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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by DavidJames View Post
    Anyway, to answer the question


    If it's someone I don't know, and if I haven't seen them dancing, then it's usually, in order of importance:
    1. Attitude (looking like they want to dance)
    2. Position (standing up near the floor, not sitting down on a table chatting to a mate)
    3. Looks (yes, I know I'll get more comments on this than the other two...)
    Accepting the "if" conditions, then

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    Re: Why do you ask?

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    I do love the girls network
    That sounds useful. Can you post the URL and password?

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by StokeBloke View Post
    I wonder how many wonderful dances you guys have missed out on because of your huge array of reasons not to ask people to dance? Maybe you could try this. Find someone who fits into your 'wouldn't ask' list.... and ask them. If you are still alive at the end of the 3 minutes, try it again... you never know you may just have more fun than you thought imaginable.

    Ask, ask, ask.....

    Sheesh... some people need a damn good (HARD) beating with the fun stick on this forum! It's a laugh, it's fun, ask people to dance... it's why they paid good money to get in to the venue after all!


    with all the man I dance with in all the venues I think there is only two people I won't dance with one makes me feel very unsafe, the othere is not worthy and really has refused once to often

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by fletch View Post


    with all the man I dance with in all the venues I think there is only two people I won't dance with one makes me feel very unsafe, the othere is not worthy and really has refused once to often
    Tell me it is not me XXX XXX I am not worthy

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by fletch View Post
    OK so here is my two peneth for what its worth.

    I apologise now to the people that have heard this story before.

    When I first travelled to London I didn't know what people were going to be like, so I said the girls I was with 'biggest smile be friendly and we will need to ask' it worked and I have never had a problem in getting dances.

    Threads like this are really getting up my nose.

    If you want a dance get off your ar$e smile and ask or sit in the corner or the middle of the room looking unappreciable and stop bleating on about how no one asks you, the choice is yours.



    If you want to dance, just ask..... don't sit back and blame the guys / venue

    Reasons I ask...

    I LOVE dancing with them
    A good track has come on and you are near
    We are friends (even though I do not love dancing with you)
    You don't pull my arm out of my socket
    You look lost / are not dancing much
    You are obviously new to the scene

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by WittyBird View Post
    I wouldn't worry about it, I didn't even get pity dances on Sunday
    You're giving up anyway, so what's the problem?

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    I always make the effort to dance with people I don't recognise. However there's a thing that makes it really difficult - if there is a "closed" group of women sitting together, (I guess that the reverse could happen, but you don't often see blokes sitting round in a huddle?)

    If there is choice between asking a lady sitting on her own and approaching a group of women, I'm afraid that it's much easier to ask the individual woman

    It's awkward for a bloke to approach a group of women, as we run the risk of offending all the other women except the one that we ask. My usual technique is walk up and ask the group "who wants a dance" trying to make eye contact with one of them, but it's still awkward.

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by dave the scaffolder View Post
    Tell me it is not me XXX XXX I am not worthy
    No chance you don't get away that easy not from 'the Fletch'

    we all know who the refuser is

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by StokeBloke View Post
    I wonder how many wonderful dances you guys have missed out on because of your huge array of reasons not to ask people to dance?
    I wouldn't say that many people have given a huge array of reasons why they haven't asked people to dance. What was being asked is why you ask someone to dance. If you walk past a bunch of women looking for someone who dances a particular style, say, though you aren't refusing them directly there is an implied rejection. If the person wanting to be asked could do just one thing to draw someone's attention then maybe they'd have a better night (saying that I still think they should just go ask people ).

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by killingtime View Post
    I wouldn't say that many people have given a huge array of reasons why they haven't asked people to dance.
    I'm easy.... all the more for me to ask

    Seriously, I hear what you're saying about selection from a group, but some folk seem to need reminding that this is supposed to be fun. Not some stress test that you need to conquer. Get out there and have fun. If you want to dance with someone ask them. If you find that you didn't like the dance you had, ask someone else next time. Hardly rocket science is it

    The most important thing is to just... ask, ask, ask.

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by StokeBloke View Post
    The most important thing is to just... ask, ask, ask.

    But not every one does, I carn't understand why girls take time to put 'the slap on' get dressed to sit there hoping someone will ask them to dance, I thought all my Birthday's had come at once when I found ot it was quite accepterble for girls to ask guy's I have neaver looked back since

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