Oh. I am enjoying this thread. That probably means that I'm argumentative and stupid though!
Yes, too hot!
No, could do with more heat!
It's just fine as it is.
I used to be indecisive, but now I'm not so sure!
Oh. I am enjoying this thread. That probably means that I'm argumentative and stupid though!
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Age is a question of mind over matter, if you don't mind, it doesn't matter
Leroy (Satchel) Paige (1906-1982)
Mickey Mouse's girlfriend, Minnie, made her film debut, along with Mickey, in "Steamboat Willie" on November 18, 1928.
That date is recognized as her official birthday.
Yes some threads get heated because people care about that subject - but other times its just stirring and being unpleasant because some people seem to find some sort of pleasure in that. No - but when a thread turns nasty any interesting discussion gets lost in the vitriol and most of the people whose opinion I would like to read on the subject simply stop posting on that thread.
Yes. The parts I usually don't like are when someone who feels passionately about their subject crosses swords with someone who is just out for an 'intellectual' ping pong match and simply wants to score points, rather than being strongly opinionated or trying to understand the other point of view. This is when the 'arguments' become an excuse to selectively quote others and lack integrity. These diminish the forum as they prevent others from wanting to share their opinions, since they will be treated with the contempt they do not deserve.
absolutely gutted i missed the action on this thread. Worked too hard today clearly. Never mind, i'll catch the next one... anyone got any popcorn left
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Age is a question of mind over matter, if you don't mind, it doesn't matter
Leroy (Satchel) Paige (1906-1982)
Mickey Mouse's girlfriend, Minnie, made her film debut, along with Mickey, in "Steamboat Willie" on November 18, 1928.
That date is recognized as her official birthday.
MODERATOR AT YOUR SERVICE
"If you're going to do something tonight, that you know you'll be sorry for in the morning, plan a lie in." Lorraine
I think people who tend to be seen as disrespectful (hence add to the 'heat' of the forum) are for various sort of reasons which can include:
- wanting to be funny (at what can be felt the expense of somebody else),
- wanting to be noticed, just spicing things up a bit - there's been lots of those lately
- being very passionate/emotional about a topic and not willing to consider a totally different point of view
- just not understanding somebody else (usually associated with one or both of the parties intellectual abilities and their skill at expressing clearly their opinions, as others have said) and reacting disproportionately
- plain rudeness/ignorance which reveals more about the poster than anybody towards whom the attack is addressed.
- cultural / languages differences, i.e. British people tend to be seen as quite reserved and polite in comparison to continental Europeans. Also people for whom English is not their first language can use words whose meaning they don't fully understand.
Of course, there are also very disrespectful people who just try to put other people in boxes
I usually find that once you have sorted out which one the 'hot' poster might be, it's easier to find the appropriate response. Of course you could just get it all wrong and worsen things .
The forum is made of the same people you see at work, at home, out socialising etc. There's plenty of different styles, plenty of different reasons why people behave the way they do, and that's just fine - they're all valid.
I'm happy with the forum the way it is, I don't get involved in heated debates if I don't want to (or am just not feeling funny/passionate enough to post), and like most when bored I find they usually make a fun reading.
But I do regret that some people find the forum / some posters so rude that they would not dare posting, or worse, leave and deprive us of their enlightened contributions. (DavidB comes to mind... )
Where are all the voters?
I thought this was a contentious issue, but we've only got 16 people voting
Come on, you lazy lot, get out there and VOTE!
I voted.
Do I get rep?
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