What makes me want to ask a follower to dance (sorry, I ask guys too! I'm not sexist!) it's mostly because they look like they can follow... I don't go for major styling, it's a bit off putting, I like a little styling, but enough to keep me interested and not OTT... I ask people who are recommended to me, and sometimes I ask them because I just want to dance and they're the nearest one to me... George Moss got a taste of that when I turned round to a group of people at Southport and said who can WCS??!?!
Anyway, to answer the question
If it's someone I don't know, and if I haven't seen them dancing, then it's usually, in order of importance:
- Attitude (looking like they want to dance)
- Position (standing up near the floor, not sitting down on a table chatting to a mate)
- Looks (yes, I know I'll get more comments on this than the other two...)
OK so here is my two peneth for what its worth.
I apologise now to the people that have heard this story before.
When I first travelled to London I didn't know what people were going to be like, so I said the girls I was with 'biggest smile be friendly and we will need to ask' it worked and I have never had a problem in getting dances.
Threads like this are really getting up my nose.
If you want a dance get off your ar$e smile and ask or sit in the corner or the middle of the room looking unappreciable and stop bleating on about how no one asks you, the choice is yours.
.........proximity.
You might have done a few minutes ago. let put it down to me getting out of the bed the wrong side.
its just there are some NICE guys that go to the 't' dance, they might not be 'the best dancers' or have the 'most confidence' but they are nice and are friendly, sometimes its up to us to make the first move, just to put people at ease, why should we expect that they have more confidence and will come to us, life isn't like that.
moan over i'm going out shopping hopefully that will put me in a better mood.
If i've previously danced with them and they've said they really enjoyed it, then they'll automatically be on the top of my list for next time.. nothing beats dancing with someone that your sure likes dancing with you too
They look happy, relaxed and confident (I know its a bit harsh but I don't really enjoy dancing with people who feel tense, worried and serious... I wouldn't refuse them but wouldn't go out of my way to ask them either, its too much like hard work )
They've been recommended (I do love the girls network )
They can do different styles, appropriate to the music that's playing
They happen to be walking past
I've never danced with them before
Reasons I wouldn't ask...
They make me feel inadequate (and weirdly, its NEVER the really good dancers that do this)
They smell
They're rough
Can't dance in time
I've seen them tipping people upside down and dancing dangerously
Too serious
They have no manners (from a previous experience)
I've had a tip off that I should avoid them for whatever reason
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