This is proving to be an interesting thread and I have to give a big to lots of what Straycat has said (too lazy to quote). There is no standard method of handling the situation. You can take a guess at how you might handle the situation but until it actually happens you don't really know. With three variables in play - you, current partner and ex plus variables within that relating to extent of feelings still existing for ex there are all kinds of directions in which it can go.
Personally speaking, If I still had feelings for an ex (i.e if I had not wanted the relationship to end but they had) than I think I would refuse any requests for a dance from that person (no matter how fabulous a dancer I believe them to be) because I think it would be impossible to separate my feelings for that person from the dance experience (which is contrary to the beliefs of some contributors to the thread). If I no longer had those feelings then I don't see it as a problem though you would need to be aware of sensitivites of the current partner if you were all in the same location.
The incestuous nature of the dance scene (as someone phrased it earlier in the thread) is quite novel for me as I have never tended to cross the path of my partner's exes or they I before I started dancing. I do find it difficult from time to time but you need to have trust in your partner or the relationship is not going to be one that holds much promise for the longer term anyway.
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