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    Re: If I enjoy a dance, can I assume my partner also enjoys that dance.

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    Re: If I enjoy a dance, can I assume my partner also enjoys that dance.

    Quote Originally Posted by robd View Post
    I don't believe that the assumption in the thread title holds true for me. I know I need to smile more when dancing as I have been told I look very serious/detached which I guess could make people think I am not enjoying the dance. Then again, when I do smile my partners seem to assume I am laughing at them rather than, as is usually the case, expressing my admiration for something they have just done.
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    Re: If I enjoy a dance, can I assume my partner also enjoys that dance.

    Quote Originally Posted by Genie View Post
    (snip) I will admit (and feel free to slap me, I deserve it, maybe) to having smiled and said 'thank you' when I've not really enjoyed the dance, out of a need to be polite and encourage people to dance - just because I didn't enjoy it doesn't mean I have to ruin their day by letting them know that
    Then you can slap me too if that's wrong, coz there's NO WAY I'm not going to smile and say thank you, however bad it was!

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    Re: If I enjoy a dance, can I assume my partner also enjoys that dance.

    Quote Originally Posted by Whitebeard View Post
    Can we always trust our instincts in matters such as this ?
    There's a big difference between trusting your insincts and assuming, isn't there?

    Personally I believe that instinct will tell us when there is mutual enjoyment in a dance, but unless that instinct or other experience with the person you're dancing with exists, it's not safe to assume, no.

    Still: part of the joy of dancing is the fun you can have finding out!

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    Re: If I enjoy a dance, can I assume my partner also enjoys that dance.

    Quote Originally Posted by Frankie_4711 View Post
    Then you can slap me too if that's wrong, coz there's NO WAY I'm not going to smile and say thank you, however bad it was!
    *slap*

    I enjoyed that, did you?

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    Re: If I enjoy a dance, can I assume my partner also enjoys that dance.

    i think the best way to tell if a partner enjoyed your dance is if they ask you for another. Thats the most flattering thing for me to receive,,, second dance request. love it.

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    Re: If I enjoy a dance, can I assume my partner also enjoys that dance.

    Quote Originally Posted by Trouble View Post
    i think the best way to tell if a partner enjoyed your dance is if they ask you for another. Thats the most flattering thing for me to receive,,, second dance request. love it.

    Always a good sure sign, either later in the evening or straight after the first

    I also have had the same experiences as woodface, that look that you can see in the eyes, the feeling that the lady is purely there on sufferance even though she asked you to dance. It can be very off putting

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    Re: If I enjoy a dance, can I assume my partner also enjoys that dance.

    Quote Originally Posted by Frankie_4711 View Post
    Then you can slap me too if that's wrong, coz there's NO WAY I'm not going to smile and say thank you, however bad it was!

    And there was me thinking you did enjoy it. Just being polite

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    Re: If I enjoy a dance, can I assume my partner also enjoys that dance.

    Quote Originally Posted by pmjd View Post
    I also have had the same experiences as woodface, that look that you can see in the eyes, the feeling that the lady is purely there on sufferance even though she asked you to dance. It can be very off putting
    Straightjackets and tango walks usually wake most of my partners up I find. Possible both at once if I feel particularly vindictive.

    Quote Originally Posted by Trouble View Post
    i think the best way to tell if a partner enjoyed your dance is if they ask you for another. Thats the most flattering thing for me to receive,,, second dance request. love it.
    I asked someone for a second dance on Friday, I think. I had to go for a lie down to recover after that though, the shock was a bit too much for my system.

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    Re: If I enjoy a dance, can I assume my partner also enjoys that dance.

    Quote Originally Posted by Gentabout View Post
    And there was me thinking you did enjoy it. Just being polite

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    Re: If I enjoy a dance, can I assume my partner also enjoys that dance.

    Quote Originally Posted by Trouble View Post
    i think the best way to tell if a partner enjoyed your dance is if they ask you for another. Thats the most flattering thing for me to receive,,, second dance request. love it.
    Even if they just ask me again on another occasion. I know that someone is not likely to ask me to dance again and again if they really don't enjoy it. (Eventually I might even ask them!).

    Its lovely when the dance has been good and neither person actually asks for a second dance, you just keep on dancing together for several tracks.

    I smile when dancing and its pretty rare that I can't find something to enjoy about any dance. But there are ones when something really clicks with a partner, they/you try something different and it works, you're both hearing the music the same way, lots of possible reasons. You both have a big smile and 'that was a fab dance' comments for each other at the end. And you know its not just 'being polite', that you've both really enjoyed it.

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    Re: If I enjoy a dance, can I assume my partner also enjoys that dance.

    Quote Originally Posted by Trouble View Post
    i think the best way to tell if a partner enjoyed your dance is if they ask you for another.
    Quote Originally Posted by pmjd View Post
    Always a good sure sign, either later in the evening or straight after the first
    Lots of people ask for two dances by default, so I wouldn't read too much into such requests.

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    Quote Originally Posted by woodface View Post
    I sometimes get asked to dance by women who are then compleatly miserable the whole dance. Nothing I have done, it's just thats the way they are with everyone. No smiling, no eye contact just a 'why did I bother comming' look.
    Gosh, how awful. That's one nice thing about me, if I say so myself - I may not be the greatest dancer in the world, but no one could accuse me of being a miserable scrote on the dancefloor. (In fact, I get a lot of blokes grumbling to me about how miserable a lot of the other ladies are. It does puzzle me.)

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    Re: If I enjoy a dance, can I assume my partner also enjoys that dance.

    Quote Originally Posted by MartinHarper View Post
    Lots of people ask for two dances by default, so I wouldn't read too much into such requests.
    B*gger... I'm always flattered by this.

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    Re: If I enjoy a dance, can I assume my partner also enjoys that dance.

    I can remember a girl coming to the Belfast Class way back in February for a few weeks.
    When I danced with her either in the class or freestyle she never smiled and indeed seemed 'very flat' to use an expression. Upon exchanging notes with a few other males in the class, they all had the same experience with the girl. However it turns out she was after a man! Well she did get her man. Those of us who know this particular individual will be quite certain that the girl had an interesting evening, she has never been back to the class since!
    There is nothing that I enjoy more than dancing with a girl who knows what she is doing. There is a definate buzz between myself and the lady.
    We have some very good dancers in Belfast and they are always a joy to lead.
    It is also good when the two of us can laugh at our mistakes, particularly when it comes to those rather twisty intermediate moves!

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    Re: If I enjoy a dance, can I assume my partner also enjoys that dance.

    Quote Originally Posted by MartinHarper View Post
    Lots of people ask for two dances by default, so I wouldn't read too much into such requests.
    if you didn't enjoy the dance your not going to ask for another Simple so what on earth are you talking about...

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    Re: If I enjoy a dance, can I assume my partner also enjoys that dance.

    Quote Originally Posted by DavidJames View Post
    Straightjackets and tango walks usually wake most of my partners up I find. Possible both at once if I feel particularly vindictive.


    I asked someone for a second dance on Friday, I think. I had to go for a lie down to recover after that though, the shock was a bit too much for my system.
    well your right about one thing,, you do have a big stick

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    Re: If I enjoy a dance, can I assume my partner also enjoys that dance.

    Quote Originally Posted by Trouble View Post
    if you didn't enjoy the dance your not going to ask for another Simple so what on earth are you talking about...
    I think he means if its the 'norm' for that dancer or their usual venue then staying up for a second dance can't be guaranteed as an indication of mutual enjoyment. I think asking a person again later the same evening or event can be taken as such though.

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    Re: If I enjoy a dance, can I assume my partner also enjoys that dance.

    Quote Originally Posted by Juju View Post
    B*gger... I'm always flattered by this.
    me too, oh well

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    Re: If I enjoy a dance, can I assume my partner also enjoys that dance.

    Quote Originally Posted by Lynn View Post
    I think he means if its the 'norm' for that dancer or their usual venue then staying up for a second dance can't be guaranteed as an indication of mutual enjoyment.
    Yep. About 1/3 of forumites dance two dances as standard, according to the last poll we had on the subject.

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