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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    It's funny I usually go with friends but we tend to all go our own way once we're settled in. We all have our own friends and like doing our own thing.

    I find that at things like southport I always end up surrounded by a group of friends completely different from the group I'm staying with!

    And usually Someone'll offer you food eh minnie, Almost an Angel!

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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    Quote Originally Posted by Freya View Post
    It's funny I usually go with friends but we tend to all go our own way once we're settled in. We all have our own friends and like doing our own thing.
    One of the luxuries of weekenders is that you know you are in good company and can feel free to wander off alone and do whatever classes / sleeping / freestyle / whatever else that you want to.

    Likewise to Freya I usually travel with friends but spend more time wandering and socialising alone

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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    Quote Originally Posted by Caz
    Likewise to Freya I usually travel with friends but spend more time wandering and socialising alone
    Really!

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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    Quote Originally Posted by Freya View Post
    Really!
    How do you socialise alone then?

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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    Quote Originally Posted by DavidJames View Post
    How do you socialise alone then?
    Talk to yourself? I usually find I get the most sense that way...

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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    Quote Originally Posted by drathzel View Post
    Hey T

    i go to most of the weekenders by myself but i have shared too. There is no stigma attached i dont think and in fact because i am not attached to a person or a group i can wander and dance more.


    Thats why I love going to weekenders with Caz, cause we both turn up, shower and get some clobber on and off we go... probably don't see eachother for a few hours, meet up, throw eachother around and off we go again..

    I mainly prefer going on my own to weekenders, means you don't have to be anywhere at a set time... you're not waiting for anyone or have to wake up/sleep at whatever time etc..

    Go for it!

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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    Quote Originally Posted by Freya View Post
    Really!


    Quote Originally Posted by DavidJames View Post
    How do you socialise alone then?
    yeah yeah whatever.. i meant i wander about alone finding unsuspecting victims to launch myself on for a few hours!

    Quote Originally Posted by Twirly View Post
    Talk to yourself? I usually find I get the most sense that way...

    Quote Originally Posted by Jamie View Post

    Thats why I love going to weekenders with Caz, cause we both turn up, shower and get some clobber on and off we go... probably don't see eachother for a few hours, meet up, throw eachother around and off we go again..

    I mainly prefer going on my own to weekenders, means you don't have to be anywhere at a set time... you're not waiting for anyone or have to wake up/sleep at whatever time etc..

    Go for it!
    I do like having someone to share with .. it means that when u do finally get back to the chalet / room etc that you might see your roomy but usually end up just flobbing on to the bed (or sofa... or wherever u drop) and sleeping!!!

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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    I’ve been to about 15 weekenders, about 8 on my own and 7 sharing

    Both have benefits

    I think unless im sh**** someone id opt to go on my own but loved the company of all my past sharers

    Don’t think there is a ‘stigma’ to it

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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    The last weekender I went to on my own, was totally miserable! I had no one to chat to, no where to eat, and didn't get a single dance all weekend I guess I really should have checked I had the correct location and date before setting off

    Serisously though, I have been to a number of weekenders and a week long holiday on my own, and I've never failed to meet someone to chat to at any of them.

    My one tip though, would be to attend any ice-breaker class they may have on the first day/night - in my experience, many lone dancers seem to go to these, so you'll be in like company from the off

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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    I have been a regular at Southport since it started in 2004 and have never found being on my own a problem. If you are a reasonable to good dancer, there will be no shortage of ladies who will dance with you if they are up for it.

    One of the key things is that I have made new friends on the dance circuit and there is now a core group of people who I know from Southport who I meet and greet when I see them. In addition, there are always new people who have been enticed by word-of-mouth (I am always telling people about it and have already convinced somebody to come in September) about this event which just gets better and better the more you do it and they become part of your extended circle.

    In terms of fixed partners, I think you learn more rotating. If you can find somebody to do a workshop which is non-rotational then well and good, but the emphasis at a weekender is extended freestyle practice and not to overdo it on workshops. John and Wes say that an average of about four per day is a good proportion. Saying that, always pick the ones that will improve your technique.

    I haven't been to Scarborough, but maybe will get to it at a future date, depending on other commitments around that time of the year.

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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    I have always been to the workshops, weekenders etc by myself with no problems getting dances.
    As a result I have met an incredible bunch of people - who don't seem to mind that I forget their name (or forum name) but are very patient, smile at me and let me dance with them

    I do like a bit of quiet time too - I seem to use my hyperactivity and extrovert side up on the dance floor - If you could see me now (at work) I would seem a much quieter person that the side of me that gets presented to a dancefloor.

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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    Quote Originally Posted by whitetiger1518 View Post
    I seem to use my hyperactivity and extrovert side up on the dance floor - If you could see me now (at work) I would seem a much quieter person that the side of me that gets presented to a dancefloor.
    Not just me that becomes hyper when dancing then

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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    Quote Originally Posted by Caz View Post


    you might see your roomy but usually end up just flobbing on to the bed (or sofa... or wherever u drop) and sleeping!!!

    is that a new sexual position Caz ???

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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    I have never been on a weekender on my own although i must say, if i did it wouldn't worry me at all as i would not be alone for long...

    so many friendly forumites i mean of course...

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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    Quote Originally Posted by Trouble View Post
    is that a new sexual position Caz ???



    After last SP maybe

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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    Quote Originally Posted by Caz View Post


    After last SP maybe
    yep i think FLOBBIN is the correct word to use on that occassion

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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    I went to a Jive Addiction weekend down in Weston-super-Mare on my own a while back.

    For some of the weekend I was on my own, with nothing to do, which left me feeling a bit lonely, but most of the time I was around people I knew from Southport and other places and enjoyed myself immensely.

    Knowing lots of people through the forum means that you're never really on your own in these sorts of events.
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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    Quote Originally Posted by ducasi View Post
    I went to a Jive Addiction weekend down in Weston-super-Mare on my own a while back.

    For some of the weekend I was on my own, with nothing to do, which left me feeling a bit lonely, but most of the time I was around people I knew from Southport and other places and enjoyed myself immensely.

    Knowing lots of people through the forum means that you're never really on your own in these sorts of events.
    True...but no-one from the forum seems to be going to Scarborough!

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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    Some people of course don’t like being on their own for more then 5 mins

    They cant function without a group of people around them

    For some its fine, even if they eat less healthy

    I could say its probably easier for a man but that maybe deem as sexist

    Also would depend I guess how many you know and type of venues

    I for example wouldn’t go on my own to a weekender in a hotel or black tie type of weekender

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    Re: Going to a weekender on your own...is there a stigma?

    Quote Originally Posted by stewart38 View Post
    I went last year and you will be fine

    I think they try and keep the balance but usually a few ladies over

    I had a great time and would go again but for the lack of holidays, its a long way for me

    personally i went with a group and that help in the evening but then we arrived early
    I was there too. Had a fantastic time. Something happened to me that never has before or since.

    It is my hometown and I stayed with my Mum.
    So can't comment on the hotel socialising.

    All the classes rotated.
    But some couples chose to stay with each other and in the UCP class they were in the majority.

    Quote Originally Posted by Terpsichorea View Post
    True...but no-one from the forum seems to be going to Scarborough!
    My mother has moved now.

    You do need to be near the Spa though. I spent too much time walking through the town. The buses are terrible and stop running about 6pm.

    Nigel and Amir are teaching this year. Should be a good one.

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