At least she doesn't think you still have a thing for her - this isn't an issue of her trust in you, it is a concern about the way the other woman could behave or could wrongly interpret an innocent dance.You old cynic you, women aren't that manipulative, surely? Well, come to think of it, maybe you're right .
Like has been said you are just going to have to assure your wife that you married her and not your ex maening that oyu like her and that no-one can take that away from you two.
At the end of the day who do you come home to? Who do you love? who do you kiss good night? Who did you decide that she was so special that you decided to spend the rest of your lives together?? Your wife try and make her see that
Ive got a headache now.
I do her, i do tell her, i do often bring back for her, we do have cuddles, yes my ex is attractive, i try not to dance with her when my wife is around - although im told this makes things worse and yes fletch
I think dancing with her when your wife isn't there would make things alot worse as you have something to hide so you are right not to dance with her.
With your ex it is a dance and that all it is and maybe like Genie said you wife s a bit insecure "What does she have that I dont?" syndrome you can only assure her that it is only a dance.
If I were worried about my g/f dancing with an ex, because I though he "still has a thing for" her, it wouldn't be because I was insecure about my relationship with my g/f, it would be because I wouldn't want the ex to get special enjoyment out of the dance.
If that makes any sense...
Let your mind go and your body will follow. – Steve Martin, LA Story
Are you sure you're not a girl, duc?
I would have to say that I think 7 dances in a row is excessive. The only time i have seen ppl do this is when they are training for a comp (or in a honeymoon stage).
i had a similar situation with a now-ex and a particular lady who i believe
strongly had the hots for him. Nothing he said could reassure me when I could see how much pleasure he got out of dancing with her and how transparent her feelings were. fficeffice" /><?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com<o:p></o:p>
He asked her if she was attracted to him and she said no but as far as im concerned that’s a wee bit unbelievable as she ran to him when he entered the room, was constantly touching him off the dance floor, I had had several other ppl remark to me on her behaviour, she would sit so close to him her boobs brushed up against him and her eyes constantly searched him out in the room. <o:p></o:p>
As far as he was concerned they were just friends so I should just deal with it but her behaviour threatened me and his continuing to spend a lot of time in her company made me feel disrespected and our relationship suffered.<o:p></o:p>
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I don’t think it matters if the person in question is an ex or just someone who your current partner is threatened by, if you care about your current partner you should respect their feelings. If you really want to dance with the ex, maybe because you are still good friends or you dance well or for whatever reason, then do, but stick to one or two dances and then re-establish with your current partner that it is them that you want to be with. A lot of jealously has to do with insecurity.
only dancing with the ex when the current partner isnt around also suggests that your dancing with them is something you have to do on the sly and therefore doesnt have honest intentions
"Have you ever written steamy novels" (havent figured out how to do that quoting thing yet)
noooooooo what sort of sordid past do you think i have?
i keep my sauciness strictly on the dance floor (at least when it comes to other gal's guys )
I suppose... but I have one ex who I'd happily have 7 dances in a row with, not for any attraction reasons, but because a) she's a friend, and b) she's an incredibly good dancer by anyone's standards, who I very rarely get to dance with these days.Originally Posted by Thea
I, my partner, and said person are all secure enough with ourselves and our relationships not to have a problem with this. If that was not the case (as is, alas, all too common), then yes - insecurities would need addressing before doing something that'll make things worse. One needs to get one's priorities straight.
I think the new partner would have to be verysecure for seven dances in a row not to be a problem. I agree with what I think you're saying- it's really important to be adult in these situations and deal with any issues from all parties. However that's not always easy to do and for me it's the complete lack of any consistency in dealing with an ex that causes me the most problems.
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