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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mythical View Post
    Guys, what, if anything makes you ask a lady to dance? And what makes you decide not to?
    Well the voice in my head (of my non-specified deity) tells me that my world would be complete if I just danced with this one person for this track. That person is then bathed in a glowing light. Then another woman taps me on the shoulder and asks me to dance and I dance with her instead.

    When I get the chance to ask (some places when the ratio is really weighted toward women it can take a long time before I get a chance) there are a lot of factors that go into who I try and get. There are those people I really wanted to dance with in an evening and I'll probably try and get a dance with them (least I miss them the whole evening). Sometimes I'll fancy a dance with someone I never met before so I'll look for someone I don't recognise. Other times it will be the closest follower who looks like they want to dance.

    Lloyd witters about this stuff on his site about trying to increase your chances of being asked. I say ignore all that though and go ask people to dance .

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by DavidJames View Post
    I'm almost curious enough about this "Bromsgrove T dance" thing to go myself.

    Almost.

    well thats your choice

    all I would say is that IMO Midlanders aren't that different from anywhere else in th UK, don't just expect people to fall over themselve to ask you to dance when they don't know you, go with an open mind, and a freindly aproch, funny its seems to work wonders for me


    Quote Originally Posted by Lory View Post
    They look happy, relaxed and confident (I know its a bit harsh but I don't really enjoy dancing with people who feel tense, worried and serious... I wouldn't refuse them but wouldn't go out of my way to ask them either, its too much like hard work )

    They've been recommended (I do love the girls network )








    Reasons I wouldn't ask...

    They make me feel inadequate (and weirdly, its NEVER the really good dancers that do this)
    They smell
    They're rough
    Can't dance in time
    I've seen them tipping people upside down and dancing dangerously
    Too serious
    They have no manners (from a previous experience)
    I've had a tip off that I should avoid them for whatever reason



    the boys have a network to

    I think we all want to dance with relaxed friendly people who make us feel good and not 'not good enough'

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by fletch View Post
    the boys have a network to
    We do ? Is it a VPN or something? Do I need an account, what's the address? Why has no one told me about this ?

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by fletch View Post
    well thats your choice
    Always is.

    Quote Originally Posted by fletch View Post
    all I would say is that IMO Midlanders aren't that different from anywhere else in th UK, don't just expect people to fall over themselve to ask you to dance when they don't know you, go with an open mind, and a freindly aproch, funny its seems to work wonders for me
    Open mind? Friendly approach? Me?

    What are these things of which you speak?

    Quote Originally Posted by killingtime View Post
    We do ? Is it a VPN or something? Do I need an account, what's the address? Why has no one told me about this ?
    It's a Secret; it's like the identities of the Ten.

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by fletch View Post
    have you neaver hear guy's saying. goodness she's a misserable c*w, or who does she think she is?, I bet you dash across the floor slide and do a pirouette in front of her before asking her to dance


    I do that anyway!

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by DavidJames View Post
    Anyway, to answer the question


    If it's someone I don't know, and if I haven't seen them dancing, then it's usually, in order of importance:
    1. Attitude (looking like they want to dance)
    2. Position (standing up near the floor, not sitting down on a table chatting to a mate)
    3. Looks (yes, I know I'll get more comments on this than the other two...)
    What!!!! Looks!!! am I allowed to say that I'm apalled. Nay, horrified at this! But, it's TRUE - the chickie babes get more dances than us "ordinary" looking folk!

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by fletch View Post

    It has been mentioned before ............Fletch you are differently a '10' I wondered what they were on about
    Well you know from experience they won't give you one

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mezzosoprano View Post
    What!!!! Looks!!! am I allowed to say that I'm apalled. Nay, horrified at this! But, it's TRUE - the chickie babes get more dances than us "ordinary" looking folk!
    What part of
    Quote Originally Posted by Wot I just said
    If it's someone I don't know, and if I haven't seen them dancing, then it's usually, in order of importance
    didn't you read?

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    In no particular order, the reasons I ask someone to dance include, but are not necessarily limited to, the following:

    1) They happen to be stood there not dancing with anyone else
    2) I know them and know I enjoy dancing with them
    3) I don't know them but either i) they looked great leading someone else, so are possibly a good dancer or ii) they look like they are FUN
    4) They are drop dead gorgeous (yeah, I'm shallow sometimes, so sue me - I don't believe that DJ and I are the only ones. So there.)
    5) Because I want to be dancing (possibly *particularly* to this track 'cos I love it)
    6) Occasionally, out of charity. Yep, that makes me Evil, but I don't believe I'm the only one who asks for that reason either, perhaps the only one to admit it. People dance with me out of charity sometimes (hopefully not as often as they did when I first started out!) - so it's good to "pay it forward".
    Last edited by LMC; 21st-February-2007 at 02:57 PM. Reason: grammar, tut

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by fletch View Post
    now i'm confussed

    sleeper no this carn't be me, well not at the weekends anyway
    It would have been if you'd gone to Swish! By the sounds of it they were tucked up Zzzzz in their four posters by 1:30am

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by StokeBloke View Post
    It would have been if you'd gone to Swish! By the sounds of it they were tucked up Zzzzz in their four posters by 1:30am
    I have to say i'm not sorry I missed this weekender, I think it would just remind me I have no one to snuggle up to in a four poster bed

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by fletch View Post
    I have to say i'm not sorry I missed this weekender, I think it would just remind me I have no one to snuggle up to in a four poster bed
    I suppose you prefer the weekenders where you dance until breakfast, then grab a couple of hours crammed into a small apertment with a couple of other girls before starting all over again!

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mythical View Post
    So, partly following on from this thread, and partly becuase I got more dances out of pity on Sunday than out of smilng and people knowing me at my regular lesson, (three to nil!) Guys, what, if anything makes you ask a lady to dance? And what makes you decide not to?
    How do you know they were pity dances? Did the fellas come up to you and say, do you want to dance? I only ask because I felt sorry for you.?

    Why do I ask? Because I know you're a good dancer or because I have no idea whether you're a good dancer or not.

    BTW, that doesn't mean that if I don't ask it's because I don't like dancing with you. It usually means that it's because I'm enjoying chatting or watching. Anyone got a shovel I can use to dig myself out of this hole?

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Reasons to ask:
    I have had good dances with her before
    I have always wanted to dance with her but haven't had the chance before
    She is a great dancer
    She must be a light follow
    She looks like she could be a great dancer
    She is attractive
    I love this particular song and justhave to dance to it
    She isn't getting many dances

    Reasons not to ask:
    I have had rotten dances with her before
    I have had more than one refusal before
    I have it on good authority that she will have a vice-like grip and will do her own thing regardless
    She is twice my size
    The music is rubbish and no way will I dance to this with anyone

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mythical View Post
    So, partly following on from this thread, and partly becuase I got more dances out of pity on Sunday than out of smilng and people knowing me at my regular lesson, (three to nil!) Guys, what, if anything makes you ask a lady to dance? And what makes you decide not to?
    Decide to ask:

    • She clearly wants to dance.

    • I particularly want to dance to that track, and she is nearby..

    • She is nicely dressed / looks like she has made an effort..

    • She doesn't look like she is dancing much..

    • She has demonstrated knowledge of another dance style which I'd like to dance..

    • I haven't danced with her before..


    Decide not to ask:

    • It would be awkward to get turned down where she is located..

    • She looks too far above my standard..

    • She looks fragile and the music is fast..

    • She is very good looking..

    • She has long nails, or is wearing big earings..

    • I want to impress her, for some reason, but something isn't ideal at that time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by frodo View Post
    Decide to ask:
    • She is nicely dressed / looks like she has made an effort..


    Decide not to ask:
    • She is very good looking..
    Oh that is just not playing fair!!!!

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by StokeBloke View Post
    I suppose you prefer the weekenders where you dance until breakfast, then grab a couple of hours crammed into a small apertment with a couple of other girls before starting all over again!
    Nope! not doing this again, its causes to much stress stoping on my own or with someon I feel I can defo share with wothout a problem, when you are tired its a long wekend to keep your gob shut

    Quote Originally Posted by Gav View Post
    How do you know they were pity dances? Did the fellas come up to you and say, do you want to dance? I only ask because I felt sorry for you.?

    There is possibly a confidence thing going on hear

    We all have 'em some aren't so viserble on some people

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    Quote Originally Posted by Green-eyed Monsta View Post
    Oh that is just not playing fair!!!!
    It makes total sense. He prefers mingers that are well dressed.
    You can ask me anytime Frodo.
    (Thought i'd get that in before RobD)

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    Re: Why do you ask?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Green-eyed Monsta View Post
    Quote Originally Posted by frodo View Post
    Decide to ask:
    • She is nicely dressed / looks like she has made an effort..

    Decide not to ask:
    • She is very good looking..
    Oh that is just not playing fair!!!!
    Actually that would be better put as 'extremely good looking'. I hope that's an improvement.

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    Re: Why do you ask?

    I wonder how many wonderful dances you guys have missed out on because of your huge array of reasons not to ask people to dance? Maybe you could try this. Find someone who fits into your 'wouldn't ask' list.... and ask them. If you are still alive at the end of the 3 minutes, try it again... you never know you may just have more fun than you thought imaginable.

    Ask, ask, ask.....

    Sheesh... some people need a damn good (HARD) beating with the fun stick on this forum! It's a laugh, it's fun, ask people to dance... it's why they paid good money to get in to the venue after all!

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