I don't hesitate in asking men, If I sat all night waiting to be asked the I would end up sitting all night practically.
Ok 90% of people on this site (the women) I'm sure chase the men around the dance floor to get 'their man' for a dance
But we have all seen women tapping their feet 'waiting' to be asked to dance
Sitting on the side for an hour with that 'please ask me to dance look'
Does Ceroc I guess just following society where men usually ask women
In 2015 will it be 50/50 ?
ps this of course doesn't refer to all the wonderful male dancers on this site that are asked all the time
I play a game sometime where I wait to be asked,if no one has I will ask someone usually within a few minutes,are some women just too scared to ask men ?
ps how many ask(ed) can I get in a thread ?
I don't hesitate in asking men, If I sat all night waiting to be asked the I would end up sitting all night practically.
Even with your long red hair?!?!?!!?Originally posted by xSalsa_Angelx
I don't hesitate in asking men, If I sat all night waiting to be asked the I would end up sitting all night practically.
Red hair always does the trickOriginally posted by Ceroc Jock
Even with your long red hair?!?!?!!?
Dear Stewart 38 - Please can I have a dance with you at the party in Perth on the 16th August
I often ask guys to dance - and if there aren't any available then I ask the girls too
"If you rebel against high heels, take care to do so in a very smart hat.'' George Bernard Shaw
This is a very sexist thread. Why don't men ask men to dance?
Women ask women - but maybe that's because they've got fed up with waiting for a man to ask them.
Speaking personally, I get asked to dance much less now I've learnt the trick of modern jive. When I was 'just a beginner' like the Tramp I was asked all the time. Nowadays I do most of the asking and when I ask a woman I don't know I often get told 'I don't think I'm good enough to dance with an expert like you'. Which is flattering but far too self-deprecating (and I'm not an expert either - yet)
Modern jive is a social dance and, in my opinion, everyone should mix nicely together no matter how good or bad they are. To not dance with someone because they're better/more experienced than you would be like a party guest saying they couldn't have a conversation with you because you were far too interesting.
Then again, maybe they don't ask me because I'm a short, balding cross-dresser with 3 chins
Maybe the women are doing that too?Originally posted by stewart38
I play a game sometime where I wait to be asked,if no one has I will ask someone usually within a few minutes
I usually ask men to dance. But sometimes: just sometimes, it's nice to be actually asked...so sometimes I'll wait and see if anyone asks me. Just like you, if no-one does I take myself to the bar and weep into my drink...oops...no, wrong answer....I mean I ask someone else
I saw the best request for a dance ever tonight. A lady (who shall remain nameless) ran up to a man at the start of a song, jumped up and down in front of him and said "Me! Me! Me!"
Happens to me all the time.....Originally posted by DavidB
I saw the best request for a dance ever tonight. A lady (who shall remain nameless) ran up to a man at the start of a song, jumped up and down in front of him and said "Me! Me! Me!"
It took me about 5 years to learn to ask men to dance. I mean, men I don't know.
I was beginning to think I was getting the hang of it ... Now, if I'm in a new venue where I hardly know anyone, I will try and look round for a man who looks as if he wants to dance, who's not engrossed in conversation, and who might be willing to dance with me.
But twice now, when I've done that, I've had men come up to me and say, Yes, I can see you're prowling ...
There's me doing my very best 'be brave, be outgoing, be assertive ...' - and I'm regarded as a prowler! That definitely puts me off.
Rachel
Those Northampton men must have no sensitivity. I thought we all knew to be especially nice to women that ask us to dance. I know it isn't easy for a woman to ask you to to dance so you need to be careful how you respond.Originally posted by Rachel
It took me about 5 years to learn to ask men to dance. I mean, men I don't know.
I was beginning to think I was getting the hang of it ... Now, if I'm in a new venue where I hardly know anyone, I will try and look round for a man who looks as if he wants to dance, who's not engrossed in conversation, and who might be willing to dance with me.
But twice now, when I've done that, I've had men come up to me and say, Yes, I can see you're prowling ...
There's me doing my very best 'be brave, be outgoing, be assertive ...' - and I'm regarded as a prowler! That definitely puts me off.
Rachel
These men are being, at best, thoughless. Don't ask them again, ask some of the others. Hopefully they will react the way I do and feel flattered and say 'I'd love to'.
And, as the ultimate revenge, you could always learn to lead and dance with another woman
It's not the Northampton men, actually - they've always been very good there.Originally posted by Andy McGregor
Those Northampton men must have no sensitivity.
I'd never ask those same men to dance again. In fact, I rushed off the floor as soon as the one dance with them was over. But I know I'm being hyper-paranoid ... and try not to let it put me off asking anyone else.These men are being, at best, thoughless. Don't ask them again, ask some of the others. Hopefully they will react the way I do and feel flattered and say 'I'd love to'.
I have to say, I probably would have felt very nervous asking you to dance but, given your reply here, I'll look out for you and give you my 'Um, would you ... um ... are you having a break? or, um might you like .... ah, um, perhaps you're going to dance with someone else, or, um ...' (Oh God, I know, I'm pathetic!!!)
Yeah, good thinking - let's just cut out the men altogether!And, as the ultimate revenge, you could always learn to lead and dance with another woman
Rachel
OI !! I dont want to have to come dancing in a dress y'knowOriginally posted by Rachel
Yeah, good thinking - let's just cut out the men altogether!
You could just stand near him and look gorgeous as usual.Originally posted by Rachel
I'll look out for you and give you my 'Um, would you ... um ... are you having a break? or, um might you like .... ah, um, perhaps you're going to dance with someone else, or, um ...' (Oh God, I know, I'm pathetic!!!)
Does knowing the lady moves mean I'll still get a dance?Originally posted by Rachel
Yeah, good thinking - let's just cut out the men altogether!
I think there are alot of men and women who go to Ceroc that are shy about asking people to dance. But because it's nearly always more women than men at venues then the women have to pluck up more courage than the guys otherwise they will be sat down all evening.
I've noticed that women can tend to group together at venues and for me approaching a group of ladies can be really nerve wrecking than approaching a lady by herself or with 1 friend.
Oh but it's not that bad - just ask Andy - nice and cool!Originally posted by Dreadful Scathe
OI !! I dont want to have to come dancing in a dress y'know
Ah, but you're thinking of someone else - my speciality is the drowned rat look.Originally posted by Graham
You could just stand near him and look gorgeous as usual.
R.
That's right - a gorgeous drowned ratOriginally posted by Rachel
Ah, but you're thinking of someone else - my speciality is the drowned rat look.
R.
I'd dance with you, but I can't lead ... So you'd have to be a pretend lady who happens to be able to lead, if you see what I mean!Originally posted by Jon
Does knowing the lady moves mean I'll still get a dance?
I think there are alot of men and women who go to Ceroc that are shy about asking people to dance. But because it's nearly always more women than men at venues then the women have to pluck up more courage than the guys otherwise they will be sat down all evening.
I've noticed that women can tend to group together at venues and for me approaching a group of ladies can be really nerve wrecking than approaching a lady by herself or with 1 friend.
Yes, I prey on individuals who are all on their own - I couldn't ever approach a group of men to ask for a dance. I like the pink 'first mover' stickers that some people wear. Those are the people I look out for first and foremost. For some reason, I think new people won't mind dancing with me so much.
Rachel
Oh Graham .... having a shitty day today, cancelled holidays, the prospect of endless work all through the summer ... You've just made today feel so much better!Originally posted by Graham
That's right - a gorgeous drowned rat
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