I dont think it will be deleted....might be sent upstairs though.
I can't tell the difference.....probably because I am indifferent to a mans sexuality. I'm only interested in their ability to dance.
....if a man is gay by the way he dances with you?
The reason I ask this is because a woman told me last night that she could. I tried to probe this a bit more, because it seemed strange. The argument seemed somewhat circular: "I know he's gay because he dances like that...........he dances like that because he is gay".
Getting on to specifics was difficult: something about being naturally closer together during the dance - and lots of other (undefined) smaller things......."...you can always tell.....".
Hmmm....seemed to me to be an odd issue to raise - and I said I would ask if the forum had any views or experience or comments?
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I dont think it will be deleted....might be sent upstairs though.
I can't tell the difference.....probably because I am indifferent to a mans sexuality. I'm only interested in their ability to dance.
Unless "someone" is secretive about their sexuality and is now now worried that they might be discovered by an especially observant follower, do you really give a fat rat's?
I think it is always the guys sexuality under discussion because of sterotypes...only gay men dance...and all lesbians are butch and don't dance and have lots of tatoos and ride motorbikes...which as well all know isn't the case.
I agree with you Twirly that it doesn't really matter if a person is Gay/Straight/Bi unless you are on the pull. And so what if a guy is putting a bit more into it than expected...I do...but it is clearly the way to get noticed!!!
I have to say I have had a few dances with a married lady freind who dances at the bromsgrove 't' and we have both commented that we were been watched, and it made us both play on it 'give 'em something to watch'
this isn't the case, IMO
It was a different lady who came up with the bunnies and snakes one (and they don't know each other).
Personally, as else someone mentioned, it never crosses my mind whether my partner is straight, gay, bi, whatever - it is the dancing wot counts.
Nevertheless I was intrigued by what she said - specifically what it was that was different in how they danced - which I still don't get (I don't think there is any difference and that she was merely hypothesising or reading much more into other things....? I dunno........).
Anyway, I do seem to have interesting discussions as a result of going dancing. We haven't yet got around to.................no I'll leave that for my (mildly entertaining) blog.
I concur.. two of my best friends are lesbians, The fact that they do dress "in a less than feminine manner", don't dance (unless you count moshing), have lots of tattoos and piercings and do indeed drive motorbikes don't enter into it. I love them regardless of them being stereotypes or not.
Unlike most men that doesn't really float my boat
I often dance in a flamboyant way with some of my male friends, granted only those I feel comfortable doing that with. Its really funny as it shocks the heck of out most people.
The funniest one was when I did a dirty dancing style Double Jive class with my two of my mates. One lady leading us two guys. The class had some "interesting" moves and everyone there stared at us and it was the funniest thing ever. In the end the rest of the class found it just as amusing as we did.
Afterwards, the teachers even commended us on doing a different style of double jive and was really impressed with us.
Last edited by Shodan; 11th-January-2007 at 04:38 PM.
I wasn't saying that it is 'wrong' to be a stereotype...but merely pointing out that it is where it all starts from...the people who are shallow enough to say that because they act/dress/dance in a way that is linked to a stereotype...then they must be that way inclined...not disrespect intended
I've had ladies come up to me and say things like "so, are you gay then?" and had other women come up to me and say things like "what are you doing later? "
I think the way you dance doesn't give any indication of sexuality... For instance, when I dance with my friend Russ at my local venue, we always dance as if we're in the heat of passion! - This guy has a girlfriend (who watches lol)... It's hilarious to walk off the dance floor and see peoples faces... often a mixture of shock and disgust..
I myself am very comfortable in my sexuality and I don't care what people think of me... I used to, I used to be very conscious of what people thought, but now I just think... Hey, you'll get over it, I have!
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