take is to never ask 'em to dance again. Until I've completely forgotten the incident, or at least forgotten what they looked like (this usually takes at least an hour)
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