Help/advice needed...

[CJ]

I am a dancer of probably an advanced intermediate level, if that.

I know some nice moves, but don't execute them with style. I have musicality by the hundred weight, but not enough floor craft.

So, here is my plea...

I have had lots of good dances, some GREAT dances, a few wonderful dances and a couple of "special" dances that will stay with me for all my life.

However, we have discovered a new concept: a dance that makes you LITERALLY go weak @ the knees... Recently, I danced with someone, the music, the timing, the partner were all right for that 4mins 44 secs. AT the end of the dance, I said "thank you," then had to struggle to my seat as my legs were trembling, my heart was aflutter and I felt somewhat disengaged from my surroundings.

All VERY pleasant, but surprising to say the least.

Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Please save my sanity, paranoia, etc, etc, etc

Please don't extract the Michael too much: I'm feeling surprisingly bare, open and unsure about this...

[Northants Girly]

Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Please save my sanity, paranoia, etc, etc, etc

Please don't extract the Michael too much: I'm feeling surprisingly bare, open and unsure about this...Yeah - been there, done that :whistle:

then much later realized it was just a dance :sad:

[Dreadful Scathe]

Recently, I danced with someone, the music, the timing, the partner were all right for that 4mins 44 secs.

I thought you said I was a bad follow? :confused: ...surely it wasnt that recent either :)

[drathzel]

I thought you said I was a bad follow? :confused: ...surely it wasnt that recent either :)

No no no, DS.... It was the time you led!!!! Not followed... remember, u changed roles!!!

To keeps us on the straight an narrow here (yes me) I have to agree i have had at least 1 dance that was just knee jerkingly wonderful that you HAD to go sit down! :drool:

[JoC]

4mins 44 secsCome on then, who's going to work out the track?

[Donna]

I am a dancer of probably an advanced intermediate level, if that.

I know some nice moves, but don't execute them with style. I have musicality by the hundred weight, but not enough floor craft.

So, here is my plea...

I have had lots of good dances, some GREAT dances, a few wonderful dances and a couple of "special" dances that will stay with me for all my life.

However, we have discovered a new concept: a dance that makes you LITERALLY go weak @ the knees... Recently, I danced with someone, the music, the timing, the partner were all right for that 4mins 44 secs. AT the end of the dance, I said "thank you," then had to struggle to my seat as my legs were trembling, my heart was aflutter and I felt somewhat disengaged from my surroundings.

All VERY pleasant, but surprising to say the least.

Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Please save my sanity, paranoia, etc, etc, etc

Please don't extract the Michael too much: I'm feeling surprisingly bare, open and unsure about this...

I certainly have!!!!!

[Tiggerbabe]

Come on then, who's going to work out the track?
Well, I have one of his favs pegged at 4.49.......so can't be that one........

And CJ, yes me too :hug:

[Cruella]

However, we have discovered a new concept: a dance that makes you LITERALLY go weak @ the knees... Recently, I danced with someone, the music, the timing, the partner were all right for that 4mins 44 secs. AT the end of the dance, I said "thank you," then had to struggle to my seat as my legs were trembling, my heart was aflutter and I felt somewhat disengaged from my surroundings.

Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Please save my sanity, paranoia, etc, etc, etc



Unfortunately i've had many fantastic dances, but alas i'm still waiting for the knee trembler dance. :tears: Maybe when i get to dance in Scotland at the weekend............. :wink:

[DianaS]

I am a dancer of probably an advanced intermediate level, if that.

I know some nice moves, but don't execute them with style. I have musicality by the hundred weight, but not enough floor craft.

So, here is my plea...

I have had lots of good dances, some GREAT dances, a few wonderful dances and a couple of "special" dances that will stay with me for all my life.

However, we have discovered a new concept: a dance that makes you LITERALLY go weak @ the knees... Recently, I danced with someone, the music, the timing, the partner were all right for that 4mins 44 secs. AT the end of the dance, I said "thank you," then had to struggle to my seat as my legs were trembling, my heart was aflutter and I felt somewhat disengaged from my surroundings.

All VERY pleasant, but surprising to say the least.

Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Please save my sanity, paranoia, etc, etc, etc

Please don't extract the Michael too much: I'm feeling surprisingly bare, open and unsure about this...
Doesn't seem to me you need help or advice :flower:
Well done mate!
I've only had a cuppla dances that have come even close to that, and yes it does shake you.
:cheers:

[Zebra Woman]

Nice one CJ! I am racking my brains trying to think what track it could have been. :D

I have a had a few of those. I remember Miss Conduct looking at my face in disbelief before leaping up to help me walk to the edge of the floor! I was frozen like a rabbit in the headlights. It was a really deep experience, but also only a dance, and also hysterically funny to watch.

I have sometimes clocked her dance face while she's having one too, and winked at her knowlingly. :wink:


I do try not to think about it too much...


Once I start thinking :

How can something so meaningful be so meaning-less?
Is it meaning-less?
What does it mean??? :confused:

Aarrgghh...that way lies insomnia... :eek: :eek: :eek: .

But as you have a new baby I guess you're awake anyway....

Perhaps you could think it all through and report back?

All I know is that, for me it's the Nirvana that keeps me driving miles and miles through the night, and carrying on dancing when my feet are sore, and it's why I have to change my top.



ZW :flower:

[Gill (Norwich)]

Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Please save my sanity, paranoia, etc, etc, etc


No not yet, but I would like to :blush:
Preserve it in your memory, moments like this in life are all too rare :nice:

[Rebecca]

I was lucky enough to experience a run of dances that produced this effect (with the same person) in June at Southport. I had managed to keep my romantic life and dancing life pretty much seperate prior to that (with 1 indiscretion), and the experience knocked me off my feet. Luckily I was single and now am able to recreate the experience on a regular basis - HURRAH!!!

Whether it be the partner, the dance, the track, the atmosphere, your mood, mental state, capacity, intoxication - perhaps all of the above, in the end, perhaps for us all, when you love to dance 'the rhythm is gonna get you'. . .

Personally I'm glad x

[bigdjiver]

I have had that experience a few times. I suspect at least two of my partners felt the same, and felt very shaken by it. Sadly, I now avoid the possibility by deliberately over-doing anything that might trigger it, avoiding the "Less is more" syndrome. Clumpy by design...

[MartinHarper]

Well, I've had a few dances, just a few, where I've had to go take a seat for the next two or three songs. Knee trembling, fluttering heart? Perhaps not - but I definately needed to rest and savour the feeling. Always with those dancers who are completely out of my league, unsurprisingly.

[Jazz_Shoes (Ash)]

Wow, sounds like a really great dance, i'd like to experience one of those too :drool:

[Buttons]

I had a dance like that :wink: it was to a fast track, I was knackered :rolleyes: my knees gave way as I crawled to my seat for a well deserved rest. :rofl:

[CJ]

:worthy: Thank you all for your honesty: (PM's and rep, too.) I appreciate it.

Yes, it was only a dance. And yet, the word only seems wrong. Funnily enough, if it were more then the dance would have been sullied, impure. If it was something more, then it would actually be something less: as it would not have been about our souls, the music, our connection and that moment but something more tacky.

It was my first experience, as you know, of that sort. Am left wanting another one, but scared that another one will reduce the effect. I think I'll get more "special" dances but not too many of those.

In answer to ZW, yes it was so meaningful. I'd never regard it as meaningless: it has touched me most profoundly, and I'm delighted it has happened.

Am looking forward to the comp and, I hope, some great dancing.

If anyone has any tales to share on this vein, I'm sure we'd all be grateful.

The song?? :wink:

[Zebra Woman]

It was my first experience, as you know, of that sort. Am left wanting another one, but scared that another one will reduce the effect. I think I'll get more "special" dances but not too many of those.

Yes that is a massive worry. I had a huge expectation after my first one, and developed an obsession about trying to get the same dancer to the same song again... :blush: It was good but never quite the same again. That's life eh? The birth of your second child will never eclipse the miraculous revelation of the birth of your first child will it? But on the other hand, if you remain open to it, it can happen when you're not expecting it - to a song you don't adore, with a partner you didn't think you were going to click with :clap: . That's a big plus IMO.



In answer to ZW, yes it was so meaningful. I'd never regard it as meaningless: it has touched me most profoundly, and I'm delighted it has happened.


I am really pleased for you too. I can't really type what I mean here, I'll have another go...sorry :blush:

Maybe I meant



How can something so meaningless be so meaning-ful?

ZW :flower:

Oh I don't know. :rolleyes:

It's a dance which is deemed to be a fairly frivolous pastime..... but it's also really deep and spiritual and moving. For the 4 minutes 20 seconds it's absolutely extremely REAL. I feel completely raw....without any layers of protection at all.

What I mean is, powerful though those feelings are , it doesn't mean that I would want to do anything more than dance with that person. So by that reckoning it's fairly shallow.

Have I gone round and round here?

I knew it!

Like I said before - maybe best not to think about it too deeply. :what:

ZW :flower:

[LMC]

I WANT ONE

(of those dances)

*swooning* just at descriptions :drool: :drool:

Seriously, beautiful and honest thread :flower: - thank you CJ & ZW especially for showing me something else to aspire to

[Minnie M]

I have had a couple of those such dances with DavidB - I call them orgasmic dances :drool: doesn't happen very often but when it does it is almost as good as sex :whistle: It's not just the track, it is a combination of many things (need Ash here for this one)

[Debster]

Yes, it was only a dance. And yet, the word only seems wrong. Funnily enough, if it were more then the dance would have been sullied, impure. If it was something more, then it would actually be something less: as it would not have been about our souls, the music, our connection and that moment but something more tacky.

It was my first experience, as you know, of that sort. Am left wanting another one, but scared that another one will reduce the effect. I think I'll get more "special" dances but not too many of those.

In answer to ZW, yes it was so meaningful. I'd never regard it as meaningless: it has touched me most profoundly, and I'm delighted it has happened.

...

If anyone has any tales to share on this vein, I'm sure we'd all be grateful.

Absolutely CJ - it is just the dance and that is what is so perfect. I've been there too. ;)

We aren't talking about a dance where you think the other person is hot/sexy/gorgeous and you swoon to be sharing an intimate moment with them... that's NOT it at all. (although they can be pretty bl**dy good too)

We are talking about an amazing experience that I can best describe as "spiritual". Somehow the combination of musical rhythm, and movement perfectly aligned with another being, as well as living completely in that moment all come together in an exhilirating feeling for a few brief minutes.

Again the description sounds kind of sexual, but the experience really wasn't.

And I'll also admit that my favourite, most "spiritual" dance was dancing a foxtrot, not Ceroc. Although Ceroc has done it to me too.

Unfortunately it has been a while since I've been there, and I don't know if it will happen again but the memory will keep me trying for it for a very long time.

I've also noticed that even fantastic dances (i.e. those short of spiritual) are nearly impossible to repeat. The same music and the same partner even at the same venue will not reproduce the same results. It has to be more innocent and less manufactured or it won't work.

So heck - get out there and dance with everyone! Surely the more we dance, the better chance we'll have of finding that experience again. :flower: Surely you couldn't possibly over-do it or dull the experience. :)

[Cruella]

Unfortunately i've had many fantastic dances, but alas i'm still waiting for the knee trembler dance. :tears: Maybe when i get to dance in Scotland at the weekend............. :wink:

Well i went to Scotland! And there was one person there who came very close to giving me one of these dancing moments. It was Brady. He is probably sick of me gushing about how fab a dancer he is. But hey, compliments given where they are deserved. :drool: