I've realised that I spend a lot of my time on the dancefloor dancing with people I know, or have danced with before - which is great and I always enjoy it. But trying to broaden my circle of dancers I made the decision to ask more guys to dance that I don't know.
This decision seems to have coincided with an increase in the times I have been refused dances (both by people I've danced with before, and those I haven't)
I do realise that our over-worked guys need a rest, and I try to respect that when I realise they are cooling down or whatever by saying, can I have a dance sometime when you're ready?
But recently I've been told the following:
I'd prefer to dance this track with someone I like.
I think you just use me for dancing...
No. (no apology, no explanation, nothing)
I've also been looked up and down, then told - No thanks!
I've even been taken onto the dance floor, then the guy walked away and left me there!
I also get the usual - I was just going to dance with someone else... (never to be seen again!)
I'm resting - only for the guy to dance with someone else.
I'm sure others have shared these experiences so,
My questions are -
Do we forgive and forget? Grow an extra thick layer of skin and ask again another time.
Do we hold a grudge and never give them the time of day again?
Do we sit patiently and wait and hope to be asked?
Do we only ask those we know?
And how do we walk the line between being predatory and being standoffish ...
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