If you want to dance, just ask..... don't sit back and blame the guys / venue
Reasons I ask...
I LOVE dancing with them
A good track has come on and you are near
We are friends (even though I do not love dancing with you)
You don't pull my arm out of my socket
You look lost / are not dancing much
You are obviously new to the scene
I always make the effort to dance with people I don't recognise. However there's a thing that makes it really difficult - if there is a "closed" group of women sitting together, (I guess that the reverse could happen, but you don't often see blokes sitting round in a huddle?)
If there is choice between asking a lady sitting on her own and approaching a group of women, I'm afraid that it's much easier to ask the individual woman
It's awkward for a bloke to approach a group of women, as we run the risk of offending all the other women except the one that we ask. My usual technique is walk up and ask the group "who wants a dance" trying to make eye contact with one of them, but it's still awkward.
I wouldn't say that many people have given a huge array of reasons why they haven't asked people to dance. What was being asked is why you ask someone to dance. If you walk past a bunch of women looking for someone who dances a particular style, say, though you aren't refusing them directly there is an implied rejection. If the person wanting to be asked could do just one thing to draw someone's attention then maybe they'd have a better night (saying that I still think they should just go ask people ).
I'm easy.... all the more for me to ask
Seriously, I hear what you're saying about selection from a group, but some folk seem to need reminding that this is supposed to be fun. Not some stress test that you need to conquer. Get out there and have fun. If you want to dance with someone ask them. If you find that you didn't like the dance you had, ask someone else next time. Hardly rocket science is it
The most important thing is to just... ask, ask, ask.
But not every one does, I carn't understand why girls take time to put 'the slap on' get dressed to sit there hoping someone will ask them to dance, I thought all my Birthday's had come at once when I found ot it was quite accepterble for girls to ask guy's I have neaver looked back since
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