Guys, do you ask ladies to dance?

[Lory]

I thought I'd redress the balance and see what the guys answers are :wink:

[TA Guy]

LOL. Yes.

[under par]

I always ask ladies to dance if I have not already asked by a lady.

Most venues where forumites gather I try to dance with all the forum ladies (and a few forum men) as well as trying to dance with all the ladies adjacent to where we are sat/stood.

It is very difficult some evenings to get away from that area of the hall especially as i have to reurn to that area for my towell and fresh shirts regularly.

Only on a few occasion pre competition do I avoid dancing with lots of ladies but then I generally dance mor locally.

I love the longer freestyles because it allows me to dance with so many more people and I don't leave the venue apologising to al and sundry for not dancing.

In response to Lory's post.

Lory, please please don't stop asking all the men it will surely be you and your dancing that will suffer.

For some men it is very difficult to get off the floor never mind circulate round the room.

I love dancing with you and would be sad if we didn't grab every opportunity to dance.:hug:

[Andreas]

I do indeed get sometimes the chance to ask for a dance. :)

[killingtime]

I was tempted to put I find it easier to ask other men for a laugh, but I don't really.

I put Often as pretty much I'll do the asking when I'm able (that is I won't sit it out instead) though at larger events I might sit it out as more of a way of pacing. Most of the time, on a busy night anyway, I don't get a huge amount of chance to do the asking.

[Zuhal]

Just a thought to add to the anonimity aspect.

Read the following reply from someone anonymous.

'Ladies' sure I ask them, but then I also ask all the trollops, slatterns and rough types as long as they can dance. Even those who pretend to be Nice Girls.



and now from someone you all know as a Luvvie

'Ladies' :drool: sure I ask them, but then I also ask all the trollops,:really: slatterns and rough types:devil: as long as they can dance. Even those who pretend to be Nice Girls.:flower: :kiss: :hug:

Zuhal

[robd]

Most venues where forumites gather I try to dance with all the forum ladies (and a few forum men) as well as trying to dance with all the ladies adjacent to where we are sat/stood.

It is very difficult some evenings to get away from that area of the hall especially as i have to reurn to that area for my towell and fresh shirts regularly.


Good post U.P and a particular :yeah: to the quoted part. What I do sometimes do is leave my bag where the group are sitting and then just go to the other side of the hall to ask people who I don't know or don't recall dancing with previously. As you say, you end up gravitating back to that area for a drink, etc so being quite decisive in getting away initially can be helpful. This is not to say it's not good fun dancing with forum ladies - of course it is and some of them I'd like to dance with all night long :yum: - but it is easy to ghettoise yourself in this way.

I'm really looking forward to Southport for the chance to dance with ladies from Scotland and the North which are both areas I haven't had much experience of. But I know I also will not want to neglect friends from the forum and ladies local to me here. I'll just have to dance all night long :clap:

[Kev F]

Most venues where forumites gather I try to dance with all the forum ladies (and a few forum men) as well as trying to dance with all the ladies adjacent to where we are sat/stood.


Are you becoming a hot-shot Mr UP....since you haven't asked me since Camber :tears:

Is it the way i do my hair now?? At least tell me what's changed, so I can try and make things right between us! I try and make eye contact, but you just casually look the other way! :devil::nice:

[Cruella]

I try and make eye contact,
Really:what: I'm offended, are his eyes nicer than mine then :tears:

[Dazzler]

I can honestly say that i ask as many women as i can to dance wherever i am :grin: I enjoy all my dances sometimes for different reasons but on the whole its just cos i like to dance!...HOWEVER....if i happen to miss anyone out at the comp this weekend please approach me as i feel that i never get approached by women :sad: i always seem to be asking people yet i seldom get an invite from another!.

[under par]

Are you becoming a hot-shot Mr UP....since you haven't asked me since Camber :tears:

Is it the way i do my hair now?? At least tell me what's changed, so I can try and make things right between us! I try and make eye contact, but you just casually look the other way! :devil::nice:

Kev I have seen you occasionally but you always seem to be gazing into anothers eyes,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,lucky fella!:whistle:

[bigdjiver]

I answered "All of the time", but probably twice a year I subject myself to s reality check and have an unannounced "ladies invitation night." It does put me thoroughly in my place, and it does make me sympathise with the unfortunate excess ladies who have to wait and hope. It also gives me a chance to look around and register a lot of things that I am aware of in my usual frantic state, including picking up tips from other leaders.

[quiet_flame]

I usually chase people down for a dance.
I tend to try and pick the girls who are deliberately hiding 20ft back from the dance floor looking scared... :devil:

But I will also try and dance with all my regular partners as well.
Depends on how alive I am, and if I'm teaching that night or not.

[spindr]

I usually chase people down for a dance.
Same here.

One tip: if you change your shirt to a different colour during the evening you may find that they don't run away so quickly when you go looking for to ask them again :)

SpinDr

[Andreas]

I usually chase people down for a dance.
I hardly ever 'chase' because the people I want to dance with I either don't need to chase because they are just there or the find me :whistle: And other than that, I just walk along the floor and pick whoever stands there.

[bigdjiver]

I usually chase people down for a dance.
I tend to try and pick the girls who are deliberately hiding 20ft back from the dance floor looking scared... :devil: i do that too, though it does occur to me that sometimes I might be the reason that they are looking scared ...

[fletch]

I hardly ever 'chase' because the people I want to dance with I either don't need to chase because they are just there or the find me :whistle: And other than that, I just walk along the floor and pick whoever stands there.


I whish I could find you just walking along so I could grab you,:whistle: it would sace me 'chasing' you :na:


What a dancer :worthy:

[Andreas]

I whish I could find you just walking along so I could grab you,:whistle: it would sace me 'chasing' you :na:

Don't be silly. :flower:


CAT FIGHT!! :drool: :drool: :rofl:

[Gadget]

I answered "all the time", but thinking a bit more, it's not really true: I ask if no-one asks me first. So that's probably "often" rather than "all the time".

[quiet_flame]

i do that too, though it does occur to me that sometimes I might be the reason that they are looking scared ...
:whistle:
I agree... my least favourite (but most common request)... please go easy I haven't been dancing long/ this is my first/second night... I've only been dancing a short time etc.

To which I reply "you'll be fine":devil:

I find myself pulling them up onto the floor becuase
a) I want to dance with someone different
b) I want them to enjoy dance as much as I do
c) I know the fear, I used to have it, and found the best way to overcome it was to (believe it or not) Just dance!

[Gentabout]

I find myself doing a lot of asking on some nights yet others i dont seem to get a chance to ask, or to even get back to have a drink. Probally all down to how bad i was in the intermediate class.

Gent.

[Minnie M]

What a good thread - not sure who 'dug it up' but - thank you :hug:

I don't often get a chance to dance with my favourite dancers as they are so busy on the floor, I don't like to ask them as I appreciate that they need a rest sometimes - therefore I really really appreciate it when they ask me - thank you :hug:

[Jamie]

Thought i'd be honest in the poll... :devil:

[StokeBloke]

Idon't often get a chance to dance with my favourite dancers as they are so busy on the floor, I don't like to ask them as I appreciate that they need a rest sometimes - therefore I really really appreciate it when they ask me - thank you :hug:
I just blunder on over and ask... after all they can rest when they get home :wink:


If you ask someone for a dance you have a 50% chance of getting a one.


If you don't ask someone for a dance you are 100% guaranteed not to get one.

Work the odds Minnie :D

[Minnie M]

I just blunder on over and ask... after all they can rest when they get home :wink:


If you ask someone for a dance you have a 50% chance of getting a one.


If you don't ask someone for a dance you are 100% guaranteed not to get one.

Work the odds Minnie :D

True !

Not so happy about the 50% bit - when I first learnt to dance, the class was told that you don't refuse a dance, and if you really have to, go back and ask later

[StokeBloke]

OK - a 99% chance of a dance............. even better! Get askin' gal :D :D

[Minnie M]

OK - a 99% chance of a dance............. even better! Get askin' gal :D :D

Am I on the right thread :confused:


"Guys, do you ask ladies to dance?"

[Mr Cool]

I ask ladies to dance all the time. :nice: However i like to make eye contact first to see if they have any interest in dancing with me :blush:
I hate dancing with ladies who go through the motions bored out their minds.:eek:

I for one would rather they were honest and just said know:yeah:


:waycool: :waycool: :waycool:

[Gav]

I for one would rather they were honest and just said know:yeah:


:waycool: :waycool: :waycool:

:yeah:

I do ask normally, but sometimes I have evenings where I don't really bother. Nothing personal, just relaxing and socialising, but not refusing. :grin:

[Trouble]

Im now getting a little more confident dancing as a "guy"... so ive started asking ladies too. Mind you, only ladies i know. Not had a complaint yet. Wont be long and i'll get my willy.!! :whistle: :flower:

[Gav]

Im now getting a little more confident dancing as a "guy"... so ive started asking ladies too. Mind you, only ladies i know. Not had a complaint yet. Wont be long and i'll get my willy.!! :whistle: :flower:

Well you've already got a bigger pair than most blokes! :whistle:

[Lee Bartholomew]

I have no problem asking ladies to dance, Some men too if I know them.

[killingtime]

Thought i'd be honest in the poll... :devil:

You never asked me :tears: :tears:.

[SeriouslyAddicted]

Some men too if I know them.

..and sometimes if you don't know them simply for the shock factor :rofl:

[Jamie]

You never asked me :tears: :tears:.

Ahh, theres no escape now! :devil:

[Shodan]

Not wanting to sound big-headed, but most of the time I don't get chance to ask ladies to dance as most of the time when I've finished a dance with a lady, another lady grabs me. Being of good dance etiquette I always dance with people who ask (unless legit reason not to). This sometimes can lead to a bit of frustration as there are times I wish I could dance with ladies that I want to ask to dance.
Like some of the beginners for example - most are too shy. The regulars at jive know to grab me all the time, but that leaves the poor beginners on the sidelines. I always try to dance with at least one new person every week.

[dave the scaffolder]

Im now getting a little more confident dancing as a "guy"... so ive started asking ladies too. Mind you, only ladies i know. Not had a complaint yet. Wont be long and i'll get my willy.!! :whistle: :flower:
Yoiu can have mineXXX XXX