One for the ladies (mostly) - can you tell....

[CentrAlex]

I've had ladies come up to me and say things like "so, are you gay then?" and had other women come up to me and say things like "what are you doing later? "

I think the way you dance doesn't give any indication of sexuality... For instance, when I dance with my friend Russ at my local venue, we always dance as if we're in the heat of passion! - This guy has a girlfriend (who watches lol)... It's hilarious to walk off the dance floor and see peoples faces... often a mixture of shock and disgust..

I myself am very comfortable in my sexuality and I don't care what people think of me... I used to, I used to be very conscious of what people thought, but now I just think... Hey, you'll get over it, I have!

[Cruella]

I've had ladies come up to me and say things like "so, are you gay then?"

OMG Do people really do that??

[Cruella]

You've got to agree as he keeps sleeping with you!!

[TurboTomato]

In my experience the way a guy dances is no indication of his sexuality. The way he kisses me is a dead giveaway

[CentrAlex]

You've got to agree as he keeps sleeping with you!!

now now...don't get jealous...there is plenty of me to go around!!

[Freudian Hips]

.... it doesn't really matter if a person is Gay/Straight/Bi unless you are on the pull.

And even if you are on the pull (and nothing wrong with that) and their sexuality complements yours, it is probably only marginally more likely they're gonna fancy you ..... and be single ..... and be looking .....

..... so?

[Dai]

I agree - it doesn't matter if a person is straight, gay or bi. What is important is the dance and the connection between both people You don't have to fancy people who you connect with, so difference does it make anyway?

It is also bad form to sterotype people, "he dances with men, so he must be gay", "he is in touch with his femanine side", "she leads", "she is butch"...

Yes, there are some very flamboyant men who are gay, and some that are straight, there are probably equally as many gay men who like footy, drink beer, do manual labour and have deep voices.
On the same vain there are possibly more femanine lesbians than butch ones, its just the butch ones stick out more - where as a femanine lesbian coud go unnoticed by the people with poor gaydar.

So long as everyone has fun, and no awkwardness is caused what does it matter??

[Jamie]

OMG Do people really do that??

Yeah funnily enough they do! How rude! I don't mind people asking, it's often fun trying to make them figure out for themselves... Speaking of which, do you have the correct answer yet babe?

XX

[TheTramp]

I've had a few ask me if I am.

And a few tell me that I must be!

[David Bailey]

So long as everyone has fun, and no awkwardness is caused what does it matter??

Well, clearly it matters to some people, judging by the fact that people talk about it:

• Does dancing make you gay?
• Straight and gay?
• Attitudes to Gay men...

[fletch]

And a few tell me that I must be!

well you ticked tho didn't wan't to feel my boobs, perhaps thats why

[Trouble]

i find that most gay men, in my limited experience of them, are the best looking......(this always makes me think such a waste for the single ladies) and they are generally by far some of the best dancers . So, if a man is asked by a woman are you gay, i would actually advise that man to take that as a compliment for two reasons....1 she probably fancies him or 2. he is a great dancer.

With regards to the original question.. i thought i could but i have been mistaken on a few occassions when i have felt a reaction in a particular region.

[Barry Shnikov]

Quite. Only relevant if said woman is on the pull.

And how come everyone always asks about male dancer's sexuality? What about lead's detecting whether a woman is a lesbian? (Just curious as to why the discussion is always one way - not if you actually can.)

There were two young women who danced down here (haven't seen either of them for a while) and every so often someone would say, confidentially "O, definitely, they're lesbians, I know them very well. It's quite nice, isn't it, that they are so confident about it?"

Later, I got to know them better and danced with them a lot. Of course they aren't lesbians, but they are (or were) very great friends and like dancing with each other.

[Genie]

I can relate to that :-)

I don't find gay men better dancers. Definately not. A straight man always manages to make the dance more interesting

[Mr Darcy]

Apparantly, a little over a year ago some women I danced with were quite sure I was gay. Since I have now moved one of them into my flat & my bed it seems they were fairly wrong

[Barry Shnikov]

Apparantly, a little over a year ago some women I danced with were quite sure I was gay. Since I have now moved one of them into my flat & my bed it seems they were fairly wrong

You make her sound like a lampshade.

(Well, except for the bed bit...)

[Icey]

You make her sound like a lampshade.

I'll just stand over here in the corner.
GF Installation 1.1

[JiveLad]

You make her sound like a lampshade.

.......she gets turned on from time to time, lights up his life and gets quite hot. Sometimes she just blows and then you have to screw in a new one.

[Lee Bartholomew]

Im always getting asked if im straight and it only got worse when I started dancing, esp with other men.

[Jamie]

Im always getting asked if im straight and it only got worse when I started dancing, esp with other men.

When I saw you in Bromley on NYE, I didn't think you were, I've usually got good gaydar! You don't dance effeminately anyway...