The driving analogy is an interesting one. When I'm a passenger and the driver is sleepy, I try to make conversation and help keep hir awake. There are other things that front-seat passengers do to make driving a safer process: seatbelts, warning about speed cameras, navigating, looking for roadsigns, pausing conversations as appropriate, and so forth. As before, I don't know whether that is a shared responsibility or part of being a cooperating passenger.
Obviously the point of the analogy is that in the specific matter of steering, the driver steers, and the passenger does not (indeed, cannot), and therefore the driver is solely responsible for accurate steering. The analogy is slightly misleading, though. A passenger in a car is not directly involved with the steering. Indeed, one can steer a car without a passenger being present. By contrast, a follower is intimately involved with the "steering" in a dance, as she interprets the lead and moves herself in an appropriate manner.
Another analogy is KITT of the TV series Knight Rider. Here we have an intelligent car, capable of moving itself, and also capable of responding to its driver. The series has KITT and Michael Knight working as a team to keep each other safe, along with assorted damsels in distress. I don't want to be quite as independant as KITT when I follow, but that general sense of teamwork and intelligence seems a good one to me.
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