Self criticism thread?

[Mythical]

I noticed, last time I danced, I was trying to lead and concentrating more on singing along to the music than following.
So next time I dance I promise to let the man lead, and not try to put him into moves he doesn't know, and remember that if I like the tune, I can sing along to it on iTunes when I get home - the dancefloor is not the place.

Anyone else have something they're determined to do better?

[DavidY]

So next time I dance I promise to let the man lead, and not try to put him into moves he doesn't know, and remember that if I like the tune, I can sing along to it on iTunes when I get home - the dancefloor is not the place.

I don't see anything wrong with singing along to the music. (I do it all the time. )

But you're probably right about letting the man lead.

Also, I think it's better to think in terms of "self-improvement" rather than "self-criticism".

[MartinHarper]

Anyone else have something they're determined to do better?

I'd answer, but I'm trying to cut down on my self-obsession.

[Minnie M]

........So next time I dance I promise to let the man lead, and not try to put him into moves he doesn't know......

[Mythical]

I'd answer, but I'm trying to cut down on my self-obsession.

There's nothing wrong with being self obsessed....I myself am totally obsessed with myself 90% of the time!

What??

[jivecat]

What??

Ah, bless!

[Dreadful Scathe]

Ah, bless!

not quite got the concept really has she

[Ghost]

What??

How exactly are you putting him into moves he doesn't know, given that you're following?

(actually I can think of a few ways..... )

[ShinyWeeStar]

I noticed, last time I danced, I was trying to lead ~snip~ So next time I dance I promise to let the man lead, and not try to put him into moves he doesn't know

not quite got the concept really has she

Actually, I think she has... she's noticed what she was doing, realises it's wrong and plans to avoid doing it in future! Not bad going for a newbie... Good for you Mythical!

[jivecat]

Actually, I think she has... she's noticed what she was doing, realises it's wrong and plans to avoid doing it in future! Not bad going for a newbie... Good for you Mythical!

Sorry, Mythical, didn't mean to put you down. It's good, nay AMAZING, to find someone so keen. If only I could feel one quarter as keen. *sigh*

It's also nice to see an innocent let loose upon this bastion of dance-correctness!

[StokeBloke]

I noticed, last time I danced, I was trying to lead and concentrating more on singing along to the music than following.
So next time I dance I promise to let the man lead, and not try to put him into moves he doesn't know, and remember that if I like the tune, I can sing along to it on iTunes when I get home - the dancefloor is not the place.

Anyone else have something they're determined to do better?

It's good that you are looking at ways to improve what you do. But may I say a couple of things. If I were leading you and you were singing, I would see that as a sign that you were enjoying yourself. This is a good thing as far as I am concerned.

If I was leading you, and my lead was so poor that you ended up doing something other than what I had planned.... who is to blame?

I guess what I am trying to say Mythical is dancing is a two person thing. You can't take responsibility for everything that goes wrong. I just ask for two things from the girls... sorry, I mean, people that I lead - they smile and don't fall over

[Icey]

I just ask for two things from the girls... sorry, I mean, people that I lead - they smile and don't fall over

Falling over It's not something we like to do y'know! If it was, we'd do it with a helluva lot more style

[Mythical]

Sorry, Mythical, didn't mean to put you down. It's good, nay AMAZING, to find someone so keen. If only I could feel one quarter as keen. *sigh*

It's also nice to see an innocent let loose upon this bastion of dance-correctness!

I read something on here about people having 'favourite partners' and thought 'hey, I wanna be everybodys favourite, too' So it's almost jealousy, as much as enthusiasm
I also have my favourites, and I wouldn't want to get to the point where they didn't really want to dance with me (I can get away with it now, 'cause I'm new, but what about next month???)

And dance correctness? the way I see it, the guy leading is there to make the girl look good. If he wants to make me look awesome, who am i to stand in his way???

[Mythical]

I really ought to give myself 100 lines:
i must not try to back lead
i must not try to back lead
i must not try to back lead (at least until I can do it properly)
etc.

[TheTramp]

Might I make a suggestion?

Don't think about it. I don't know if you've been told this already. But don't try to work out what the lead is doing (let's face it, if they're anything like me, they won't know anyhow). Just let your mind go blank (should be easy, you're a girl*), and go with the flow.

If you're trying to think about it, then you'll probably get it wrong, and even if you do get it right, then you'll be a beat behind by then anyhow. You're on a loser before you start.

I often say to followers, "Smile". And they tell me they can't, they're too busy concentrating. And I just tell them to concentrate on smiling. The dancing invariably improves then!






*I am in sooooo much trouble now!

[Twirlie Bird]

Might I make a suggestion?

If you're trying to think about it, then you'll probably get it wrong, and even if you do get it right, then you'll be a beat behind by then anyhow. You're on a loser before you start.

This is very true. If you try to work out what's coming next you will probably get it wrong. Ask yourself what's the worse thing that can happen during that dance. You may make a mistake? You may do something that the lead wasn't expecting? You may misread the lead?

Relax and enjoy the dance. You will find that the more you relax the more you will enjoy it and the less you will find yourself backleading.

Just let your mind go blank (should be easy, you're a girl*), and go with the flow.

Oh dear!!! Did you really mean to say that. I will watch with interest when the girls wake up.

Twirlie Bird
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[TheTramp]

Oh dear!!! Did you really mean to say that. I will watch with interest when the girls wake up.

Yeah. I haven't been neg-repped for a few days now. I'm missing it!

[Tiggerbabe]

Yeah. I haven't been neg-repped for a few days now. I'm missing it!

Tempting, tempting

[fletch]

If i'm not singing to my partner I chatting

I would be interested to hear if there is anyone that have danced with that I havnt sang or chatted to while dancing.

[David Bailey]

I would be interested to hear if there is anyone that have danced with that I havnt sang or chatted to while dancing.

You adjusted your boobs with me, does that count?