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Dreadful Scathe
1st-March-2005, 04:03 PM
Well, someone else e.g. a woman can do a duplicate male one, but this thread is trying to find out what is the first thing a guy looks for in a woman.

So the scenario is, you see a lone attractive woman you've never seen before at the edge of a dance floor - what do you notice ? whats the feature that stands out ? what bit of a womans anatomy do you find especially attractive ?

- dont just tick them all, just the first few you would notice! :)


edit: I was gong to add POISE as an option but forgot!

TheTramp
1st-March-2005, 04:06 PM
You missed "Eyes"....

Northants Girly
1st-March-2005, 04:07 PM
what bit of a womans anatomy do you find especially attractive ? I wonder how long it will take for this thread to require being taken upstairs . . . :whistle:

Northants Girly
1st-March-2005, 04:09 PM
You missed "Eyes".... of course he did he's a bloke! :rofl: :rofl:

Sorry - I'll go away now and leave you guys to it ;)

TheTramp
1st-March-2005, 04:12 PM
of course he did he's a bloke! :rofl: :rofl:
Hey. I'm a bloke, and that's what I want to vote for..... :flower:

Dreadful Scathe
1st-March-2005, 04:13 PM
I wonder how long it will take for this thread to require being taken upstairs . . . :whistle:
Hmm... Lets assume the fully clothed side of the dance floor scenario and we should be safe. :D


Eyes I thought of that but I felt that was covered by 'face' as I was assuming she was on the other side of the room at the time. Lets keep assuming shes at a distance so we don't get VPL, nipples and such like as suggestions ;) (er..is that sentance going to get it moved upstairs :) )

El Salsero Gringo
1st-March-2005, 04:24 PM
You also missed 'shoulders', for which I would have voted (along with a couple of other attributes)

Dreadful Scathe
1st-March-2005, 04:26 PM
for which I would have voted (along with a couple of other attributes)
but boobs are there ? :confused:

Northants Girly
1st-March-2005, 04:39 PM
What about how she dances? This is a dancers forum after all :D

John S
1st-March-2005, 04:45 PM
The order of choices isn't alphabetical, doesn't seem to be in any other logical sequence, and was presumably decided by DS - can we deduce anything from that about where DS's eyes are pointing? :devil:

I'm not voting, anyway, as it's all too physical - the Ceroc ladies I know are sweet, angelic, ethereal beings who waft around on clouds of spirituality, dispensing their dance favours impartially with grace and lightness of being.

Or maybe I'm just too old. :sad:

Dreadful Scathe
1st-March-2005, 04:58 PM
What about how she dances? This is a dancers forum after all :D

If you had read the scenario ;) .... shes standing at the edge of the dance floor, you've never seen her dance, you're looking on her as a mystical creature untouched by time, frozen like a little butterfly (aww), unsullied by the eyes of learing cerocers - its the here and now, your first opinion of her physically. I dunno much about art but i know what i like :)


...apologies for rambling :)

Northants Girly
1st-March-2005, 05:00 PM
If you had read the scenario ;) .... shes standing at the edge of the dance floor, you've never seen her dance, you're looking on her as a mystical creature untouched by time, frozen like a little butterfly (aww), unsullied by the eyes of learing cerocers - its the here and now, your first opinion of her physically. I dunno much about art but i know what i like :)


...apologies for rambling :) sorry :blush:
I really really will go away now and leave y'all to it :na:

Dreadful Scathe
1st-March-2005, 05:02 PM
The order of choices isn't alphabetical, doesn't seem to be in any other logical sequence, and was presumably decided by DS - can we deduce anything from that about where DS's eyes are pointing? :devil:


If you like, Ive always wanted to be psychoanalysed :) My brain doesnt necessarily work in a 'logical sequence', and I must say I find the idea of alphabeticising a list like this completely abhorent. :D

Banana Man
1st-March-2005, 05:06 PM
What about how she dances? This is a dancers forum after all :D

:yeah:
Was just about to say how she moves, if she's moving to the music, waiting for a dance. And also how she stands - poise. And I do like a good neck! :whistle: :blush:

clevedonboy
1st-March-2005, 05:12 PM
"All of the above"

El Salsero Gringo
1st-March-2005, 05:14 PM
:yeah:
Was just about to say how she moves, if she's moving to the music, waiting for a dance. And also how she stands - poise. And I do like a good neck! :whistle: :blush:
It's just an opinion, but I find the most attractive ladies are not by and large the best dancers, and the best dancers are not the ladies that I find the most attractive. Of course there are honourable exceptions in both categories (before I land myself in immensely deep and hot water.)


Oh, and the poll also misses - "the way she bounces her hand."

philsmove
1st-March-2005, 05:26 PM
-
what do you notice ?
whats the feature that stands out ?
what bit of a womans anatomy do you find especially attractive ?

!


3 questions

3 different answers

1 her height /age/ size
2 her eyes /smile /face
3 her bum

Dreadful Scathe
1st-March-2005, 05:28 PM
Oh, and the poll also misses - "the way she bounces her hand."

Tsk, I wish people would read the scenario! :) Its initial attraction - shes frozen in time like an overused matrix special effect - shes not dancing or moving.

The poll misses 'the way she shouts at you for throwing dirty socks on the floor when going to bed' but it assumed a particular future I didnt think that was relevant either :)

Dreadful Scathe
1st-March-2005, 05:42 PM
what do you notice ?
whats the feature that stands out ?
what bit of a womans anatomy do you find especially attractive ?




3 questions , 3 different answers

1 her height /age/ size
2 her eyes /smile /face
3 her bum

The questions were aiming at the same premise and should be considered as one. i.e. you notice a feature you find especially attractive. Either you're just a pedant or maybe i'm just incoherant :)

You 'notice' a womans age first ? To what degree of accuracy and do you round down 5 years before you mention it ? :).

El Salsero Gringo
1st-March-2005, 05:43 PM
Tsk, I wish people would read the scenario! :) Its initial attraction - shes frozen in time like an overused matrix special effect - shes not dancing or moving.
No really, it could well be the first thing someone notices - especially with the way some of the ladies at my regular Ceroc night do it. I didn't realise it had to be a "frozen in time" thing. sorry sorry sorry sorry sorry sorry.


The poll misses 'the way she shouts at you for throwing dirty socks on the floor when going to bed' but it assumed a particular future I didnt think that was relevant either :)OK. Who's been talking? I want names.

Magic Hans
1st-March-2005, 06:10 PM
After some substantial self analysis, it seems to me that :

at first, I notice general shape, prefering, probably a size 10-12,

then I'll be drawn to the boobs (and cleavage!!), followed swiftly by the face,

... in particular, shape, qualities of brightness, sensuality, quality of make-up (or should that be quantity ... I prefer more natural look)

... finally the eyes - liveliness, sparkle, cheekiness, confidence.

bigdjiver
1st-March-2005, 06:33 PM
Well, someone else e.g. a woman can do a duplicate male one, but this thread is trying to find out what is the first thing a guy looks for in a woman... This has been exhaustively researched. One study had a gizmo that tracked where men and women looked when gazing at the opposite sex. The results were displayed as a line that followed their eye movement over the body.

For both sexes the initial scan was the same, a quick look at the face, then a quick scan down and around the body to get general size and shape, then back up to the face. From there the women repeated the process, gradually filling in the detail, but spending a lot of time on the face. The guys, however, went on to paint a very pronounced bikini on the woman with their scans, paying regular short visits to the face.

Those researchers postulated that the men are checking out the woman for mating potential, and the women are checking out how interested the man is in her.

At short range it is definitely the eyes that have it. The pupils automatically dilate when we see something that interests us. Some of us, and I am one, suffer from the "love at first sight" syndrome. I see someone that attracts me, gaze into her eyes, and if her pupils are dilating too - ZAP!

Clive Long
1st-March-2005, 06:35 PM
<< snip >>
(er..is that sentance going to get it moved upstairs :) )

I know you'd want me to pick you up on that one - I thought I'd tell you quietly.

I have voted - but will only say that whenever I am immediately attracted to a laydee - the fledgling romance either ends up in a dead-end :tears: or after a couple of months makes me wish it had crashed and burned very quickly. :tears: :tears: :tears:

Oh shallow creature that I am.

philsmove
1st-March-2005, 07:17 PM
You 'notice' a womans age first ? To what degree of accuracy and do you round down 5 years before you mention it ? :).

I Probably put them in one of the following

Young (too young)
Middle
Old (too old)

You never mention a woman’s age

O’ one advantage of age, the range of age in woman you find attractive, increases the older you are

Bangers & Mash
1st-March-2005, 07:39 PM
This has been exhaustively researched. One study had a gizmo that tracked where men and women looked when gazing at the opposite sex. The results were displayed as a line that followed their eye movement over the body.

For both sexes the initial scan was the same, a quick look at the face, then a quick scan down and around the body to get general size and shape, then back up to the face. From there the women repeated the process, gradually filling in the detail, but spending a lot of time on the face. The guys, however, went on to paint a very pronounced bikini on the woman with their scans, paying regular short visits to the face.

Those researchers postulated that the men are checking out the woman for mating potential, and the women are checking out how interested the man is in her.

At short range it is definitely the eyes that have it. The pupils automatically dilate when we see something that interests us. Some of us, and I am one, suffer from the "love at first sight" syndrome. I see someone that attracts me, gaze into her eyes, and if her pupils are dilating too - ZAP!


I saw that as well. It was really fascinating.

Personally, I prefer the girls that don't tap on the window :whistle:

Bangers & Mash
1st-March-2005, 07:43 PM
On a more serious note.

from a distance...

bottom (firm, not too fleshy)
breasts (not too saggy)
posture
neck
dress sense

up close...

eyes
smile
freckles (a few but not too many)
cheek bones
neck

personality...

confidence
friendliness

cheeks
1st-March-2005, 09:57 PM
Sorry to all you men out there but it appears to me that not many men can actually pin point just what it is you like about a women :confused:


Is this because many women can appear attractive for many different reasons or stir up those senses that even you don't understand...

whether they have that Wow factor,

or the way in which you connect and are not sure why???

emotions, humour,dance,intrigued or just plain old physical attraction...............



:hug:


Cheeks :flower:

Lindsay
1st-March-2005, 10:24 PM
If you like, Ive always wanted to be psychoanalysed :) My brain doesnt necessarily work in a 'logical sequence' . :D

Can vouch.... :grin:

Lindsay
1st-March-2005, 10:25 PM
On a more serious note.

from a distance...

bottom (firm, not too fleshy)
breasts (not too saggy)
posture
neck
dress sense

up close...

eyes
smile
freckles (a few but not too many)
cheek bones
neck

personality...

confidence
friendliness

:rofl: :rofl:

RobC
1st-March-2005, 11:17 PM
I saw that as well. It was really fascinating.

I saw a different one where they cunningly put a miniture camera in a woman's cleavage and then proceeded to watch all the pervs looking into the camera when talking to the woman - genius :rofl:

angelique
2nd-March-2005, 12:22 AM
Sorry to interrupt all this man talk and male bonding but may I ask the million dollar question? :D

WHAT makes a bum "good" in mens eyes?
Try and keep it clean! :whistle:

Thank you for being so kind as to enlighten us regarding this quandry :flower: :kiss:

:rofl: :rofl:

ChrisA
2nd-March-2005, 09:52 AM
WHAT makes a bum "good" in mens eyes?
Try and keep it clean! :whistle:

You really want a serious answer to this???

I mean, this is the most closely guarded secret in the men's world :what:

:eek: :eek:

Bangers & Mash
2nd-March-2005, 10:49 AM
WHAT makes a bum "good" in mens eyes?


Jennifer Lopez
Kylie

:what:

philsmove
2nd-March-2005, 10:53 AM
[QUOTE=angelique]..................

WHAT makes a bum "good" in mens eyes?.........

QUOTE]


Natasha Hamilton was voted rear of the year in 2003

Past winner and my all time favourite - Felicity Kendall

under par
2nd-March-2005, 10:59 AM
Sorry to interrupt all this man talk and male bonding but may I ask the million dollar question? :D

WHAT makes a bum "good" in mens eyes?
Try and keep it clean! :whistle:

Thank you for being so kind as to enlighten us regarding this quandry :flower: :kiss:

:rofl: :rofl:

Angelique this is almost good enough question for another thread.

So to keep it brief!!(or in briefs!!!) :yum:

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. :flower:

And this is especilally true when it comes to womens bottoms.

There is a man out there for every type of bottom owned by a woman. :yeah:

El Salsero Gringo
2nd-March-2005, 11:20 AM
There is a man out there for every type of bottom owned by a woman. Can I volunteer to be that man? Is prior experience required? Or can one get by on just enthusiasm? Where do I get an application form?


(pick me! pick me! pick me!)

Clive Long
2nd-March-2005, 11:42 AM
I saw a different one where they cunningly put a miniture camera in a woman's cleavage and then proceeded to watch all the pervs looking into the camera when talking to the woman - genius :rofl:

Clever, but then if one wasn't supposed to look there would be no low-cut blouses. Not that I'm complaining of course ....

and at the risk of taking this thread right on to the roof, on top of a flag-pole, let alone upstairs



Kylie


... the Agent Provocateur advert. Still my beating heart.



There is a man out there for every type of bottom owned by a woman


My vote for "forum quote of the year. UP you have been duly repped.

I voted face but I realise I'm a closet bottom man.

As written before, the female form is an object of infinite beauty and variety and rewards detailed study. SG, get in line. Age before beauty.

CRL

Aleks
2nd-March-2005, 11:49 AM
Jennifer Lopez
Kylie

:what:

They are 2 VERY different shaped derrieres......and both beautiful.

MartinHarper
2nd-March-2005, 11:54 AM
Those researchers postulated that the men are checking out the woman for mating potential, and the women are checking out how interested the man is in her.

It's a little known fact that creeps are just normal guys with a very poor memory for breasts.

Dreadful Scathe
2nd-March-2005, 12:02 PM
I know you'd want me to pick you up on that one - I thought I'd tell you quietly.


Thanks then for not making it public ;)


Just thought of another quick poll - women with muscles - yes or no ? :)

TheTramp
2nd-March-2005, 12:06 PM
Just thought of another quick poll - women with muscles - yes or no ? :)
Well. Obviously yes. Or they'd be dead! Which would be a bad thing. :flower:

Sheepman
2nd-March-2005, 12:45 PM
After a little consideration I voted for "smile" and this was partly based on an experience last night.
After doing the socialising bit, it was about time I got down to dancing, there was nobody I knew who was available, so the nearest 2 ladies to me were up for split second scrutiny. I'm sure it was the smile that made me choose the lady I did. She was in all black, (in a darkened room) so it wasn't until we got dancing, and they became unavoidable :blush: that I was aware of her huge boobs. The smile continued through the dance, and the next one, and she was a great dancer.
Later I was recommending her to others, and one friend asked, "Do you mean the one with pony tail and glasses?" I had to check, because I hadn't noticed either!!

Later in the evening another stranger asked me to dance, I had noticed her earlier, and it was probably her cleavage that stood out, but she was wearing a low cut light coloured top.

But I think the title of the poll is misleading, based on the "someone standing at the side of the dance floor" premise. Shouldn't it be "What do you first notice?" Because what makes a woman attractive has far less to do with physical attributes as far as I'm concerned.

Greg

angelique
2nd-March-2005, 01:11 PM
Many thabks to all young lovely young gentleman for taking the time to answer my question in such a scientific and objective way :whistle: , it's about as clear as mud now and I feel so much more enlightened and educated , will be able to sleep better at night for knowing :rofl: :rofl:


Angelique this is almost good enough question for another thread.

So to keep it brief!!(or in briefs!!!) :yum:

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. :flower:

And this is especilally true when it comes to womens bottoms.

There is a man out there for every type of bottom owned by a woman. :yeah:
:yeah: :yeah:
Would have started my own thread as you so brilliantly suggested but alas kind sir, I don't know how to start one! :really: :blush:

Go on under par I dare ya to say it...."typical woman" hee hee :wink: :hug:

under par
2nd-March-2005, 01:14 PM
:yeah: :yeah:
Would have started my own thread as you so brilliantly suggested but alas kind sir, I don't know how to start one! :really: :blush:

Go on under par I dare ya to say it...."typical woman" hee hee :wink: :hug:
Okay . Just for you.........TYPICAL WOMAN :rofl:

I would like to add in my defence I do not hold this view I was just helping a lady! :flower:

Gadget
2nd-March-2005, 02:12 PM
I'm red-blooded male: what makes a woman attractive for me is if she's female. :blush:

Age? Well, I do have "Too Old" and "Too Young" warning bells, but they can be over-ridden.

Apperance? I don't find it attractive when their belly is bigger than their boobs. Bad teeth is also a turn-off. I also dislike limbs that are just bone with skin hanging off.
My preference is for "top heavy" ladies, then hourglass, and lastly pear shaped but I wouldn't consider discounting anyone for having any particular shape. I like fairly long hair - too much gets in the way, the face has to have some very feminine features to carry off short hair well {IMHO} - again, I wouldn't discriminate on hairstyle.
I must admit that I like good complexion - some of the reason is because mine is so poor, but most is tactile :devil:
A smile is nice - I don't like people who look serious all the time or who scowl a lot.

Poise? I much rather ladies with posture rather than hunched. Gliding rather than stomping.

Attire? I know women who could wear binliners and they would look dressed in designer satin, others that could wear the latest high fashion and they look scruffy. It's about how you wear things rather than what you wear.

Smell? Smelling nice. I don't object to a little bit of sweat, but stale sweat or hair stinking of smoke is a real turn-off.

So in general, if you're female, then there is a good chance that there is some attraction there.

{Oh, and I agree - there is definetly something aluring about an expanse of shoulder and the curve between shoulder and neck...:cool: )

Dreadful Scathe
2nd-March-2005, 03:09 PM
I'm red-blooded male: what makes a woman attractive for me is if she's female.

This would have been more believable if you hadnt then written several paragraphs on what you find attractive ;)


I also dislike limbs that are just bone with skin hanging off.

I also draw the line at zombies.

:)

Dreadful Scathe
2nd-March-2005, 03:11 PM
Well. Obviously yes. Or they'd be dead! Which would be a bad thing. :flower:
bloody pedant - you should be a lawyer :)

El Salsero Gringo
2nd-March-2005, 03:17 PM
I don't object to a little bit of sweatNor I. A little moistness, if I may say, is like the perfect garnish on a dish of haute cuisine.


there is definitely something aluring about an expanse of shoulder and the curve between shoulder and neckThat there is. I can feel myself reaching to twist my Terry Thomas moustache at the very thought.

Dreadful Scathe
2nd-March-2005, 03:26 PM
That there is. I can feel myself reaching to twist my Terry Thomas moustache at the very thought.

Well, hellooo ladies <twirl>



I look deeply suspicious in a moustache :)

Gadget
2nd-March-2005, 03:40 PM
This would have been more believable if you hadnt then written several paragraphs on what you find attractive ;) Note that most are things I find unattractive.

Dreadful Scathe
2nd-March-2005, 03:43 PM
Note that most are things I find unattractive.

Only most and by implication the opposite is what you find attractive :)

drathzel
2nd-March-2005, 03:46 PM
I agree with Cheeks and Aleks here. There are so many different views of what you all like, so we shall make it easier...... Who is your ideal woman? (yes for those who are married or in relationships its you partner, but can we just stick to someone famous!) :hug:

bigdjiver
2nd-March-2005, 04:11 PM
There was an actor called Bernard Miles that did a comic country bumpkin monologue in which he detailed all of the inadequacies of his latest date, slagging off in comic fashion her hair, eyes, nose, mouth, neck, breasts, stomach, legs and feet. He ended it with a beaming smile and "rest of her wuz alright, tho'".

Dance Demon
2nd-March-2005, 04:18 PM
I'm red-blooded male: what makes a woman attractive for me is if she's female. :blush:



A pulse is often quite handy as well ...eh Gadget :wink: :D

El Salsero Gringo
2nd-March-2005, 04:37 PM
A pulse is often quite handy as well ...eh Gadget :wink: :DBut not obligatory, surely? We are talking about, in the words of the thread originator, when "shes not dancing or moving". Nobody said she had to be alive.

Gadget
2nd-March-2005, 05:17 PM
A pulse is often quite handy as well ...eh Gadget :wink: :D
Now we're into theology: is a person still a person if they are dead? :wink:

(And I think DS covered that one with the Zombies comment :))



Only most and by implication the opposite is what you find attractive :)True, but I figured that by saying I don't like X would save the billion other paragraps that list what I do like :grin: See: I can be concise!

Bangers & Mash
2nd-March-2005, 07:59 PM
I agree with Cheeks and Aleks here. There are so many different views of what you all like, so we shall make it easier...... Who is your ideal woman? (yes for those who are married or in relationships its you partner, but can we just stick to someone famous!) :hug:

Bridget Fonda
Monica Potter
Mila Kunis

Yogi_Bear
2nd-March-2005, 09:59 PM
OK, I ticked quite a few of the boxes on this one, but if I have to be honest one of the main things is.....is she likely to want to dance with me? This assessment - assuming she is a stranger - is an amalgam of attractiveness, dress, body posture, and so on...and the more I like the music the more likely I am to feel confident about asking.. :innocent:

Bangers & Mash
3rd-March-2005, 10:50 AM
Just realised as I took the tram into work today that there are two real things that do it for me - the shape of the face, and girls in baseball caps! :wink:

stewart38
3rd-March-2005, 04:53 PM
But I think the title of the poll is misleading, based on the "someone standing at the side of the dance floor" premise. Shouldn't it be "What do you first notice?" Because what makes a woman attractive has far less to do with physical attributes as far as I'm concerned.

Greg

The pole surely is about what 'draws' you to her ? being drawn to someone must be base on 'attraction', im not talking just about beauty (Im talking about the first few seconds). If you find out she likes fish keeping then that maybe a bonus :sick:

The fact she has no eyes in this pole would put me off :sick:

CJ
3rd-March-2005, 05:09 PM
Who is your ideal woman? :hug:


Call me shallow, but Salma.

Good looking, without having met the girl she seems VERY intelligent. Oh, AND she can dance... :devil:

Good looking?!?! :eek: Well, I always was the master of understatement!! :wink:

cheeks
5th-March-2005, 04:40 PM
Thankyou for the rep Phil :nice: :hug:


Although it does appear not many males out there had any idea what I was talking about :sad:


Or maybe it was all down to chosing not to................... :wink: :whistle:


Cheeks :flower:

drathzel
5th-March-2005, 11:36 PM
she seems VERY intelligent.



Cuz for 9 out of 10 guys, this is what they think when the look at her....yeah ok, i believe you! :whistle:

Clive Long
6th-March-2005, 02:03 AM
I have just re-discovered another of the many dimensions that make a woman attractive

Voice.

I have wanted to be lead astray many more times than I have been lead astray by a woman with a soft Irish accent. That voice turns me to mushy putty

drathzel
6th-March-2005, 02:17 AM
I have just re-discovered another of the many dimensions that make a woman attractive

Voice.

I have wanted to be lead astray many more times than I have been lead astray by a woman with a soft Irish accent. That voice turns me to mushy putty

If you want a soft irish accent dont go for an northern irish gal, are accents are a littler harsher :whistle:

Clive Long
6th-March-2005, 02:22 AM
If you want a soft irish accent dont go for an northern irish gal, are accents are a littler harsher :whistle:

I am trying to resist an Ulster woman at the moment - and failing miserably. Although you are right the southern accent (for me) has the edge rather than an edge.

under par
6th-March-2005, 04:57 AM
I am trying to resist an Ulster woman at the moment - and failing miserably. Although you are right the southern accent (for me) has the edge rather than an edge.


A FUNNY THING JUST HAPPENED.....

I read the above post and saw Clive's avatar.....and the word "BROGUE" was indellibly imprinted on the screen!!!!

Whats all that about?

Clive Long
6th-March-2005, 10:40 AM
A FUNNY THING JUST HAPPENED.....

I read the above post and saw Clive's avatar.....and the word "BROGUE" was indellibly imprinted on the screen!!!!

Whats all that about?

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

MartinHarper
8th-March-2005, 01:03 AM
The pole surely is about what 'draws' you to her ?

No, the pole is what draws me to her.

stewart38
8th-March-2005, 03:06 PM
No, the pole is what draws me to her.


So she is a lap dancer ?

No one would ever want me for my spelling or typo's :sad:

Bangers & Mash
8th-March-2005, 08:03 PM
I have just re-discovered another of the many dimensions that make a woman attractive

Voice.

I have wanted to be lead astray many more times than I have been lead astray by a woman with a soft Irish accent. That voice turns me to mushy putty


Good point.

First of all, the good. For example, I am certain that Laura San Giacoma (sex lies and video tape) has a voice that is the resonant frequency of the family jewels.

And secondly, I met a girl in Edinburgh once - tall, stunning, nice frame, pretty face and the deepest voice you have ever heard - made me look straight for the Adams apple! :whistle:

cheeks
12th-March-2005, 02:49 PM
While spending some time looking over threads on the forum I noticed that although many posts on this thread made suggestions it was still unresolved and we never really managed to pin point what makes women attractive?


Do you really know?

Is is it just physical attraction?

The voice ?

Being lost in her eyes/ smile?

Her ability to dance?

Or that overall connection that you still can't describe?


Come on guys us women like to know :whistle:

or alternatively ladies what do you feel makes us attractive......... :wink:

ducasi
12th-March-2005, 04:08 PM
While spending some time looking over threads on the forum I noticed that although many posts on this thread made suggestions it was still unresolved and we never really managed to pin point what makes women attractive?

...

Come on guys us women like to know :whistle: I think I'll have a go at answering this unanswerable question...

As we make our way through the world we come across women we find attractive. As you don't actually know them yet it can only be about how she looks.

Maybe it's simply a physical thing - "wow, look at the size of those..." or similar.

More often for me it's because they are first, pretty, and second that they remind me of someone I already know whom I like. So it's not so much you're attracted to the random passing woman as you're attracted by the memory of someone else. Someone you feel or felt you have/had a bond with.

Of course making that bond depends on a lot. There's always two parts to that. If you excuse me for using a technical term, it's about "look and feel".

Taking "look" first. For me, beyond that I just simply prefer to look at nice-looking people, it's all in the smile and the eyes. I can be knocked out at 20 paces by the right girl's smile.

Other things like voice and other physicality are always a factor - height, shape, whatever. More often though, these are only important in a negative way. I hate some accents. (Love Irish accents though! :yum: ) I prefer girls of a certain height, and I prefer girls who are sensible enough to keep themselves at a reasonable weight.

But looks can change over time and how you feel about a particular look can also change. Which is where we get into the "feel" part.

It's all about how a girl makes me feel. If she makes me feel that I'm worth something, if she makes me feel good about myself, if she makes me feel that I can talk to her and tell her anything, if she makes me feel that I want to spend the rest of my existence with her. Then that's what really matters.

Once you've got that, I tend to find how I feel about a particular "look" will change.

And that's all there is to it. Hope this helps.

cheeks
12th-March-2005, 04:18 PM
:wink:

Now a reply like that I did not expect :drool:

:hug:

Bangers & Mash
13th-March-2005, 05:45 PM
I think I'll have a go at answering this unanswerable question...

As we make our way through the world we come across women we find attractive. As you don't actually know them yet it can only be about how she looks.


I can feel a car analogy coming on, and then a few more pins in the mattel Bangers & Mash dummy :whistle:

When we're younger, we all hanker after a Ferrari, but we'll drive anything that's available.

As we get into our twenties we get the opportunity to drive a couple of real classy cars, but can't help reminiscing about the car that was a bit rough around the edges and that we shared so many adventures with.

By the time you hit your thirties, you'd still like to drive a ferrari just to say you'd done it, but owning one would be a nightmare and the additional costs that come with a ferrari would just be impractical. Instead, you'd be more than happy with a good, cheap, reliable model that always starts first time and goes forever.

:innocent:

Zebra Woman
13th-March-2005, 05:49 PM
By the time you hit your thirties, you'd still like to drive a ferrari just to say you'd done it, but owning one would be a nightmare and the additional costs that come with a ferrari would just be impractical. Instead, you'd be more than happy with a good, cheap, reliable model that always starts first time and goes forever.

:innocent:

:yeah: Reliable starting is very important. :innocent:


You wouldn't want to have to call on the services on 'The Man In The Brown Jumper' . :really: :eek: :tears:

Would you Bangers? :devil:

drathzel
13th-March-2005, 05:51 PM
I can feel a car analogy coming on, and then a few more pins in the mattel Bangers & Mash dummy :whistle:

When we're younger, we all hanker after a Ferrari, but we'll drive anything that's available.

As we get into our twenties we get the opportunity to drive a couple of real classy cars, but can't help reminiscing about the car that was a bit rough around the edges and that we shared so many adventures with.

By the time you hit your thirties, you'd still like to drive a ferrari just to say you'd done it, but owning one would be a nightmare and the additional costs that come with a ferrari would just be impractical. Instead, you'd be more than happy with a good, cheap, reliable model that always starts first time and goes forever.

:innocent:

Nice analagy! I'll be quite happy to be the cheap reliable one than the high maintenance expensive one any day!

I'll save my pins for later! :hug:

cheeks
13th-March-2005, 08:15 PM
By the time you hit your thirties, you'd still like to drive a ferrari just to say you'd done it, but owning one would be a nightmare and the additional costs that come with a ferrari would just be impractical. Instead, you'd be more than happy with a good, cheap, reliable model that always starts first time and goes forever.

:innocent:



would be a bit of a nightmare fitting the kids into the back of a ferrari to :rofl:

drathzel
14th-March-2005, 10:01 AM
Ok Guys,

The journey to work was long and tedious and with not much else to occupy my thoughts my mind wandered to this thread.

Is independence and strength good qualities in a woman? Is this not what men have always wanted. They complain when their partner is too clingy or too needy. However it is the same women who are independent and strong that are the single ones.

Do men really want an independent women or do they secretly want to be depended on and needed? :confused:

Gadget
14th-March-2005, 01:45 PM
Is independence and strength good qualities in a woman? Is this not what men have always wanted. They complain when their partner is too clingy or too needy. However it is the same women who are independent and strong that are the single ones.

Do men really want an independent women or do they secretly want to be depended on and needed? :confused:
:rolleyes: yes for some, no for others. Both for just about everyone else. :D

ducasi
14th-March-2005, 02:12 PM
Is independence and strength good qualities in a woman? Is this not what men have always wanted. They complain when their partner is too clingy or too needy.I can't talk for all men, but I like independent, feisty women. :wink:


However it is the same women who are independent and strong that are the single ones.That's the problem - independent, feisty women typically aren't looking for relationships. :tears:


Do men really want an independent women or do they secretly want to be depended on and needed? :confused: A bit of both. I'd like to find an independent woman who can still admit that she needs me. (This works both ways of course - I'm pretty self-reliant, but I can still appreciate the support a good woman can give me.)

Now would somebody give me a hug!

Northants Girly
14th-March-2005, 02:16 PM
That's the problem - independent, feisty women typically aren't looking for relationships. :tears: Yes we are!! :grin:


Now would somebody give me a hug!Me too! :devil:

curvy lady
14th-March-2005, 02:25 PM
Quote: That's the problem - independent, feisty women typically aren't looking for relationships. :tears:

WOT!!!!!! yes we are! ;-)

Gadget
14th-March-2005, 02:26 PM
Now would somebody give me a hug!
:hug: (although I think it would feel better from Drathzel)

Me too!:devil:
:hug::hug::hug: {you're prettier than him :wink:}

drathzel
14th-March-2005, 02:35 PM
That's the problem - independent, feisty women typically aren't looking for relationships. :tears:

Now would somebody give me a hug!

says who?

:hug:

(oh and :hug: for gadget for being as lovely as ever)

ducasi
14th-March-2005, 03:33 PM
:hug:Awww, thanks! :flower:

Hugs all round! :hug: :hug: :hug:


you're prettier than him :wink:Maybe in your eyes!

Anyway, most of the independent, feisty women I meet either aren't looking for a relationship or else they're already in one! :sad:

Either that, or maybe it's just a line 'cos they don't fancy me. :tears:

Dreadful Scathe
14th-March-2005, 04:19 PM
this is where I come in spray riot foam over everyone and leave :)

drathzel
14th-March-2005, 06:56 PM
Awww, thanks! :flower:

Hugs all round! :hug: :hug: :hug:

Maybe in your eyes!

Anyway, most of the independent, feisty women I meet either aren't looking for a relationship or else they're already in one! :sad:

Either that, or maybe it's just a line 'cos they don't fancy me. :tears:
Its the same line they are using on me! :tears:

drathzel
14th-March-2005, 06:57 PM
this is where I come in spray riot foam over everyone and leave :)


:clap: :clap: Yeahy foam party!!!!! :clap: :clap:

Little Monkey
14th-March-2005, 07:18 PM
That's the problem - independent, feisty women typically aren't looking for relationships. :tears:



Well, being a shy little wallflower myself, I don't know what independent, feisty women want...... But I'd like a partner! Or at least a hug! Or I'll settle for a dance........ :whistle:

LM :flower:

cheeks
15th-March-2005, 01:47 AM
I can't talk for all men, but I like independent, feisty women. :wink:

That's the problem - independent, feisty women typically aren't looking for relationships. :tears:

A bit of both. I'd like to find an independent woman who can still admit that she needs me. (This works both ways of course - I'm pretty self-reliant, but I can still appreciate the support a good woman can give me.)

Now would somebody give me a hug!


mm.......

Single-tick
independent- tick
feisty-tick( although that possibly is the redhead bit)
self reliant-tick
Ducasi I need you.................. :hug: :hug: :hug:


:wink:

ducasi
15th-March-2005, 10:11 AM
mm.......

Single-tick
independent- tick
feisty-tick( although that possibly is the redhead bit)
self reliant-tick
Ducasi I need you.................. :hug: :hug: :hug:


:wink: Love the redhead bit. :wink: But wouldn't Gadget be jealous? :what:

:flower:

Gadget
15th-March-2005, 12:36 PM
yes, but unfortunatly I have to put a cross at the first one rather than a tic :tears:

CJ
15th-March-2005, 12:51 PM
yes, but unfortunatly I have to put a cross at the first one rather than a tic :tears:

UNfortunately?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!??!?!!?!?!?

:confused:

Gadget
15th-March-2005, 01:52 PM
UNfortunately?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!??!?!!?!?!?

:confused:
yea,... you've no idea how much enjoyment that puts a stop to. *sigh* {:devil:}

cheeks
18th-March-2005, 06:05 PM
Love the redhead bit. :wink: :

:wink: :hug:





But wouldn't Gadget be jealous? :what:
:flower:

Well like Gadget said he is one of those unavailable men!!! :tears:

:flower:

TheTramp
27th-May-2005, 09:59 AM
yea,... you've no idea how much enjoyment that puts a stop to. *sigh* {:devil:}
I take it that Mrs. Gadget doesn't read the forum then!! :devil:

Gadget
27th-May-2005, 12:39 PM
:devil::D nope :wink:

mick
4th-June-2005, 02:59 PM
Ladies, don't stand for this guff!
Look, howzbout this for a poll?


What makes a man attractive?

pot belly
baldness
bad breath
B.O.
No dress sense.
White socks

The Ferret
4th-June-2005, 05:31 PM
Let's see how I measure up then

pot belly -- yep
baldness -- yep, developing
bad breath -- nope
B.O. -- not normally but can be arranged
No dress sense. -- yep
White socks -- only in the gym

I can also do London accent, severe stumpiness and an evil grimace.

Not too bad then :-)

mick
9th-June-2005, 04:08 PM
Let's see how I measure up then

pot belly -- yep
baldness -- yep, developing
bad breath -- nope
B.O. -- not normally but can be arranged
No dress sense. -- yep
White socks -- only in the gym

I can also do London accent, severe stumpiness and an evil grimace.

Not too bad then :-)

Help is at hand.
Enrol now at the Whitley Bay Academy of Musicality Summer School, which will include a module entitled "Elocution For Men" aimed at Cockneys, Brummies, Scousers and Jocks.

mick
14th-June-2005, 10:54 AM
Ladies, don't stand for this guff!
Look, howzbout this for a poll?


What makes a man attractive?

pot belly
baldness
bad breath
B.O.
No dress sense.
White socks

By special request, at The Whitley Bay Academy of Musicality Summer School, there will be a module entitled "GSOH", for men only.
But book soon, as there are only a few places left.

mick
14th-June-2005, 10:56 AM
Ladies, don't stand for this guff!
Look, howzbout this for a poll?


What makes a man attractive?

pot belly
baldness
bad breath
B.O.
No dress sense.
White socks

By special request, at The Whitley Bay Academy of Musicality Summer School 2005, there will be a module entitled "GSOH", for men only.
Our personal trainers can also give advice on diet, exercise and personal hygiene.
But book soon, as there are only a few places left.